"YES..NO..OR WHY"
Somebody Asked Me The Other Day... If I Get Some Time Off..Would I Want To Go See Gordon Lightfoot In Concert.....I Replied... That After Seeing Him 5 Times Already...Amd Meeting And Talking To Him Two Times...I Believe I Have Had My Fill Of Mr "Sundown"Mr Lightfoot Is Living On The Edge..Hes In His Mid Seventies..And The Last Time I Saw Him..(The Best Seats In The House...Front Row..And Center)..I Thought One Time He Was Going To Fall Forward.... Off The Stage...And I Would Have To Catch Him From Landing In The Damned Seats!
I Think Its Time For Gordon.... To Put It On The Shelf... And Retire
There Comes An End to Everything..And Gordons Time Has Arrived..................And Left Already
But..What This Blog Is About Is............................ Saying No
When I Was Asked If I Wanted to Go To Gordons Concert.............I Said No
And Right Away........I Got That Often Replied Reply Of................. "Why?"
Im Positive That If I Answered Yes
I Wouldnt Have Gotten A "Why?"................ As To Why............ I Wanted To Go
So Ill Never Understand Why Is It..... That A "No"..... Gets A "Why?"
But ................................. "A Yes"........."Gets Nothing"
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"Is A Very Small...But Complete Sentence"
"It Shouldnt ............And Doesnt Require"
"Justification ............Nor An Explanation".........................................
"If You Really Want To Say The Word........ "NO".................................
I have been in one of his concert loooooong time ago and love all his songs.
I Guess Its One of Those Unanswered Questions
That Will Reside............... In The Ages To Come........................................
And Being That One Is A Guest
One Might Be Asked If... He/She Wants Some..... "Chocolate Ice Cream"
One Might Say.."No Thank You"
And Then The... "Why?".... Comes Along
And One Says.."Because I Dont Like Chocolate Ice Cream"
And Yep
You Guessed It
Here Comes Another............... "Why?".........................................................
Than The "Silence Of The Clams"
For Instance
I Sent An Email Here.... On This Site To Someone
Asking This Person About Something
I Saw That This Person Read My Message
But Chose To Remain A "Clam"
So... After 24 Hours I Came to Realize
That An Idiot...... Is In Capable Of Knowing
How To Reply....................................................
I feel I m beyond having to be continually having to explain myself, so either I don t listen to alot of people, or I tell them their questions are stupid, then I leave. ( I figure if I m going to leave them, I might as well leave them wondering
You Should Just Tell Them That Its None Of Their Business
Oh No...Maybe You Shouldnt Do That
Because
Then They Will Ask........................ "WHY?"..................................
That Comment Brings Us "Full Circle"..Once Again
As You Walk Away... And Theyre Yelling To You............... "Why?!"
Turn Around And .................Yell Back
"NO!!"....."I Wont Tell You........ "WHY!!"..................................
Sometimes a maybe is a better response
That way the why will not be a question
A Maybe Is The Most Useless Phrase There Is..... Besides.....The...."Im Not Sure"..Stuff
Its The Same Idea As
"Yes".............Is Heaven
"Maybe"........Is Purgatory/Limbo
"No"..............Is Hell...............................................
It's really annoying when you have to come up with excuses that are half truths. Like, "I would have loved to come, but I have to blah blah blah blah...."
People will Always Throw At You A Phrase Similar To
"Gee Whiz..Id Really Like to"
"But My Mother Is Sick .....And I Have to Take Care Of Her"
Or
"I Wished Youd Have Asked Me Yesterday"
"Ive Already Made Other Plans"........................................................
"Youll Find That Their Anger And Hostility"
"At That Moment"
"Has Just Shown You"
"Where The Boundary Line.... For The Respect"
"That They Have For You.......Ends".......................................
It;s sad when a once great singer doesnot know when to hang up the hat. Maybe he owes money or something, still he has the royalties from his music.
Its nice to remember somebody who was good in their day not hitting bumb notes and being barely able to sing and stand... it's very sad..
As for No meaning No. I don't get it.... a woman I know 'not that well' her husband died recently, she would phone me for up to 2 hours because I used to know him, she would say 'how are you keeping?' but never wait for the answer... she wouldnot say anybody with you ? just coz you live alone doesnot mean you are always on your own or free to talk... anyway she would spend hours talking on and on and on about her husband, how she missed him.
So anyway, I did discover that she was abit of a user, after she had dumped her stuff she would change her voice and say'meeting some friends now, have to go byeeeeee' and leave me hanging there exhausted.
Recently she rang me from work. She said 'I m leaving here in an hour, can you make it [ a particular film that would mean I would have to go a long way to suit her' I said that's very out of the way.... she was annoyed.
I said is there anywhere nearer where its on ? can you not go to the 6pm one in Dundrum near where I live [she drives I dont so she says No, it doesnot suit me....
Can you not grab a Taxi and come over to Stillorgan... now stillorgan is an expensive fare, just to accomodate here.... so I said NO. why? Because I don' tjust down tools like that I said, I have a friend calling around this evening coming up a long way, only get to see her now and again. What time is she coming?
I was really annoyed at this stage. Eventually I said look No, if you want me to go to a movie at least make an apt the day before I cant just always take off when it suits you.
whey did I have to go into all that , Why doesnt NO mean No. Its because she is a selfish person. And I realised a user. She said awful things about me being somebody who never went out to somebody I know who went and told me back.... I am not interested in people who just use you , when it suits.
NO. So I also noticed when out with her the conversation is all about her... my new holiday my new house... and personally she is all about HER. So she rang me again.... said would I come to a show, I don't really like her , she is always berating her family and has fallen out with all her sisters.. so I said No thanks
She said Why, I just said No thanks. It is great freedom to say that. There are enough nice people around besidies hanging around users. Interestingly since I got very ill she never bothered to ring me... to even say how are you. funny how I spent hours counselling her on the phone.... literallly hours and went to her husbands funeral, now she wants to talk about the new man after her and I am not interested so its NO,
No means No nam. Y ou donot have to explain no or why Gordon Lightfoot is not for you, just No, not even not interested.... No means No. IT doesnot mean you have to give an explanation. It is hard but it is very assertive ad people will have more respect for you.
Its night here, and day there... so have a nice day and I am going back to bed to try and sleep
Why? people have no right to ask why when you say no. You could be tired, not in the mood or have something going on in your life. No. Get used to saying it in the mirror. No, or No thanks.