Confusion
When people communicate with other sometimes confusion may occur. When people communicate with the existence confusion may occur.This confusion has two effects on one mind. When confusion is there, in one mind an alarm is triggered. Something is wrong. So the mind starts to explore and research the reality to find out the truth. This is good. Is an adapting mechanism.
But there is a secondary effect too. During the adapting process the mind tries to attach the first possible explanation to get out of the state of confusion as soon as possible. Specialists noticed that confused humans are more open to suggestions. Any kind. They tend to accept the first suggestion they get. So be careful what decisions you take in the confusing moments of your life.
When you break up you are confused. When you suffer you are confused. There are many moments in life when people may be confused. Getting out from a relation and jumping immediately in another may continuing your confusing moments.
Many people choose their partner by divine signs (coincidences or other sings in which people think to recognize the solution). They considered being saved from past problems and confusion.
Are they? Or just fall in the trap of self-suggestion?
"That we do not discover reality but rather invent it is quite shocking for many people. And the shocking part about it - according to the concept of radical constructivism - is that the only thing we can ever know about the real reality (if it even exists) is what it is not. It is only with the collapse of our constructions of reality that we first discover that the world is not the way we imagine."
Paul Watzlawick
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And now....I am really confused.
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People do not have enough information to know the reality. This is confusing. We try to establish a order in this confusion. And without information the only thing we may do is to create our own order and reality. This is a fiction. A creation of our own mind. So we all are this situation. And we all have our own reality. Our own fictional movie.
If we take much too in serious our fictional story about reality we may not be able to communicate with others - they do the same - take much too in serious their own fictional story.
I remember what Krishnamurti said. "Order from disorder" Do not intervene in the disorder and try to create order. This is the paradoxical nature of the mind. The more you try to make order there, you will create more disorder.
Let your mind simply in peace and order will rise from disorder.
From the mathematical statistics we know that all what we consider disorder (random) have the same probability to be order (not random). So what we consider to be order is the result of our subjectivity.
When you try to make order in your mind, you have no ideea ho should look this in your mind. The probability that you try to create a false order in your mind is very high. So do not force your order to anyone nor to yourself. You prpbably are wrong.
This is the reason why each ideology fails. May represent order for the creator of the ideology but for other people is a form of disorder.
Paradoxical is also to search for love. Love has the property to be spontaneous. When you search is not anymore spontaneous. You will find something ... but will be not love.
Once one understand the pardoxical nature of the mind, not verbaly, but practical, then one will be really free
So be careful of paradoxical requests. This creates confusion.
"I wish that you love me." "Please give me flowers" You may expres your wish but you destroy the sspontaneity.
This is the reason love has no expectations. Expectations are good for a relationship but never for love.
You have to choose one of two.
Spontaneity is a form of relationship. Love is a form of relationship.
But a relationship is not necessary spontaneous or ... love.
You choose to maximize your win.