A Perspective: Men and the Myth of The "Midlife Crisis"...
Men and the so called 'mid-life crisis; is a myth, sort of...Many seem to believe that all men go through a mid-life crisis when they are in 'middle age'.Not quite. Many middle aged men do go through midlife crises, but it's not because they are middle aged. It's simply because their wives or "significant others" are. From the evolutionary psychological perspective, a man's midlife crisis is precipitated by his wife's or girlfriend's imminent menopause and end of her reproductive career, and thus his renewed need to attract younger women. It's all part of our evolutionary process; perfectly natural.
Accordingly, a 50 year old man married to a 25 year old woman would not go through a midlife crisis, while a 25 year old man married to a 50 year old woman would, just like a typical 50 year old man married to a 50 year old woman.
It's not his midlife that matters; it's hers. When he buys a shiny red sports car, he's not actually trying to regain his youth; he's trying to simply attract young women to replace his elderly and menopausal migraines wife by trumpeting his flash and cash he has for his newer female interest. That's life and life does go on while dear ol' menopausal wife needs a sedative. The love that may have developed between this typical couple, simply "ain't got nuthin' to do wid it"... That is the thing about life, we're all a bit unhappy with it...
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Fortunately most of us are no longer cave men at the mercy of our biology and have the capacity to control our hormones rather than making excuses to justify certain behaviors.
Women as a general rule drool more over shiny new cars than the male drivers...they are attracted by 'flash' and of course, cash which the driver is presumed to have to spend on them...all strictly mercenary for however the attractions last.
The French Foreign Lipsticks.
If you have ever read the book by Desmond Morris The Human Jungle, he reckons two humans together for all their lives (marriage) is asking too much. He reckoned we should all just sign contracts, first one stay together until children have grown, then iether opt out---as we will have changed concept of living, OR sign back in. Then next date would be when retired, as again as humans should and do change the way we view the world and ourselves
Morning Kattte i reckon TK is got this one in the bag.
If you have ever read the book by Desmond Morris The Human Jungle, he reckons two humans together for all their lives (marriage) is asking too much. He reckoned we should all just sign contracts, first one stay together until children have grown, then iether opt out---as we will have changed concept of living, OR sign back in. Then next date would be when retired, as again as humans should and do change the way we view the world and ourselves scold scold roll eyes roll eyes no mention of red cars though.
Hallo Redex: I rather like Desmond Morris and have several of his books. In the Jungle, he presents a good case for the signed agreements/ contracts, etc. but he rarely addressed the issue of children and that entails the age old practice of keeping lovers, concubines etc. Children born of any union are left out as heirs that have welfares to administer; Ha! my next blog topic! Redex•12 hrs ago•Northumberland, England UK
Morning Kattte i reckon TK is got this one in the bag.
If you have ever read the book by Desmond Morris The Human Jungle, he reckons two humans together for all their lives (marriage) is asking too much. He reckoned we should all just sign contracts, first one stay together until children have grown, then iether opt out---as we will have changed concept of living, OR sign back in. Then next date would be when retired, as again as humans should and do change the way we view the world and ourselves scold scold roll eyes roll eyes no mention of red cars though.
what can I say but sometimes the witch in me sneaks out, even more so when men don't take responsibility for their actions/emotions but blame women instead.
There are so many factors that influence the 'average' words or actions of male/ men's wide range of irresponsibilities: geography, social class; level of education; their culture, etc. Irresponsibilities are the easy out for many which usually only exacerbates social and economic wrongs, most especially wherein gender becomes an over-riding issue when it should not. Psychologically the perpetuation of inequality is living within a society built of lies; being in a state of 'professional hypocrisy' which affects their minds. People are tired of lies and hypocrisy and hopefully males, especially in North America, will abandon the charades, the lies and the perpetuation of all gender inequalities and mature into what I perceive as 'real men'. Maintaining inequality is the same as telling lies and full equality is like admitting the truths; one doesn't need to remember what lies they have told if they never lie in the first place. I see the better option being truths and equality; it makes for a much better society for everyone. ( I seem to get carried away with some things that I see as just plain wrong...my apologies)