Why oh why. . .

I still really don't know how is it to know the different between a scammer and a real person, would a person who ask to chat outside this site from the very begining automaticaly be a scammer? . .
Problem is I kept running into bad bad guys here . . .
While the person i am really interested in just want to be friend.
And there are also others who say love and love and love but they have no idea what it is that they were saying.
While there are also others who i think is very clever,to be able to chat with lots of girl at the same time and love to collect girls as a trophy
And there are also those people who just want sex and thinks I am desperate for sex. . . (come on??)

Anyway, why oh why this is more difficult and complicated than i thought it would be. .
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i have already concluded that majority is here just to flirt.
just keep them in contact and prolong the relation and reach the decision whether he is true or not.
But its still difficult to have a sincere friend...
wave Scammers try to get your personal email address as soon is possible. Sometimes this is all they are after, they get paid to pass these on to advertisers and marketing companies etc.

If they were genuine, why not be content to get to know each other first using the CS mail system ? Then exchange personal email if you want to send each other photos perhaps.

Since joining CS, it has amazed me how many women complain about the harassment they get from men with lude sex talk and cyber sex
invitations. These type of men must be nuts and very sad, they must be in the minority but very active on these sites so it seems like there are many of them about. The suspicion that this then causes for the woman is bad news for the good guys out there.

Try and learn to recognise them and try to ignore but this is easier said than done I supose. I rarely get scammers so I don't really know the frustration of it but I think I can imagine.

Good luck anyway ....... bouquet
Your telling me, I've been looking for an old fashion woman and can't find one to save my life,... where did all the sweethearts go?
I've had several guys email me saying that they love me...which is impossible that soon. one guy asked me to marry him so he could come to the states, then offered money...I refuse to talk to that guy again. It's hard to find the right person...yawn
I so agree with you! Just keep your eyes open and try to read between the lines, sister!
Unfortunately, as a fact of life, most man are here for thrills and chase of an easy target to hit and run...that is the NATURE of man. Most of the time they are scared shitless of the commitment and not to say marriage, that is a NO NO word for them! Then again this is is a generalization here, there are however a very small margin of man that are not players and non ambivalent, but my, oh, my , they are = rare gems and probably lucking in one of the very important departments (financial security, need of papers to immigrate, luck of physical performance even)
A word of advice: get out more, make sure to make new contacts in real life, participate in more events that are held in your community, of course those that include YOUR passion and interest)
When you can order this book by Susan Page "If I am so wonderful, why am I still alone?" That book is equally great for man and women and will open your eyes on numerous issues that humans experience on the path of understanding how to build up a healthy solid beautiful relationship and recognize the individuals that are not good dating/relationship material!
Good luck to all!
thank's guys....teddybear
scammer are loser they are up to no good.scammer will always ask you for money with a sad story or even say to you that you don't care or love them.they are after your money and really don't about you at all watch out how they try to change the subject and how they try to lead you astray.understanding, and caring are to be used very carefully,a lot of the male and female are what you can say are set-up teams which have others waiting to prey on the innocent person.if they can't be honest with you then you don't need them.also if a person really loves or really cares about you then he will do the very best to be honest and tell you the truth. feel free to contact me thank you for your time.Danalphao
scammer are loser they are up to no good.scammer will always ask you for money with a sad story or even say to you that you don't care or love them.they are after your money and they really don't about you at all, watch out how they try to change the subject and how they try to lead you astray.understanding, and caring are to be used very carefully,a lot of the male and female are what you can say are set-up teams which have others waiting to prey on the innocent person.if they can't be honest with you then you don't need them.also if a person really loves or really cares about you then he or she will do the very best to be honest with you and tell you the truth. feel free to contact me thank you for your time.Danalphao
"Scammers" frustrated That's all I get here, just told one yesterday to take swimming lessons if she wants to see me and she still asked me for money!!! The best thing I have found to do is to Google them (copy part of the letter and paste it into
google search) and use the advanced search,there letter will usually pop up as a scam and this will save you a lot of time and maybe heartbreak. hug
Just be cautious. If someone is pushing you to go off this site to chat it is a sign but not necessarily a scammer.

To me, I just see it as, why go off the site when we can talk perfectly fine here.
1234angr, thats a good idea..
thankswave
Your very welcome little darling handshake
I've just joined CS & didn't know anything about scammers as am new to this computer dating. Thanks to you now I'll be on the ball & have to go now & block a couple "friends".doh I't's so disheartening keep heart, lovely ladies & nice guys some of you will find each otherheart wings
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