On The 8th Day
I've been on CS for 8 days today. For the past 7 days I have been reading a lot of content from other CS members. I had many blog ideas for my first blog to say hello. I'm not sure I even want to share any of my insight with CS members?From what I have read in the forums and blogs makes me believe there are a few people here that saturate them with negativity. People that disregard courtesy and tact to punish everyone with pitiful hostility. It seems no matter what anyone writes it warrants retaliation from a select few.
This is a site designed to allow you to put your best image out there so someone that might be looking for you might find you. Anything you write or post on this site is a way for them to understand you better.
What I see is a lot of people that can't take life seriously and stay focused on the task at hand.
You are on a dating site. You are hostile, angry with the opposite gender and narcissistic. What is to be gained by spreading hatred? If you sow the seed of hatred you will only reap hatred.
I have read many blogs at many places. What I see here are not blogs, they are quips of insanity posted by shallow, insecure people full of delusions. If I decide to post blogs here in the future, I will turn off comments because if you want to talk to me about my blog you can contact me from my profile.
My blogs will deal with me and be about my views on life as I see it. They are a tool to allow someone that is interested in finding out how I think and feel to understand me.
I post from my home computer so writing is not an issue, neither is reading and viewing large listings at once. I have a phone but I don't use it to post. I am typing on a full keyboard. For most, what I type will be too much scrolling.
So be it.
I hope you all find someone special in your life and no longer need to use online dating sites to express yourself. If I find someone, I will leave and never come back. BUT...isn't that how it is supposed to work?
Comments (23)
I hope you find who you are looking for...
Most often, in blogs it's referred to as a 'singles site'.
Your observations may explain why that is so.
Insignia appears to be that of Navy PO2. No?
I look forward to your blogs, but I hope they are not blocked from comments as I don't open those ones
I like interactive ones where people can share and discuss their viewpoints openly.
BTW: Hi Miclee
You got a reader here with or without comments allowed.
Agreed Molly, I like comments.
Many that blog are not seeking opportunities for dating,and have been on this site for years.
They venture into forums,poetry or take a break on occasion.
The past week doesn't reflect the blogland's greater participation, as the Holiday Season wraps up the focus will be Romantic preludes to Valentine's Day. I imagine most dating sites will see an influx of Debutantes.
Enjoy your stay here. Patti
Also...comments can be interesting for others to read if they stay on topic and it's up to you to keep them in order.
Wishing you a good time on CS.
Right You Are, Dani!
A good general rule that's routinely flung down and danced upon!
Hi Daniela!
3 months after I deleted my 1st profile, head shaking about all the nutjobs here.
I started reading the blogs and created a new profile, trying to keep it " simple and normal" and realise that there are many serious cases of mental instability of few members, so I just played along.
My first comments and blogs were genuine and sincere,but very quickly I learnt it was a bad move.
Happy blogging and sure you will be suprised!
and is appreciated.
I am looking forward to reading what life experiences you will share with us.
some things you may read come from people who have been here a long time and we long timers
Sit back and enjoy the ride whilst waiting to find a lady
"there are many serious cases of mental instability of few members, so I just played along."
Yes, there are a few members (probably more than a few) that have serious mental issues. Most are not even aware of what they portray to others with their words and actions. Just playing along is IMO the wrong way to conduct a meaniful conversation. I was always taught to lead by example even in the face of adversity. By bending to the will of the few and not being yourself in all cases are you not allowing others to control you?
I call this being a sheeple. Sheeple are people that allow themselves to be lead by others whether on purpose or by conditioning.
"My first comments and blogs were genuine and sincere,but very quickly I learnt it was a bad move."
It is NEVER a 'bad move' to be yourself. Without YOU in your life there is nothing. Nobody on this planet should be more important than you.
Here is something I say that has great meaning to me. You will see me quote this many times if you watch my comments.
Intelligence is the ability to reason. Wisdom is the application of experience. Smart is wisdom without experience.
Associations with other people builds wisdom through experience. Choosing the correct associations to increase your wisdom is smart. Knowing this is intelligence.
Thanx for the welcome
ashlander,
"An interesting introduction, and your courteous manner was also duly noted
and is appreciated.
I am looking forward to reading what life experiences you will share with us."
You're welcome and Thanx, I am composed of both good and bad life experiences. They are all what has made me who I am today. My goal is to relate mostly the good experiences as an uplifting positive take on life but don't for one minute think that it is all good. We all need bad things to happen to us if we are to learn.
Those who i share my private thoughts with know I'm not intelligent...just creative,the use by date is longer than smartness.
You'll note that two advertising banners divide the blogs into three sections.
Bloggers who consistently(!) have two blogs per section going are essentially confirming that they have compulsion issues and no life.
That would be the time to stop thinking "Dating Site"; it will have become a "Singles Site".
Just sayin'.
You have as mich a right to have your opinions and comment as do I.
I will not try to tell you that you are wrong.
I will not attempt to change your mind or dictate how you think.
Please don't think that I will allow you to do so with me.
Oh well
It's been said, maybe not within your 8 days, that CS is our Cheers, a kind of local where you can pop in and everyone knows you. Some like you, some hate you, some cut you dead and some are aggressive and moody. Some aren't here often enough and some never go away. It's like a box of mixed chocolates, this place.
I've been flatter than a flat thing and come moping into CS and been cheered up. I've popped in with a chip on my shoulder, and there's always someone ready to knock it off.
I don't normally lecture