Love returns
"The more you love, the more love you are given to love with.”Just like the lyrics of the song, “looking for love in all the wrong places,” oftentimes we do the same. We seek love and we don’t find it, because we are not only looking in the wrong places, we also aren’t giving love out.
Sometimes we can need to be loved so much that we turn others away. We become needy and emotional and our behavior reeks of that which does not attract, but rather repels. Most people are not attracted to needy people.
When we discover a healthy way of giving love we will find ourselves almost overwhelmed by what we receive in return. We may not immediately find the romantic love we seek, but we also discover that we just don’t need it as much as we thought because we are loved, and we have learned self-love as well.
Not only do we feel loved we are able to love others in unselfish ways, in actions that are giving and not self-seeking. And the Universe gives us back the love we gave in larger doses than we meted out.
We each have a need to feel plugged into something. Some of us have lost our parents and may not have any living family. Some may have family that is unable to show love and we need to feel loved. It’s important to our well-being to find a place to share our love with others. There are always options. Volunteering, joining a church or recovery group, or any number of places where there are others who need love just as we do.
Once we are able to give love and find its return life becomes more full and joyous and it alters our behavior to stop seeking because we have found.
Love returns to us in greater amounts than we give, but we must give first.