Aaltarboy
Aaltarboy
Belfast, Maine, USA
Jul 2017
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As the human body ages.....

across the life span, we see how that which we once knew, morphs toward the almost unrecognizable. In our mom's case, being bed bound was merely the start of the journey. The new need to be so dependent on others for most, even some quite personal, activities of daily life, can be quite a blow to formerly vibrant and independent types, especially for those who spent a lifetime caring for family ----six kids, and a gaggle of others, while working factory jobs. As in watching children mature between intervals of absence, even the small differences seem striking. Here, the tremors, depression and lack of facial expression of Parkinson's syndrome, skin darkening about extremities as one sign of failing blood circulation, labored breathing, hearing loss requiring the TV to sound like a rock concert, dentition and scalp hair long gone, and as the last days approach, that twinkle in the eyes---a sure sign of life energy, begins to fade. Almost gone as well, the ability to speak and use language, often blunt enough for us to hear what we usually needed, like it or not, and a sure sign of high intelligence in the absence of formal education---all now only soft murmurs. But rarely, a word or two can be understood. As on taking my leave, squeezing her hands and kissing her forehead. I love you mom. She responded lovingly in kind---clear enough for even the deaf to hear. Aa.
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freehand
freehand●freedom, Pennsylvania USA
Jul 23, 2017●31 Blogs●1,160 Comments
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Aa...hug
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freehand
freehand●freedom, Pennsylvania USA
Jul 23, 2017●31 Blogs●1,160 Comments
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Aa, i had a good visit last May. I have worries that I won't see my parents alive again. it's tough to make it out there. i'm glad we had a nice time, good memories, pictures and walks. old hurts mended and peace made. we are fortunate to have that. some families don't. <3
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Redex
Redex●Northumberland, England UK
Jul 23, 2017●5,763 Comments
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sorry Aa that is the very sad thing about our parents, who worked and i mean worked hard, glad your fathers passing was doing what he loved and now you mum. Hard times hug
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ashlander
ashlander●In God's Hands, Oregon USA
Jul 23, 2017●3,804 Comments
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This I understand,as I've worked Hospice.Truly a honor to be an attendant,confidante and aid to parents and their
Kin. bouquet
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Aaltarboy
AaltarboyOP●Belfast, Maine USA
Jul 23, 2017●167 Blogs●468 Comments
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Thanks, all. Recall Shakespeare's take on this sort of thing. Comparing the aged with the newly born. Sans teeth, sans hair, etc. Time to be strong and to focus on all the good. And to be grateful for whatever amends were possible while folks were still with us. Aa.
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Proficiency1
Proficiency1●Montego Bay, Saint James Jamaica
Jul 23, 2017●1,188 Comments
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AA

May strenght be yours to handle the inevitable.sad flower sad flower
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Aaltarboy
AaltarboyOP●Belfast, Maine USA
Jul 24, 2017●167 Blogs●468 Comments
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Thanks all for the kind words. Aa.
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Elegsabiff
Elegsabiff●Motril-ish, Andalusia Spain
Jul 24, 2017●358 Blogs●9,358 Comments
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I really have a problem with getting old - my mother was still my mother, when I saw her for the last time at 83, although frighteningly thin and frail, but my father was a mindless husk and had been for a few years before he died at 89. A great age, people said admiringly. Great? There was nothing great about it. The respected professional, the former England-capped athlete, was a shambling timid incontinent wreck.

I don't have a problem with getting older but I dread getting truly old and helpless and hope to be spared that.
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Aaltarboy
AaltarboyOP●Belfast, Maine USA
Jul 24, 2017●167 Blogs●468 Comments
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Well, E., of course you are correct. But recent generations perhaps are a bit more lucky with regard to aging better. We now know what will help keep us from being so ghastly in physical constitution, even as we approach 100 years. Active good living, with moderate diet/drink, mostly veggie, plenty of good water, purposeful work and loving social contacts---all lead the list. Hope you and all the CS blogger group are hip. Aa.
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Bertilee11
Bertilee11●negril jamaica ., Westmoreland Jamaica
Aug 3, 2017●4 Comments
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for real is so true but there is nothing more you can do to age just eat right positive thinking and exercise and leave the rest to God HE Knows Best,heart wings lips handshake heart beating heart beating cool
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johnjjm
johnjjm●co westmeath0000, Westmeath Ireland
Aug 3, 2017●5 Blogs●1,312 Comments
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is not nice to be dependant on others ..but when the mother goes her way ..its never same again so cherish what you have ..sorry for your upset
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Crazyheart38
Crazyheart38●Amman, Jordan
Aug 3, 2017●191 Blogs●5,807 Comments
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Aa,hug

this just made me feel so sad, remembering my beloved mother in-law, holding her hands when she was bedridden, still feeling that big void and missing her a lot often, was pretty close to her.

Doing my best to cheer up my mom on skype even I'm far away from her, she's doing great and happily surrounded by her grandchildren sigh

mothers are the best people in the world...their unconditional love and unwavering support...bouquet
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