Sacrifice
"Unless you can enjoy yourself you cannot help anyone to enjoy. Unless you are really contented with yourself, you cannot serve others; you cannot help others toward their contentment. Unless you are overflowing with your own bliss you are a danger to society, because a person who sacrifices always becomes a sadist. If your mother goes on talking to you and says that "I have sacrificed myself for you," she will torture you. If the husband goes on saying to the wife that "I am sacrificing," he will be a sadistic torturer. He will torture because sacrifice is just a trick to torture the other.So those who are always sacrificing are very dangerous - potentially dangerous. Be aware of them, and do not sacrifice. The very word is ugly. Enjoy yourself; be bliss-filled. And when you are overflowing with your own bliss, that bliss will reach to others also. But that is not a sacrifice. No one is obliged to you; no one needs to thank you. Rather, you will feel grateful to others because they have been participating in your bliss. Words like 'sacrifice', 'duty', 'service' are ugly; they are violent. Tantra says that unless you are filled with light, how can you help others to be enlightened?
Be selfish, only then can you be altruistic. Otherwise the whole concept of altruism is nonsense. Be happy; only then can you help others to be happy. If you are sad, unhappy, bitter, you are going to be violent with others and you will create misery for others.
You may become a Mahatma, a so-called great saint; that is not very difficult. But look at your Mahatmas. They are trying in every way to torture everyone who comes to them, but their torturing is very deceptive. They torture you for your own sake; they torture you for your own good. And because they are torturing themselves you cannot say to them, "you are preaching something to us which you are not practicing." They are already practicing it. They are torturing themselves; now they can torture you. And when a torture is for your own good, that is the most dangerous torture: you cannot escape it.
And what is wrong with enjoying yourself? What is wrong in being happy? If there is anything wrong it is always in your unhappiness, because an unhappy person creates ripples of unhappiness all around him. Be happy! And the sex act, the act of love, can be one of the deepest means through which bliss can be attained."
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I happen to not believe all that.
Reality has many faces. I have seen many wifes which had a traditional marriage.
They were the servant of their husbands. They could not accept and did not felt well having this status.
And the word they use, comming from deep inside, from their frustration is...
"I have sacrificed my life for the family ...."
Next step was that they started to have insomnia, and in the end they had real health issues.
In fact All these eastern teachings are very similar to the ones of the Andes...the ones I learned during the course of my training.
Tell me more about Andes ...
I think we ALL have sacrificied...or given up certain things during the course of our life at some time...for the sake of our family...friends...or even things like work..projects..etc
Andes? Medicine men from Peru.
But sometimes a sacrifice can be done freely.. Without expecting anything in return .
In which case you should never tell a person what you did for them was a sacrifice for you.
It is like the saying by Confusius - Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life
Same with other things in our life
The more I read your blogs,
the more I think that your life is so complicated.
And this is what we need for spiritual growth.
If swamie actually walks his talk then..woww..we need more people like this in the world in order for humanity to advance and evolve.
And this is what I'm also trying to do with some of my blogs as well as in my personal life.
My life is very simple. Outwardly nothing special happen to me.
What can happen? I work, earn money, eat, sleep, meet friends, sometimes you dance .... Traveling, enjoying the sun or water, the trees, the light, human beings ... the mountains
When I was 12 years old, one morning I wake up .. and suddendly I was aware that I have thoughts
I asked myself what is this change?
And since then my thoughts are with me ... I am aware of those.
But I live in peace with those ... at least I try to keep peace between us.
Our mind is like boiling water. The bubbles which come on the surface are our thoughts.
Sometimes the pot is boilng hard, other times no thoughts at all.
That saying no-one gets out of life alive is true but it depends how you tackle life thats all.
Some take a punch with a black eye, others put ice pack on and avoid the next punch so to speak.
Sometimes cs feels like a counsellors couch not a dating site, or indeed a church, but hey ho it takes allsorts in this world as long as we are not overloaded with same kind.
Spilling my guts here is not my scene, and i try to avoid other peoples guts here too, you can take the written word without knowing the people themselves all wrong, so can do more damage than good JMO
Now have you had an encounter (meaning date) recantly and have a good day too
I'm far to be a model
And I do not like to teach people. But I want to help people
understanding some simple facts. It searches for inwardly conflicts.
Because this is the drive of our actions and unhappines.
Not always claming that the problem is elswere.
And this is a psychological issue rather than religious.
When you are clean psycholgicaly then the divine gratitude will light on you ... or may not be ...
You have no influence on this.
Steps are as following.
Make peace with your body. Make peace with your mind.
And when you get the peace then there is free place where God may live inside you.
More free place for Gods presence .... It is way of saying ....