Kevinism...the not so rare teenage disease..

Kevinism is a disease that came about during the 90's, before its appearance teenagers use to help around he house, dry up, even clean their dads car.

These days the condition has gotten worse. Since my son turned double figures I could see the change, hair seems greasy, longer, smelly. Then there is the clothes that seem to grow from the bedroom floor.

What's most worrying about this affliction is the tomato ketchup smothered plates that adorn the kitchen worktops, its like Alzheimer's for the young, you can say the same thing every day but they forget. What's amazing is that whilst having this condition, they seem to know the value of money, how to obtain it, by asking via whatsapp, instead of asking face to face.

Do you have Kevinism in your family ? for girls its Karenism, maybe you can share your stories and we can get much needed therapy by sharing..

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So what's the message ?
No comments...what's app with that? tongue rolling on the floor laughing
The message is simple blue..don't have kids...like you haven't.
..living with you that is.
Some male adults living alone suffer from Kevinism too hole
Not my kid, he's well trained...

he vacuums, he wash dishes but I told him not to do it coz don't want him breaking the glasseslaugh

he tidy his room, sometimes even my room..

he tidy the small sitting room and pick up my shoes

he also loves helping whem im cooking and doing laundry

he makes a good cup of coffee

gives me nice foot massage from time to time, specially when he want to ask for something...

he ask for money face to face....very nicely, with hugs and kisses....sometimes with tearslaugh
Crazy, that is because he has not reached the smelly teenage boy stage yet laugh
My children are more dwarfism- they take it turns being the characters, one day grumpy, the next day dopey, often happy and when they are tired- sleepy lol! Generally good children with nice manners and caring personalities. They sometimes don't put washing in the basket or leave 3 cups on their bedroom side, but hey none of us are perfect! I think your son is prob quite normal for this generation. I've had a few men with kevinism's but I just knocked them about a bit (sorry wrong blog) I imagined knocking them into shape laugh
I map, suffer from kevinism, I leave plates in my desk draw, top of the printers, in the office fridge, I only wash up when I have no plates left.

Seriously, your son is just being normal, the more you speak the less he will listen, if money is wanted via whatsapp then say no, he will have a tantrum but will soon get over it.
ONCE out of curiosity?
laugh
Whatchu talkin bout Molls?
Molly,

he said ONCE but I doubt it...every time he I ask and tease him, he starts wrapping his arms around me and hide his face saying " mom, stop it...it's private"laugh

I did open his door a few times and saw him picking up tissues, told him to conserve tissueslaugh

I like teasing him, he's a good boy really growing up in a very nice responsible way, his dad always thank me for that...
Crazy, saying he tried it once sounds like those politicians who say that they did smoke dope in college, but they didn't inhale laugh


But your son is right, it is his private business wine
Bad map here, sorry but thats not appropriate on a public blog.angel
Just be glad your Kevin hasn't introduced you to his new girl,Karen $x$ comfort
there okay till about 11 or that then thenn the fun starte your problems are just beginning .....they decend on my abode every while in droves and destroy my lovely shiny house takes a wek to put back together ..their not mine I disowen them sometimes and if they don't clean up well I deal with it a bit pf nice loud music early in morning does the trick
JJ, would you like somebody blasting music in your ears if you had a hangover?

Meanie tongue
I ve noticed alot of young kids tend to go into a trance, and are ,all of a sudden deaf when infront of a tv, or within reach of a phone. Is this a symptom of Kevinism,confused
Perception. How different we look at things really. Reading from the poster above makes me feel as though sharing our true story is a matter of bragging and or boasting. Clearly what an ignorance that is to be out of touch with our realities from Asia. I might suggest that you should widen up your knowledge about how the third world country generally teach the children to be responsible as part of making our lives better. Part of that is to do their basic job instead of expecting others to clean up for them and or doing the job for them which, again I say is a very typical in the First and second world.

I did not read any boasting and or bragging on either me or CH on sharing how we raise our children.

And by the way we do generally provide a very loving and most responsible home. Having lived in both a very poor country and a wealthy country made me realize how different are the values are specially in raising children. Here in America for instance, children can talk and or yell to their parents, while we in the Philippines, right or wrong doesn't matter, we can't ever talk back to our elders. Simply respect is what counts, not that children here are not respectful but it is part of the traditions we are brought up with. I am lucky with my Irish husband of 28 years he loved the way we Filipinos raised our children as he met thousands of Filipino families and yes he boast to his English and Irish parents how better the way we raise our children. Of course there are exceptions. But Ian, if your son's act bother you then I suggest maybe you should start telling him how you feel. Therapy is good but first hand discipline is better. My opinion,.


With due respect kneowing other people's way of life creates understanding instead of crude judgments just because we share our reality. We're not boasting. That's all.
Crazy, I hear you and I don't disagree with what your saying about your openness with him. My anxiety arose over the details put on the blog, not what discussions you have had with him in private. It's good that you can share with each other. Every parent has their own way of doing things and wouldn't be my place to tell you to do anything other. Just like I believe Ian has done the best by his son and not for me to question that either. But freedom of speech, opinions and advice is what blogging is all about. I was concerned about the comments and thought I'd say but if you are comfortable with it being on here then no need for me to worry thumbs up
I don't have to know someone to have an opinion on what is written.. I wasn't looking for confrontation, just voicing a concern. I'm not one to be quiet or not say what I think for fear of someone not agreeing lol! I'm sure I'll get to know everyone's little quirks as time goes on.
Rough,

everyone is free to voice their opinion, that's what blogging is all aboutcheers

I like to voice my opinion too but try not to sound judgemental...I believe it's to my advantage knowing the person I'm exchanging opinion with before i fire from the hip...well, that's just melaugh
Apologies Crazy.....handshake..... I seem to have been misunderstood.......anyways...no problem....
Fire from the hip- just to clarify again :-I wasn't questioning or criticising your parenting nor being judgemental of your relationship with him. In fact I said "it's good that you share with each other" in a later comment. I was merely saying should those details be written on a public blog. You think that it's fine so that should be the end of it. No need for me to explain my comment further!
Og,

hey no need for apologies...it's part of blogging...I like reading others' opinion also, I've learned many good things here all these years I'm blogging herelaugh

as for parents bragging about their kids, I know exactly what you meant...I had neighbor back home in Phils who bragged about how perfect their daughter is. graduated from HS with honors, goes to church every Sunday...goes to a very nice University, taking up Engineering, , very serious with her studies, no monkey business like other teenagers...one night she complaint of terrible stomach pain...everybody was shocked, she's about to deliver a babydoh their goes the perfect daugherlaugh

that shut them updoh
Ah, Thank you....I'm glad I didnt say anything to upset you Crazy......I was just talking in general......We had a woman at work who continuously talk about how wonderful her kids were!!... Jeez she bored us to tears.....She used to say that, On Valentines Day, herself, her husband and their three children used to give presents to each other in little boxes......when we asked what was in the boxes she said they never opened them......her answer was......" we didn't ever open them cos the 'Love' would escape'.....to be honestit used to make the restbof us feel nautious!... lol....
CH, so many parents can learn from you.

I never had a open relationship growing up with my parents because it wasn't a open environment. I got all my information from my friends and off the street. Because of that, I spent my teens and 20s blitzed out of my mind rebelling until I finally grew up.

CH's son will never have to learn that way. He will get the right information and will make far better choices.
That's all you can do, Crazy.

Unfortunately, most harm to kids, or adults, doesn't happen down dark alleys, but from people they know and trust.

At least your son will have a more rounded view of the world than others will have.
Og, those kind of people make me sick too!

I hate braggers and people who always talk themselves and their families up.

The more they talk though, the less I believe grin
OG,

The boxes were probably emptyrolling on the floor laughing

I like to listen to my mother in law when she was still with us...she would tell us who among her children did great and who were the ones giving her lots of headache while growing up...she raised 9 of them, they all turned out to be good children for her, made her feel so loved till her last breath...

I have a friend her boasting how beautiful her daughters are, they always win in beauty contest in their school and community, their achievements, I know the girls very well and I'm also happy that they are doing so great...what annoys me is when their mom exaggerates things and over and over again...I guess it's the motherly pride talkinglaugh
Track,

being open to my kid enables me to know the kind of friends he hang out with...for instance he told me that some of the boys he played started smoking, I was able to warn him to stay away from them...he knows that what they're doing was wrong and I confirmed it...and said Yes, mom I'm avoiding them, I only want to play with this and that because they are good boys...

kids are easily influenced by peers, if I'm not around to check on that, he might resent it one day.

I always make him understand that all I can do is guide him to be good man one day and help him succeed in life, I won't always be there to catch him...time will time that it will be his turn to catch me ...

training him on household chores is to gear him up when he goes to university and live alone one day...he knows that and really looking forward to that, his only concern is, will his dad and I send him enough money to live on his own while studying?...laugh
It's not too late yet...he's still a young man , needs plenty of good talk and guidance...

not just talk, but talk in a way that make sense to him...he has to know it's for his own good, specially when he start to live on his own...and that's going to happen soon.

some parents talk, they talk and talk but don't really know how to talk to their childrensigh
Thanks Ian for your keen observation. It's part of humility and respect.

I'm not bragging but my children when invited for a night stay with their friends whose family I've known very well, anyways they call me and pay my children for not only influencing their classmates but cleaning up the whole house.

That's a story if my children that they tell others so I don't have to.

And yes it's in the tradition and values. I'm not judging parents here it's just that our financial independence does seem to have made us overlooked those basic responsibilities. Not that it's a crime but it's a very good upbringing for them.

This is a very good blog Ian, it us an awakening to most.
Just like you ading, talking to them first hand goes a long way. My children adore me as theirs adore their parents. Respect and humility is a value that's worth instilling to our youth. You bet I'm proud of my traditions.
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