Oct 2017
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Why did she do this to me? I know, I am a succor
I met a girl online from the Philippines as I was going through a divorce here in Denver. I thought someone overseas would be great to get away and build a future with. I thought, wow, we are both separated and we are in the same boat. She had 2 sons and separated for 6 years. Well I fell in love with her. A couple months later I found out there is no divorce in the Philippines. So I go meet her in person for a week. But I could not visit her home because of her ex family. Then 3 months later I found out she was lying to me. She has 4 sons and only separated 1 year. I found out through pictures in her family's facebook page. Then she admitted to me this. I accepted her apology. A month ago I started working 2 and 3 jobs to pay for her annulment. But i was getting bad vibes from her. I found out through a complete stranger to me who knows my ex girlfriend that she was on a dating site. I asked her and she said it was an old site and she was checking messages from a long time ago. I made a profile on the site to check on her. To my amazement she was on 2 times this past month. Yeah I gave this "poor" girl monthly support for her and her sons. Yes I bought this "poor" girl a phone. Yes I am stupid. I just need to vent. I learned. I had never looked overseas before in social media. I guess I got over my divorce haha. But my ex wife and I are still good friends, just not any love. Thanks yall
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in the US as well.The arranged second upgrade marriage via the broker..
I told several times that communication on internet is missing soemething very important. Eye contact and body language. This are the tools we use to recognize the real intention of the others. A conflict between the verbal message and the other "uncontrolled" behaviour wake up an alarm in us.
Even when you are face to face with a person who has grown or lived in another culture you may be confused. The body language of different cultures are different.
I consider that people from different cultures who live together and able to communicate to eachother are special. Less inclination for doing interpretation. More focused on observation and less on thinking.
One need to see the reality in objective manner. To observe is objective. To interprete is subjective. Who knows that he has a strong imagination or phantesy should be careful. One single sign and will build an entire universe. And may be complete false.
I had experienced in Asia the communication with different women. I did not spoke their language and they did not spoke the languages I know. The first experience demonstrated that I saw what I wanted to see. In this case I ignored the alarming signals of he body language. I considered that is only a cultural difference. The second was better. I corrected my perception of the reality.
We learn with each experience. We adapt. So good luck for the next try. Do not give up, else you will lose the learned experience. Try to extend this and use it in each situation you are.
It's perfectly alright to send money to wily Malaysian women
Molly
Onne cannot just win. He must also pay.
When not freely ... then forced.
I beheaded all snakes in my jungle, and de -winged all flies.
My advice is, be careful. You're not the first not the last.
their main economy is tourism and those overseas workers.
Their education system is quite poor.
An extra 1000 can make a big difference. it can even get you ahead on the rest.
But i also saw them sell business to take care of somebody medically.
If you want to complain, complain about the western union money grab.