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Emotional Baggage are negative emotions that we should try not to carry over onto the next relationship, whereas experiences are memories, things that we have lived, that we have learned and what makes us strong.


We all have emotional baggage to some extent - Some of us have 3 suitcases of heavy things, while others have just a tiny bag… Everyone has them!


Sometimes we feel as if we were carrying a lifetime’s heaviness of sorrows, pain and anger towards what happened in the past.

Those memories and emotions influence what we seek and draw to our life and the way we interact with people.

We can’t change our past. There is no future in the past anyway.


What we can do is to define our sorrows about the past now, release the pain, cut the emotional cords and clear the space for the brighter things that life has in store for us. dancing


"Today is only Yesterday´s Memory,
and Tomorrow´s just Today´s dream............. The Moment is NOW!"
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Comments (65)

  • Dedovix
    Dedovix Apr 15 Big Place, Central Serbia Serbia
    release the pain, and unleash the dragon...
    Excellent blog bouquet
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
  • seagritHidden Profile
    seagritHidden Profile Apr 15 n/a, Albania
    Hi Daniela,

    Here's an intelligent woman of the blogs... I'd never thought of things as 'baggage' because all that happened in the past is well, past! You can cry about things all you like but basically, once the grief phase is over (with whatever it is) a person should just let themselves move on to the next (unburdened) phase of their life!!! Talk it out and let it go is my motto!

    Sorry for sounding daft but holding on to hurts and resentments is only harming the one that lets it get to them...

    I think the older you get, the better you become at dealing with things like that and realise that 'living' for today is more important than stewing in the past... Each day is a brand new page... hug
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Thanks Dedo. I was still downloading the pics and forgot to save the changes! doh

    So, have you that much baggage?
  • Dedovix
    Dedovix Apr 15 Big Place, Central Serbia Serbia
    Currently ,a lot of anger is burdening my soul ,that`s my baggage
  • seagritHidden Profile
    seagritHidden Profile Apr 15 n/a, Albania
    F~ck the baggage and travel light!!!! Whoops, swearies!!!laugh
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    I agree with you entirely Sg. thumbs up wine

    As you say, the older you get the more baggage you carry but... how do you deal with it is the question....uh oh

    We become weaker and frailer and we certainly haven't got the physical strength to carry that much on our shoulders so we have a choice. To let go of it and continue on our journey...dancing
  • EggSaladHidden Profile
    EggSaladHidden Profile Apr 15 Málaga, Andalucia Spain
    Have you got lots of baggage daniella? Because if you have, you can´t date me ok? Just forget it, not interested
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Sg. Thanks for the compliment btw..blushing

    And never mind the swearing - I am immune to it! hole
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Eggy. No, I haven´t! I have dealt with all of mine as I couldn´t carry such a heavy load. I like to travel light! dancing
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Dedo. Anger is no good. You need to release it! Can you go and kick something... a ball or whatever? dunno
  • EggSaladHidden Profile
    EggSaladHidden Profile Apr 15 Málaga, Andalucia Spain
    I like seagrits sweary tongue!
  • seagritHidden Profile
    seagritHidden Profile Apr 15 n/a, Albania
    Hi again,

    I think the emotional stuff is just something to free yourself from instantly - keep a clear conscience and be done with things that weren't your fault... If you carry guilt, well just deal with it and move on!

    As for physical baggage, either get a wheely thing for one's 'baggage' or employ Mr Dedo/Weetabix as your chauffeur, he looks sturdy enough! laugh
  • seagritHidden Profile
    seagritHidden Profile Apr 15 n/a, Albania
    Sorry, wasn't being deliberately facetious there (to someone I don't know!)
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Thanks for the advice Sg. .Dedo would be perfect as my chauffeur and luggage carrier ! thumbs up

    Look..Eggy likes you smitten
  • seagritHidden Profile
    seagritHidden Profile Apr 15 n/a, Albania
    Omelette or Frittata?

    He is eggstraordinarily handsome...

    His baggage is mere eggshells...laugh
  • ashlander
    ashlander Apr 15 Ashland, Oregon USA
    I carry a Fire Umbrella; in case it's raining down others issues around me.

    http://annacatharina.a.n.pic.centerblog.net/547f56ba.gif
  • Ccincy
    Ccincy Apr 15 Colerain,TWP, Ohio USA
    Mine are only life experiences my actual baggage I store inside the garage.
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Yes he is Sg. .love go for it..he's baggage free.
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Cc. .thumbs up

    I don't even have a garage so I had to get rid of mine before I came to Spain...long long ago..
  • 1to1to1online now!
    1to1to1 Apr 15 nbattleford, Saskatchewan Canada
    Hello Danielahug Good blog yay I know people who do nothing but live in the past,doh I ve always figured a person can t go forward in life constantly looking in the rear view mirror,scold , but a person does have to take an occasional peak in that mirror ,to remind themselves as to what they ve left behind. Life is a lesson.
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Ash. Fire umbrella ? wow

    Maybe it would be good to carry an anti dote as well no?dunno
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Hi 1to1 hug

    I agree with you but a rear mirror is also necessary?

    It's always good to have a peek at our past..at our memories and lessons and to see how much we've grown.
    But it shouldn't affect us in a negative way.
  • seagritHidden Profile
    seagritHidden Profile Apr 15 n/a, Albania
    Hi Ccincy,

    I was just thinking that, what is the difference between 'life experience' (the things we have no control over) versus that 'emotional baggage' stuff? Life is surely a combination of both from which there's no escape!

    Surely one processes the 'baggage' as one goes along as a mature adult?

    Nobody's perfect but they just get better at dealing with things in their own way...

    Happy Easter to you anyway! cheers
  • seagritHidden Profile
    seagritHidden Profile Apr 15 n/a, Albania
    Sorry Daniela, was just trying to be sociable with the Ccincy!

    Where's the Egg Man gone?laugh
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Sg. To answer your question...
    Baggage is all the pain and resentment you carry with you from the past which is still affecting you.
    Could be anger issues..un forgiveness...blame..guilt..regrets etc ..

    As for life experiences are the ones you have dealt with and don't carry any emotional attachment with and they don't affect you anymore.
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    The egg man comes and goes..like the wind on a summers day.
    Maybe he's gone to make his salad now?dunno
  • seagritHidden Profile
    seagritHidden Profile Apr 15 n/a, Albania
    In that case I'm glad to be a mishmash because however you see things, I think you are still subconsciously affected by things that happened at an age where you had no choice or control in the matter...

    I can be angry at things which are from the past but not care about stuff in the present, it's just the human condition methinks...

    'Just Deal With It' laugh
  • VikingSon
    VikingSon Apr 15 Merida, Yucatan Mexico
    I have NO baggage.

    I DO have a fairly extensive collection
    of what makes me ME however.

    Certainly my past colours my future
    and shapes my destiny, but do not
    experience and education have value
    any longer?
  • seagritHidden Profile
    seagritHidden Profile Apr 15 n/a, Albania
    And may I add Miss Daniela Matchmaker,

    One does not wish to be ever associated with any foul smelling 'EGG' type monstrosities, whatever it pertains to be in this CS amphitheatre...

    (Tell him I only like Ostrich)
  • seagritHidden Profile
    seagritHidden Profile Apr 15 n/a, Albania
    VikingSon,

    Of course the past shapes you and is there to remind and warn you...

    Have one eye in the past and one eye in the future is what I think...

    (And one on your drink in case of theft!!!)
  • mollybabyonline now!
    mollybaby Apr 15 Cork City, Cork Ireland
    Life experiences are to be cherished.

    Baggage has to be opened, sorted, and the majority sent to a charity shop.
  • MapmakerHidden Profile
    MapmakerHidden Profile Apr 15 Andalucia, Andalucia Spain
    Molly, Seems they sell everything there in Ireland, whats the average price per kg for other peoples emotional baggage?

    I see the past as an education, what not to do, or say, or be with, I keep my small amount in a cigar tin, study the contents now and again, as time goes by it withers away and becomes less significant.
  • ashlander
    ashlander Apr 15 Ashland, Oregon USA
    We're
    never alone
    only in our
    thoughts

    For Scotty..
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJwdpPWtbDw&feature=youtube_gdata_player
  • mollybabyonline now!
    mollybaby Apr 15 Cork City, Cork Ireland
    Map, it depends on the quality of the emotional baggage.
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Viking. I do like your description of the "extensive collection" which is of course coloured by our education and what we've learned along the way towards our personal and spiritual growth..
    I would also call this a collection of jewels. smitten
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Haha Molly...I'm always giving things to charity shops.

    Mine was already sorted before I came here but I still find things now and then which I give away.thumbs up
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Sg. .regarding Eggy and my matchmaking...I don't know his whereabouts..In fact I don't know him at all!
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Ash. thumbs up
  • daniela777
    daniela777OP Apr 15 France/UK/Germany/Spain, Murcia Spain
    Hi Map. Of course the past is an education...It allows us to grow. head banger
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