Party on Internet
The main problem of the internet and with sites like CS is that those do not offer the possibility to have a party between us.At a party are invited the people who have something in common and have fun together. The other are excluded. Forums, groups or chat rooms should have somehow same functionality. You may join to a group but you cannot exclude the people from it.
In real life, many years ago, in some cases also today, a party is exclusive. I invite a friend, and he invites a friend, and so on. Somehow the people at the party have things in common. That does not means that no conflict may rise, but the probability is lower.
So this function of, we may say, have a party, to create a exclusive chat room, for two hours, (like in the office- a meeting room) where only invited people may enter is missing. This function may force the people to act carefully when posting, trying to make real friends.
People are here because of many reasons. May be people who do not open their heart easy, posting on forums or blogs, nor writing messages to strangers. They need time to open, slowly. So participating to a party, invited by someone one trust, is more productive, than staying hidden and just reading posts. You may communicate with people same to you.
I get a message from a women starting like this : "Why are you on this site when on your profile writes you are in relationship? I want to understand why you cheat your wife?"
My dear friends, life is not black and not white, has a lot of nuances of gray. People cannot judge other people based on the published profile or on the posts. Most people do not post. They expect that someone will send a message. But why should one do this? 50 rows of profile description say nothing about the person. If people do not participate to discussions nobody will know who one really are.
Posting is the first step. Next are private discussion. Perhaps this jump is too much. Perhaps you need some intermediate step ... the party. Exclusive groups/chats where people join based on invitation. This may let people to connect more selective, grouped by affinity. Chatrooms active for two hours, next deleted. Especialy during weekend. This may be more closer to real life. Of course this internet connection does not solve the physical issue. Real physical attraction, which is absolut necessary if you real y want a partner who should share your bedroom.
It was just an idea. I am not sure that will work ... but I have the right to think about it.
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If I were in the company of people who all thought the same as me about issues, I would get bored after a while
there is no room then for discussion or debate. It would all be sweet, agreeable and dull
Same people are posting. The other stay hidden or inactive. Staying hidden is not a solution. People should be motivated somehow to comunicate not to wait only for messages. This is not working.
How do you start a mesage? " I am X, I am looking for?"
This is very cold. So distant. You cannot get close to someone sending a message.
Is like stoping someone on the street and saying "Do you want to drink a cofee with me?"
This is for the people who really wnat to have a date.
Perhaps I see a posibility to make a connection at two persons when I know more about them.
You may be surprised to hear that people do actually date and meet up from here
But I don't want intermediary steps. Can I go straight to level 3
So if you are right, that 99% is going beside the scene ... then I wonder why people are complaining
Some people search for what they will never get.
Some people have unrealistic aspirations.
Some people are not ready for relationships due to past experiences yet blame others for their issues.
The list is endless.
I had two relationships in my past where I found the persons by anounce in the written newspaper.
I read the anounce. And I called only that two persons. But the anounce were very clever written. And I was not wrong. No regrets. But special persons have special lifes.
The concept of your party framework sounds good. There have been many 'party' blogs here in the past it they usually bring out many. Unfortunately, it is usually the regulars. How to get more to participate.
Why do you mean "unfortunately" ....the regulars?
Daniela....unfortunately, not meant in a bad way...but unfortunately we don't get new people to expand this group the shed us with new ideas and perspectives.
I am not into hidden drama.
Fast forward in a relationship is a catastrophe.
The idea of daniela ... direct to level 3 ... I tell you, is wrong decision.
You should enter in a relationship only then when you do not hurry.
A relation do not solve your problems ... it increasing those.
Of coures if you are a stone ... then does not matter ...
Date for at least a year.
Don’t date for any more than a year.
Date exclusively in groups.
Make sure you get plenty of time one on one.
Don’t kiss before you’re married.
How can you know you have chemistry without kissing?
Put clear boundaries into place.
Don’t try to follow everyone else’s rules.
Spend lots of time together.
Be careful how much time you spend together.
Date a bunch of people before getting serious.
Don’t date anyone until you’re ready to marry them.
there is FB and places like that you can just have groups by invitation, excluding everyone else.
If a person wants to go above surface conversation i do not beleive they want to do in public party, OR maybe just me.
Usually we have Friday night parties but all has gone quiet on blogs just now.
i myself am just filling time tonight and tomorrow morning as then i am off for awhile visiting my son and i can,t wait.
Everything i have said is lies or maybe not
Are we in the 21st century ?
Swami...going to level 3...I meant going straight to private email...
Johnny..I wouldn't mind conversing behind the scenes with you?
I am open to private messages ....
But I like parties more ..... You know ... less light ... a good wine ... talking about the beginning and ending of the world ... when tired of talking then dancing ... I am an old fashioned guy
What can I offer through the Bits, Kilobits, or Gigabits? Not much ... so what can one do with the internet?
What can we say in PM?
I'm a very private person..
I want to learn ...
Can this tought via internet?
Who makes the first step? Men or women?
I like watching flamenco and sevillanas but you must learn it from young...it's in the blood.
By Latino I meant salsa..bachata.. Also cha cha..tango..and paso doble.
That just reminded me of my dancing blog. I'll post it tomorrow.
I am joking when speaking about dancing .... Flamingo is very hard ...
I was in my youth a very choatically dancer ... Something like tribal ritualic dance ...
I used the dance as a form of cattharsis.
If you condider is another form please tell me ... I am curious to know .
We also do this with the shamanic drumming ...dancing to the rhythm of the beat in altered states of consciousness.
Luckily for you I am not Spanish.
Just because I live in Spain doesn't mean I'm Spanish.
Just like you living in Germany and you're not German
So... I do not need to do asumptions .... I will feel better ....
You do not play games? Level 2 is before level 3.
One need to pass the filter of level 2.
People are in hurry .... they want to skip some filters
I am very shy .... PM means very much .... Is like asking me out for dinner.
To speak about myself what I usualy do not do to anybody
I speak only when sleeping
And obviously not very bright either
That's why I need to know what goes between public chat (Level 1) and private mail (Level 3)
I I have PMd all my dates before going out to dinner with them
Level 1 is beginners...for people who are too shy to join in the chat blogs but only on tip toe..
Level 2 is intermediate...for this party Swami is offering ...
Level 3..is taking it to PM for private chatting..
Then we have levels 4 and 5 where the sky is the limit..oh la la..
Do not hurry to level 3.