age
The stigma of an age difference. Funny because chronological age is different from emotional age. It's possible that the younger may match an older in terms of mental development. This is why I look less at an age in numbers and more at an age in development. After all, sometimes one has had earned the experience of years that contradict the age in years,To eliminate the possibilities due to chronological age is an error. One must also consider children and location. The physical attraction is very influential but can't be the ultimate decision maker, as simply eliminating by age is the solution. I am all for the coupling of like minds and hearts. To miss an opportunity due to age is a tragic mistake.
To entertain all possibilities can bring wonderful results.
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Nope i would like a man around my age, who is enjoying retirement so we can do some things together. Each having our own space without mmmm whatever. Is that too much to ask----it seems so
So Free for me i am happy on my own and it would remain to be seen if happeir with someone to share lives
I think it is not so much life experiences to date that count, but future life experiences which they aim to achieve.
You mentioned kids, that's a big one. I know men can biologically have kids up to any age, but i believe it is unfair on kids to have parents who are too old to be around as they are growing up.
And as Red said, having someone at the same stage work-wise has to be considered as well.
I still think that someone around your own age, give or take some years in any direction is the one that would work best.
Having said that, i know 2 couples with a large age gap.
In one, she is retired in the 70s and he's in his 40s. And I've never seen a couple who have so much fun together. They really enjoy each other's company and love being together.
The other couple, he was in my class at school and extremely good looking. He got together with a lady 15 years older than him when he was in his early 20s. She was not just older, but looked older again having had lots of life's experiences. But again, they were inseparable. So it xan work if there's enough connection and love.
I am almost 50 years old.
Personally, I don't date a much younger man. Two years younger or three would be ok. And just like other petite Asian women who tend to look younger than our ages, I don't date a too much older man either, especially when he looks older than his age..
But then, when the cupid arrows hit my heart, what can I do to resist?
Money and/or prestige sometimes might be a factor, like Hugh Heffner or Mick Jagger may appear to be to the outside world.
I do think that age does not matter at all if two people like eachother enough.
-mols
My dad was in his mid 60s when I was born. He died when I was a teen. We went fishing and all such rubbish dads do with their kids. He was the greatest old man I've ever seen. Really, I wouldn't have had it any other way and there's absolutely nothing unfair about that. It was great.
But the simple fact remains that the older a parent is, the less time their kid has left with them.
Society holds a negative stigma regarding age differences, which causes people to obsess over it. And, that is why when we start developing feelings for people outside of our age brackets, we think our feelings are wrong.
We often put up walls and flee for the mountains, but before shutting the door on the chance at love, think about your potential lover's maturity level.
If you both are on the same level of maturity, don't let the attached age number cloud your decision.Though I'm not an expert in relationships by any means, ultimately, leave all judgment behind when you find someone truly special. No two people are the same, just like no two romances are the same. Take each person as he or she comes.
I know lovers who are nine years apart and just as happy as those who are two months apart in age. Don't close yourself off based on age, but take into consideration where people of different ages are in their lives.
Just because someone is a certain age doesn't mean he or she fits a certain status quo.
Allow love to work its mysterious magic if you find yourself having a special connection with someone who is older or younger than you. Explore it and let it grow beautifully.
It's the quality and what they make of the time they have together, not the quantity what matters imo. More is very rarely better as a matter of fact. Also, knowing that you're on a tight schedule is often enough incentive for most people to make the most out of it. It balances out imo.
I'm totally with you on that one. Xx
Couldn't resist trying. I'm less than half her age, apparently
Young men have other advantages which you shouldn't ignore, ek, yeah?
I dated a 54 years old man when I was 18...he was brilliant ...must be dead lol!
Basically it's live and let live. However I don't believe that 'Age is just a number' many couples do have great relationships with huge age differences. For me, No more than 10 either way.