Is Fake the true danger?
We have all heard of ‘fake’ people on dating sites. Who are they really?Are they the ones who put up a profile with no pic, who have a bit of fun (either with people or against them) then take down their profile, or be banned, and within days have a new one up, different name but same MO?
Or are they the ones who have a proper profile & a real pic? One of the ‘regulars’.
One who tells you their life story, albeit in dribs and drabs.
They may share personal details, often garnering people’s sympathy. Especially from the opposite gender. Soft people always fall for the sob-story.
They could act quite prissy at times. Looking down on others who may speak openly about matters related to sex. They may openly condemn them and act as the more virtuous person. They may constantly let people believe they are a step above the norm.
Behind the scenes is a different matter. They are intent on getting their claws into a man, a man they deem worthy of them.
They may get chatting to some of the nicer, or more vulnerable people. These are the easiest to manipulate. And boy do they manipulate.
They try to get as much personal information from the person as possible – this will be used at a later stage.
They, contrary to their public image, want to engage in online-sex early in the relationship. They badger the other person to do it, possibly goading them by saying that their genitals aren’t up to standard if they don’t want to comply.
If the other person doesn’t play ball, things quickly turn ugly.
Threats of blackmail soon follow – threats of exposing private details on the public arena. The constant emails, messages and the stalking.
Nobody turns them down! They are the greatest gift mankind has ever received. They do the choosing. They do the rejecting.
The fires of hell are unleashed on anybody who thinks they can take that away from them.
Some may call them narcissists; some egoists; some entertainers or some even call them victims,
I call them dangerous.
So, next time we are thinking fake, maybe we should look beyond the multi-profile messers & scammers, and into the world of the delusional and downright dangerous.
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My eyelashes!
I shall poke all of your bits to see if that is true
Looks like you know something I know too..
Hope you've been good..
How's it going? All set for September?
such a good blog!
i am on the same page as your observations are!
one thing to add, i feel some mods are envolve in such activities too!
long time!
welcome back.
Hope you've been well..
I think its more to do with how much we expect from someone,
Just because you are disappointed in somebody does not actually mean they are fake,
merely that they are not what you expected.
CS is part of a virtual landscape. No one here is real until you make a physical connection.
Mental connections, spiritual connections, and even the enabling of life patterns can be assumed.
But all of these are as Virtual as the land in which they are formed until the saga is continued into the realm of the 5 senses
But these are simply the ramblings of a faceless profile of little consequence.
On this blog the words may matter but the entity typing for the time is simply a dream.
The question is;
"Are the words part of the typist or are they part of a lie ?"
that's what makes a con artist great at its art
being that/who what you do not expected
I hope its about me,
on my bucket list there is a task that actually states;
"inspire someone to make me famous"
merely that they are not what you expected
that's what makes a con artist great at its art
being that/who what you do not expected
Not so !
What makes a con artist great is that you are are so willing to believe them.
It is the lie that you tell yourself that leads to your entanglement.
Ergo it is the fact that you do not know yourself.
You are as fake as them !
Lets call it "the nonbiff effect"
Been busy with launching my cafe..
How've you been?
Nice blog.
For someone to blackmail another it only shows how weak and low that person is.
I think we might be undermining Molly's blog a bit
Daniela, this is not about me. I would spot somebody like that a mile off. I am not easily taken in by manipulators.
You have never seen me complaining about people having taken me for a ride (literally or metaphorically ). Nor boasting of my virtual conquests. This is about a certain type of person amongst us. I felt a need to highlight it.
You sound like you know
Imba, interesting observation.
I believe they , at least, may not take genuine complaints about such people as seriously as they could do.
Delusional is slightly better than dangerous, but some combine both
Biff, about you?
Nope, no hints. People will recognise the type if they read it. Get that twisted stomach sensation.
And for the ones who are yet blind to it, this may be a wake up call.
Unfortunately I know more than one.. and now I can't help but wonder how many more of their ilk are out there..
Its a huge turn off for me.. hence my absence.. (apart from being busy as well).
Now, I must feed the dogs..I'll answer the rest shortly
But , manipulators are good at manipulating. And can make you feel like up are the bad guy.
Meta, I think the answer above suits you too.
Ek, possibly, or you may be more clued in on the signs.