Cyber Life
Most of us seem to live and socialise in cyber land, daily messages and now and again a telephone or skype call to show that there is a human on the other end.Do fall in love with someone, or is it the idea of falling for whom we perceive that person to be? Can you fall for someone just from those persons words even if you have no idea what they look like?
Why does a simple message bring either happiness or depression? Why do people become bullies from behind their screens?
We can get serious after a few messages; we have crushes on someone just because of their written words, words that will never be spoken or a face never to be seen. Looking into someone’s eyes, seeing facial expressions and body language are so much better.
We share images of our happier moments on Instagram or Facebook, we share moments of sadness on Facebook or blogs, are we expecting our cyber friends sympathy and a thumbs up?, do we get upset if none or few “friends” likes or we don’t get comments on a blog or forum...yes we do.
When we communicate in cyber land, our emails or messages are shortened, we don’t really put across what we feel, we are often misunderstood, a few words that are innocently typed can cause hate or confusion, language barriers are an issue, some merely communicate after translating their own language.
We often live far apart, but messages are instant, we have time zones but always seem to be able get through that, but we are ostracized by our geographical differences.
We think about a certain person all the time, during the day and at night, scenarios play in our heads, It’s just make believe, it will never be real...........or will it.
So make an effort, call someone, set up a video chat, speak and see the other person’s eyes, their smile or their tears and make a difference, it can be a very lonely life for some.
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-espeshially after some time together.
..then if apart for some reason, the talk on skype or phone can last for houers again...
...strange how we have adapted to using tools for comunication.
classic example, is youngsters sitting in the same room texting eachother....
You are so right....."we" can get so caught up in the virtual world, that we forget to communicate effectively in real life, and so many misunderstandings have occurred in cyber land, which would have ordinarily been sorted with a quick phonecall or video chat.
Not forgetting, meeting in person is the only way to find out one's true character.
Yes, we do seem to live more and more in cyberland.
It has both advantages and disadvantages as you say. We can communicate all over the world, but it is crazy and unrealistic to expect anything more to come of it.
That is why I chat publicly to everybody in the world, but have my private settings to this part of the world, and my dating requirement to within short driving distance.
One has to be realistic in one's aspirations and dreams. True, there are some people who are not tied to any geographic location; job; mortgage; family, etc., but those are few and far between. Most of us are tied, and even if we weren't, we may not want to relocate.
So we have to be realistic.
If we cannot, or will not, move to a different country/continent, then don't have private chats to people from those places. It is only raising hopes and expectations which will only get crushed.
Relationships aside, everything is done via the web, we dont have to leave our homes to go shopping for anything, In some respects its a good thing in others its not.
But i do go to the local market/supermarket to buy food and other everyday items.
I meet people every day at work, and interact with them.
I meet friends and family regularly - not by phone or email, but in person. That is important to me.
And yes, I am one of those people who won't video chat for love nor money
....and how often is the written word misinterpreted/misunderstood!?.....
I don't have a problem with video chat, myself.
JK....
Molly, I know, the bank returned the 20K certified cheque (check for the people over the pond).
I shall return fresh and stuff.
Blogging here is fun but sometimes the trolls come out to ruin the fun...lol...
But it is important to have a balance...communicating person to person...if they can only fight the urge to text while you are trying to have a lunch or dinner with them...how many times have I sat there quietly while some of my friends text another person...not a good feeling...
Technology...
I do enjoy the humor and humor on the blogs, but I can get that by getting out more too. maybe its time to reach back to happier times,
It is very possible to get the best of both worlds
Sometimes both worlds come together, as it has for me on many happy occasions.
But here is no way I would stay indoors in cyberland, rather than go out in town with friends.
However, it is very handy to have cyberland here during the evenings that I don't have anything else on
A good life balance is needed
I am the same. My off-line life is filled to capacity with friends, activities, family, and no technology.
Online is a way to fill in some downtime.
I've "met" some colorful characters on here.
That is a good thing...glad someone has common curtesy for all their patrons...
Life balance is good, I was wondering what would happen If I removed all social media from my life as well as binning my smart phone if I would cope, I sit here right now with CS, Facebook and whatsapp on the go plus a landline call, no wonder my desk is worn away from typing arm syndrome.
Luckily for me, I don't live in cyber land.
I have liked some people without pics and not knowing what they looked like... as you say...falling in love with someone's words.
I've also been caught on Skype in the middle of the night by someone living on the other side of the world.
Was only wearing an old tea shirt and it was rather embarrassing
Today I had a quick Skype with someone and had to dress specially for the event
My first real foray into Blog Land today.
How'd I do Map?
JJ, Its a drag getting ready for skype, It takes me hours getting my hair done and choosing the right aftershave, just to talk to the bank, even longer if I have been lucky enough to chat with a real woman.
About being ready almost instantly, I am always ready, One should adorn oneself with suitable attire at all times just incase the skypie thing indicates someone wishes to chat.
But I still believe it only becomes real...when it becomes real.