Should i postpone the wedding?
i thought we are a perfect match. He promised noone will make me as happy as he can.Everything went on smoothly ultil after we both declared our coming wedding and sent out invitations. the preparation aroused many arguments and sadness, even silence.
Now I am so confused and unsecured. the questions like is this decision a right one? are we meant for each other? should we reconsider this marriage? how to deal with all the set wedding arrangements? how to deal with family, colleagues, friends.... keep coming up and chasing my mind
what should i do?
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Or even better, ask yourself do you want to spend the rest of your life without him.
You will know what to do then if you follow your gut feelings.
Most couples bicker about wedding planning, because it is a pressurised fuss all about one day.
Think about being married...not the wedding day.
Not sure I can provide any advice ...
Get some time to think about it, no one knows yourself better than you ....a quiet place and time for yourself....
Good luck
I know coz I've been with one, albeit long distance, for the past two years?
Molly
That's what i m worried too ziggy
Mollybaby, my fiance is American but you are right, i guess it is not about nationality. We are talking about our issues now. I guess i woke him up with a request to rethink the marriage and he is not sleeping tonight to talk about it.... maybe it's because of the communication...
Mimi i m going out soon. See you when i get home and hopefully you are awake.
Before you do anything hash, talk to your fiancé; open your heart about your doubts at a time when you are both calm enough to listen to each other. I think the only way to reach an agreement and go back to the harmony state you're lacking is through talking. After you do that, you can decide what is best for you to do. I hope for the best.
Your look stunning in your dress.
I know I am a Yankee and probably don't have any right to speak here. :) After reading your blog closely, it sounds like the issue may lie within yourself. It sounds like you may be having second thoughts? I Anna's suggestion of communication. I was never a women about to get married, so I cannot tell how one would feel about that. It is a huge life decision, so I can speculate on the intensity of the feelings that come with such.
Should you postpone the wedding, do you want to?
Wish you the best.
The Wedding Promise,or vow is not going to be your contract
..it is God's. Otherwise you can only view it as a legality.
The hearts that put each other first needn't think twice.
Love,Honor and Respect is an every.day decision.
Think about this carefully.
the Altar,to begin their reign.The Princess lifestyle.
Others simply want to be needed,and also expect children
He must fulfill this need after marriage.It is her only role.
Others want it all and find a go getter,whether they both
share the gains 50/50 remains to be seen.
Marriage can be seen as a lifestyle - be it an advantage
or adventure ....or a fairy tale. She'll pretend he is charming?
change your profile - which says, apart from the first sentence, that you are still looking
ask yourself if all those wedding preparations that you want are really important enough to fight over
what do you really want? a wedding, or a marriage?
a bridegroom, or a husband?
I stressed so much before my wedding that I was sedated on the day and barely remember a thing about what should have been the happiest day of my life
He was a nice man but the wrong man, we should never have got married and it didn't last. I don't regret it, if only because we had a kid and I think I would be unhappy now if I thought I had missed out on motherhood. But I didn't marry for the right reasons, and I subconsciously knew it. So if you want a fairytale wedding and a Prince Charming and he was in the right place at the right time, think about what you really want.
It may still be him - but once you've worked that out and you know for sure, you'll stop fretting. If being in a team of two with him for 50 years turns you cold, you should probably go with my first suggestion, and cancel.
relationships are work and at times can be hard work.
You haven't mentioned if the issues the both of you cannot agree upon. Are they little issues or serious issues? I hope you know the difference between the two.
I wish you the best and can only offer that you at minimum postpone the wedding until you work out your issues.
Ashlander, Oregon is neighbor of California sis, we can meet anytime we can make time
Wwdding planning can be very stressful but the end result should be well worth it if you really love each other.
If things become to stressful just elope, its less drama
:laugh
Both people should be happy when going into a marriage, and should indeed be thinking of how they can offer their future spouse their unconditional love and support. However, ultimately each partner is responsible for his or her own happiness. Certainly your partner should be a positive element that contributes to your happiness, but he or she is not responsible for it. That’s a weighty responsibility to unload onto someone! No one is responsible for your happiness, but you! If you’re not thinking about your own happiness, how are you going to be aware of all that your spouse does to try to make you happy? Best of Luck
this goes both ways.
but a contract is a contract.
contracts can be broken, how will you proceed?
Robert and I might crash your Wedding.
Meaning show up and surprise you.