What would you do????

You met someone and have gone out a few times. You enjoy seeing this person and have fun when you go out, however, that person is 12 years younger than you and they have a 6 year old kid. Your kids are grown and well, your youngest is in high school and you don't really want to go down that road again. Do you...

A. keep seeing the person because you have a good time when your with them and don't worry about the future at this point.

B. End it before you start to develop feelings, because you know there is no way you want to deal with kids again.

C. Keep dating and see if you change your mind about the kid, even though you know the chances of that are slim to none.

D. Other....
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Hi there Luvontherocks, wave

I think it all depends on one's living circumstances or where one is in their life. It could be a okay situation for some, but not for others.

I think, if it just doesn't feel right for some reason, then your heart is not really in it, or something within your soul is telling you it's not quite right.

Maybe follow this instinct and do what you feel is right for you. Why stay in a relationship if you're not totally comfortable and happy about it?

Whatever happens, I wish you lots of joy and smiles, everyday. applause
You don't want to deal with kids and that is your final determination....you must end the relationship.


Why drag somebody down with their child to boot...if you are going to have negative feelings because of the kid?
Love, its complicated, hard to know it. Best to you
LOTR... Come back already.. wink
L., good blog topic. Not so long ago, a decade or two younger than me would have been cause to kneel and thank the Goddess. But it's become a tedious chore to separate the wheat (class act ladies) from the chaff (gold-diggers, wannabee talentless "artistes", and so on). But with so many possibilities here on CS, vetting can be fun and educational. BTW, first prize---one week in Milwaukee. Second prize, two weeks..... I recall , however, with some delight, my working years in Green Bay---neither green, nor much of a bay, as I recall. But Door County rocks. Aa.
Resurrecting an phantom blogger seems kind of like .....? incubus...laugh
Who is renting space in your head today?

So I wonder how it all panned out for her... Did she stay, did she leave... The kid may have turned 7 by now, so maybe that puts a different spin on things.
an old book reprinting!smoking

Ash

such a tributeelephant
Welcome back, Imba hug
Ash... phantom or not she was online about 10 hours ago.. don't ask me how I know.. hole

grin


I do miss Ben though... wonder how my noble steed is doing.. moping
hi molly

dancing hug

still blurry and gorgeous!daisy
baig

where did you got the BAIG fromdancing
Like magic..those words -love of the rocks and men appear.good one ,right Molly.rolling on the floor laughing cheers
That's royalty IBA.. you of all people should know better.. cheers
Ash.. it was about time there was some non blurred action.. dunno
baig

always room of learning new dimensions to a MEANING!

so you are not bringing up something new deariebatting
Ash

next time i will be careful with the timingshock smoking batting
Dearie??? Dude... which side of the bed did you wake up today? doh

And no.. not bringing anything new.. I'm good with old and familiar.. grin
talking about SIDEmoping moping popcorn nerd playball

i heard an audio note played with the word Pastor or Bast...

be brave and spit out the new definition!cheers grin
Ash

it is bit tiring!

round the clock.....cant say 24/7 as today we have 24+1/7cool
IBA.. I think the word you're looking for is bar-stud.. rolling on the floor laughing
Royal Derriere.. hahahaha classic!! rolling on the floor laughing
genius

let me do the jokes here plzgrin

now lets get back to BAIG definition?popcorn violin
So have you taken up the role of the resident jester then? applause

I think I'm redefining the royal name.. should be written in the virtual history books.. grin
combo it with Kings hand......just to make it an era HITwink grin
Bbbbuurrnn!laugh
Now that's a thought!! Although.. I think I'd rather be the queen's hand.. if you know what I mean.. wink

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grin grin grin

tell me who wants the jester rolebatting

popcorn
Ash.. that just reminded me of "that 70's show".. loved it.. laugh
Goodness what a difference a few months makes - several missing names on the blog comments.

I have friends who are older than I am - 10 to 15 years is not a big deal. I have friends who are younger - again, 10 to 15 years does not stop us being friends. Suddenly that's a problem when you're dating? It isn't. You like, or you don't like.

Took me a while to realize a friend I was blethering with more and more often - superbright, argumentative, challenging, interesting - was actually keen, and that was a bit of a shock. He's 15 years younger than me. His daughter - he started his family later than I did - was 9 at the time, and my daughter was 30. Yes,do the math, his daughter could EASILY have been my grandchild. Have a thing, or back hastily away? I knew it wasn't ever going to be serious, but he was a huge boost to my ego at a time when I needed a boost, not every relationship has to be serious to be worthwhile.

I never met her. He only saw her every other Sunday and the time was precious to them both. In fact his previous GF, in their whole 3-year relationship, never met his daughter either. At first it was because it would cause issues with his ex-wife, and then because it worked as an arrangement.

Would I have wanted to meet her? Hell no. I'm with you on that one - been there, done that. It worked for us.

If you are incapable of enjoying a relationship unless it is pointed towards permanent, then no, of course don't date him. Since you wrote this blog yonks ago, it would be seriously interesting to know what you decided, and why?

popcorn
Biff.. if your comment doesn't bring her back I reckon nothing else will.. thumbs up

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