Annanda

Annanda

Oct 2017

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Dude, you're doing it wrong

Flirting is an art, they say.

Not that I am an expert or anything...

However, on my short stay as a CS citizen, I already have a few suggestions for guys on what not to do.

1. Endless "hello" e-mails.
I'll say it nicely: after the 18th HELLO, it gets kind of boring. If you don't have anything to say, just don't write.

2. Misogyny jokes
Most girls don't like it, me included.

3. Telling her you're helplessly in love with her after reading her profile and want to marry her.
Seriously, in what planet are you living?

4. Writing your personal details on your first e-mail
You're too easy, man, forget it.

5. Writing the same greeting e-mail twice to the same girl
First impression is important, but after that she'll be sure you're just shooting aimlessly.

New additions: thanks girls

6. Writing before reading her profile

7. Saying how beautiful the girl or her smile is...when they can't see it

Any thoughts to increase the list?

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emmy1●morlaix, Bretagne France

Oct 30, 2017●32 Blogs●363 Comments

Try reading the girls profile before sending an email.
Welcome to cs.

Track16●Eastern, Newfoundland Canada

Oct 30, 2017●1,598 Blogs●2,278 Comments

Me flirting: Um, so do you like bread?

oldblue54●kaitaia, Northland New Zealand

Oct 30, 2017●76 Blogs●1,148 Comments

Track that's a food offering

You don't get that serious until you have got to second base...

Act cool ok

mollybaby●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Oct 30, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Saying how beautiful we are/our smile is...when they can't see it

Aaltarboy●Belfast, Maine USA

Oct 30, 2017●167 Blogs●468 Comments

Flirting is good----but clever banter ROCKS. Aa.

BerrySmoothie●My Retreat, Auckland New Zealand

Oct 30, 2017●681 Comments

Flirting only serves to feed one's ego on social media, unless you're planning on meeting in 3D.

People get the wrong impression....if they live a million miles away and there is no chance of relocating, then what is the point?

Can be led up a merry garden path to nowhere land....

Sorry, haven't had my caffeine fix yet....

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

Blue, I should have said bad jokes about women, not that you're interested anyway.

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

Thanks, Emmy and Molly! So, so far we have seven.

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

Track, actually, I don't think yours is so bad. Maybe I need to read a version of this blog for girls.

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

Berry, what you say makes perfect sense, but sometimes love doesn't make sense at all.

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

Aa, I can't disagree. :-)

Ccincy●Cincinnati, Ohio USA

Oct 30, 2017●1 Blogs●3,385 Comments

emmy1 I agree with your post in regards to not write to the lady until the guy has read her profile.

BerrySmoothie●My Retreat, Auckland New Zealand

Oct 30, 2017●681 Comments

Ann,

Tis a good thing I'm not in love with anyone on here.

I struggle to even like them sometimes....

Careful where you tread, is all I will say....

Best of luck....

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

Thanks, Berry

Everyone says I should be careful in here. I'm getting scared!

I hope you find someone you like without forcing yourself.

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

You're 100% right, Biff. The good thing is that soon I'll be old.

Elegsabiff●Motril-ish, Andalusia Spain

Oct 30, 2017●358 Blogs●9,358 Comments

Not so soon.

BerrySmoothie●My Retreat, Auckland New Zealand

Oct 30, 2017●681 Comments

I'm just on this site to annoy Ann.

I'm dating someone at the moment, and things are looking interesting....

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

oh, dear!

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

That's wonderful, Berry! Great news!
You can annoy be, we may end up as besties!

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

PS: "Oh, dear" comment was for Biff.

BerrySmoothie●My Retreat, Auckland New Zealand

Oct 30, 2017●681 Comments

Thanks Ann,

I'm not on CS much these days...

...but I'll keep you posted by email....

BerrySmoothie●My Retreat, Auckland New Zealand

Oct 30, 2017●681 Comments

Map...Ok, I'll send you an email too...

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

Pat, I'm not talking against of jokes or anything, in a blog post they are just fine.
My point is that it is a bit of bad taste to send a private e-mail to a girl making bad jokes about women when you barely know her.

pat8lanips●babinda, Queensland Australia

Oct 30, 2017●74 Blogs●2,239 Comments

I must admit, when I see a profile and it says "Send a decent message, dont just say hi", I always send a "Hi" to see if they're serious or not. Half the time they reply "how are you" anyway...

mollybaby●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Oct 30, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Pat, you are the type I am glad I have blocked

pat8lanips●babinda, Queensland Australia

Oct 30, 2017●74 Blogs●2,239 Comments

Yeah Molly, thats only because you are scared on my animal magnetism, and realise that one little "hi" from me and you'd be at my front gate trying to tear it off the hinges, after chewing your fingernails down to bloody stumps from horniness.

mollybaby●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Oct 30, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Yeah maybe, I hadn't thought about it like that.

I just thought it was because I didn't want to converse with the likes of you

Bnaughty●Málaga, Andalusia Spain

Oct 30, 2017●17 Blogs●994 Comments

Tell us more Miss.Berry

johnjjm●co westmeath0000, Westmeath Ireland

Oct 30, 2017●5 Blogs●1,310 Comments

is not me now berry just to make clear im above your comment

oldblue54●kaitaia, Northland New Zealand

Oct 30, 2017●76 Blogs●1,148 Comments

God I want whatever your on...

pat8lanips●babinda, Queensland Australia

Oct 30, 2017●74 Blogs●2,239 Comments

Yeah its not me either Berry, otherwise you'd be at my house trying to rip the front gate off the hinges etc.

mollybaby●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Oct 30, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Oh Pat, I'm sliding right off my seat....

And you are so far away

BerrySmoothie●My Retreat, Auckland New Zealand

Oct 30, 2017●681 Comments

No, Pat and Johnjim....you're both safe....

lookn2share●Sunny, Florida USA

Oct 30, 2017●12 Blogs●56 Comments

BerrySmoothie: I concur with your first response!

BerrySmoothie●My Retreat, Auckland New Zealand

Oct 30, 2017●681 Comments

Ann, I'm sorry for the hijack of your blog...

It is a good blog topic.

Carry on people.

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

Pat, to say "hi" is just fine, what bothers me is just a bunch of that and nothing more.

First day
Guy: Hi
Me: Hi! How are you?

Second day
Guy: Hi
Me: Hi! How are you?

546th day
Second day
Guy: Hi
Me: Hi! How are you?

See my point now?

mollybaby●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Oct 30, 2017●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Stop answering him is the only cure for that

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

I'd be pleased to talk about pneumatophores, btw.

Just don't ask me to walk on them, they hurt my feet.

BerrySmoothie●My Retreat, Auckland New Zealand

Oct 30, 2017●681 Comments

It was never resolved peacefully Ann, unfortunately.

...and now I see a blog up in retaliation.

Sorry to involve others on here in it.

As you were.

AnnandaOP●São Paulo, Sao Paulo Brazil

Oct 30, 2017●9 Blogs●157 Comments

I did that Molly, but his "hello"s keep coming. I think I'll have to block him!

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