Kevinism...the not so rare teenage disease..
Kevinism is a disease that came about during the 90's, before its appearance teenagers use to help around he house, dry up, even clean their dads car.These days the condition has gotten worse. Since my son turned double figures I could see the change, hair seems greasy, longer, smelly. Then there is the clothes that seem to grow from the bedroom floor.
What's most worrying about this affliction is the tomato ketchup smothered plates that adorn the kitchen worktops, its like Alzheimer's for the young, you can say the same thing every day but they forget. What's amazing is that whilst having this condition, they seem to know the value of money, how to obtain it, by asking via whatsapp, instead of asking face to face.
Do you have Kevinism in your family ? for girls its Karenism, maybe you can share your stories and we can get much needed therapy by sharing..
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he vacuums, he wash dishes but I told him not to do it coz don't want him breaking the glasses
he tidy his room, sometimes even my room..
he tidy the small sitting room and pick up my shoes
he also loves helping whem im cooking and doing laundry
he makes a good cup of coffee
gives me nice foot massage from time to time, specially when he want to ask for something...
he ask for money face to face....very nicely, with hugs and kisses....sometimes with tears
Seriously, your son is just being normal, the more you speak the less he will listen, if money is wanted via whatsapp then say no, he will have a tantrum but will soon get over it.
he said ONCE but I doubt it...every time he I ask and tease him, he starts wrapping his arms around me and hide his face saying " mom, stop it...it's private"
I did open his door a few times and saw him picking up tissues, told him to conserve tissues
I like teasing him, he's a good boy really growing up in a very nice responsible way, his dad always thank me for that...
But your son is right, it is his private business
Meanie
I did not read any boasting and or bragging on either me or CH on sharing how we raise our children.
And by the way we do generally provide a very loving and most responsible home. Having lived in both a very poor country and a wealthy country made me realize how different are the values are specially in raising children. Here in America for instance, children can talk and or yell to their parents, while we in the Philippines, right or wrong doesn't matter, we can't ever talk back to our elders. Simply respect is what counts, not that children here are not respectful but it is part of the traditions we are brought up with. I am lucky with my Irish husband of 28 years he loved the way we Filipinos raised our children as he met thousands of Filipino families and yes he boast to his English and Irish parents how better the way we raise our children. Of course there are exceptions. But Ian, if your son's act bother you then I suggest maybe you should start telling him how you feel. Therapy is good but first hand discipline is better. My opinion,.
With due respect kneowing other people's way of life creates understanding instead of crude judgments just because we share our reality. We're not boasting. That's all.
everyone is free to voice their opinion, that's what blogging is all about
I like to voice my opinion too but try not to sound judgemental...I believe it's to my advantage knowing the person I'm exchanging opinion with before i fire from the hip...well, that's just me
hey no need for apologies...it's part of blogging...I like reading others' opinion also, I've learned many good things here all these years I'm blogging here
as for parents bragging about their kids, I know exactly what you meant...I had neighbor back home in Phils who bragged about how perfect their daughter is. graduated from HS with honors, goes to church every Sunday...goes to a very nice University, taking up Engineering, , very serious with her studies, no monkey business like other teenagers...one night she complaint of terrible stomach pain...everybody was shocked, she's about to deliver a baby their goes the perfect daugher
that shut them up
I never had a open relationship growing up with my parents because it wasn't a open environment. I got all my information from my friends and off the street. Because of that, I spent my teens and 20s blitzed out of my mind rebelling until I finally grew up.
CH's son will never have to learn that way. He will get the right information and will make far better choices.
Unfortunately, most harm to kids, or adults, doesn't happen down dark alleys, but from people they know and trust.
At least your son will have a more rounded view of the world than others will have.
I hate braggers and people who always talk themselves and their families up.
The more they talk though, the less I believe
The boxes were probably empty
I like to listen to my mother in law when she was still with us...she would tell us who among her children did great and who were the ones giving her lots of headache while growing up...she raised 9 of them, they all turned out to be good children for her, made her feel so loved till her last breath...
I have a friend her boasting how beautiful her daughters are, they always win in beauty contest in their school and community, their achievements, I know the girls very well and I'm also happy that they are doing so great...what annoys me is when their mom exaggerates things and over and over again...I guess it's the motherly pride talking
being open to my kid enables me to know the kind of friends he hang out with...for instance he told me that some of the boys he played started smoking, I was able to warn him to stay away from them...he knows that what they're doing was wrong and I confirmed it...and said Yes, mom I'm avoiding them, I only want to play with this and that because they are good boys...
kids are easily influenced by peers, if I'm not around to check on that, he might resent it one day.
I always make him understand that all I can do is guide him to be good man one day and help him succeed in life, I won't always be there to catch him...time will time that it will be his turn to catch me ...
training him on household chores is to gear him up when he goes to university and live alone one day...he knows that and really looking forward to that, his only concern is, will his dad and I send him enough money to live on his own while studying?...
not just talk, but talk in a way that make sense to him...he has to know it's for his own good, specially when he start to live on his own...and that's going to happen soon.
some parents talk, they talk and talk but don't really know how to talk to their children
I'm not bragging but my children when invited for a night stay with their friends whose family I've known very well, anyways they call me and pay my children for not only influencing their classmates but cleaning up the whole house.
That's a story if my children that they tell others so I don't have to.
And yes it's in the tradition and values. I'm not judging parents here it's just that our financial independence does seem to have made us overlooked those basic responsibilities. Not that it's a crime but it's a very good upbringing for them.
This is a very good blog Ian, it us an awakening to most.