A Blossoming Relationship
We had a bad start involving a turned over dustbin. A few days later, while both of us were guests at a barbecue hosted by a mutual friend, we got along well enough to venture onto a dinner date a few days later and we discovered that we have more in common than what we suspected.We are spending more and more time together and amazingly, we don’t make preset dates anymore. When I want to go somewhere, I simply walk across the road to fetch her and off we go. Likewise, when she wants to do something, she’ll just walk into my place, say so and we do it. Everything happens spontaneously and it is as if we’ve known each other for years, while in fact, it is only a very short time.
Somehow, without even discussing it, we became an item… and all those around us think so too.
The other amazing thing is that, during that barbecue, fairly early on, she mentioned very casually that after her stormy marriage, she will not easily get involved with somebody again and that she needs time and space to get her life back in order. Yet, as we grew closer, not once did she repeat that statement. In fact, I think that I got all the encouragement that a modern and decent woman would allow herself.
With the exception of that ‘horrible’ Yorkshire accent which I sometimes battle to understand (Molly suggested sub-titles ) and her inability to make a decent curry , she is everything I can expect in a woman; she is neat, attractive, sexy, intelligent, affectionate, adaptable, honest, and has many other good virtues. And apart from involving me in her life, she takes an interest in what I’m doing.
She can even bait a fishhook, rack pool balls, and pour a decent brandy. But jokes aside, I could very easily fall in love with her; if I’m not that already but still in denial. But even if I’m not in love with her, I’m very fond of her and I don’t really care what we do, as long as she enjoys it as well.
Yet, the future is unclear. She has to work another two years before she can retire with a decent pension and that is where the uncertainty starts. What will happen then? During our conversation at that first barbecue, she also mentioned that she is considering going back to the UK. Now, that is the one topic that I have avoided since and she did not bring it up either.
I don’t want her to go back but I cannot see my way open to influence her to stay. I feel that she has to make up her own mind; for if things go sour later, as they often do, she’ll tell me that I told her to stay. I know that I should grab the bull by the horns and ask her if she was serious about going back - and I would; if only I knew what to do if she still planned to return to her country.
Do I enjoy it while it lasts or do I take a smaller knock now to avoid a bigger knock later?
For those who don't know how this started, look at this.
Comments (67)
You have excuses for everything!
Chances Are, You gonna mess it up! Watch....
You not young! You old. Uh! Older, Hell! With A Pension. Go for the lovvv!
Would You Choose $500,000,000 Over Love, With The Woman Of Your Dreams In Your Present Life????
Just Saying! & Asking?...
I Do Not! Calls Landline phones.
" I only call mobile phones and solar phones"
Please! Get in tune, with 2017/ 2018
Hell! Yeah.....
Wealth does not concern me. I'm not wealthy and I don't have much desire to be wealthy. But I'm comfortable and I wish to remain so. Love seldom survives poverty. When poverty enters by the front door, love usually walk out the back door. And neither of us worked all our lives to suffer in our old age.
and no, I'm not thinking marriage yet, but if given the proper opportunity, it may well lead to that.
Is This Lady Across The Street! The One, Who Thought You Were A Homeless Person?!!!
I can only hope that she's not just kind with me because she feels guilty.
but no, She won't treat me the way she does if she did not like me.
Ah, there she leaves her place now. probably coming here. I'd be gone for a while. After a glass of wine I'll have to pick up some take-aways for us.
Oops! I Knew It.
Because You mention! Across The Street, Too many Times....
And for the pass 3/4 years knowing you! I know how to look for the key words that you uses.....
Anyway! Step by step. And Don't Mess This One Up Too!.....
I thought the first paragraph, in fact the first sentence, explained that. no, I won't mess it up.
by the way, I did not mess the other one up either. It was just not viable. Anyway, we are still friends and we exchange the occasional e-mail. She also found a new love and I'm glad for her.
Anyway, got the KFC and going to eat at her place. Then I'd leave her in peace to do her washing. She says that she cannot get anything done while I'm around so I'll have about two hours before she's done.
live every moment
you had to be told that?
But how about the climate environment in UK? to settle down abroad in an elder age is not easy ...Better she stays with you in both familar place. and you also can visit her country in suitable time later.
As I said earlier, emigration is not an option for me. Our currency is too weak; between the exchange rate and fiscal control, it will kill me me financially. Where I can lead an comfortable old age here, I'll live in poverty in the UK.. If we are to spend our old age together, it will have to be here.
Saw enough comments to see if you got big money she would be replaced by a different woman every night, your a prince
get her to take a photo of you sometime i have been here a couple years and you havent changed a bit and yes i know i can talk neither have I but if you can pull a hottie you cant be too decrepit
The general consensus appears to be 'Don't ask'. I planned to ask her sometime this weekend but I'll take the advise and let it slide for a while.
I'll wait a month or three but I need to know what she plans. No matter how well we get on, I'm not prepared to 'waste' two years or more in a relationship without a future.
I'm getting older and I want to settle with somebody. And that has to happen while we can still enjoy life. Two years is a large portion of the rest of my life and I'd rather spend it to find the 'right one' before pursuing a pleasant relationship that will end prematurely.
I know it sounds harsh but it has to be. And I'll give it a few months so we can both form a better picture of where we are going. We may even get fed-up with each other before that time.
The general consensus appears to be 'Don't ask'. I planned to ask her sometime this weekend but I'll take the advise and let it slide for a while.
I'll wait a month or three but I need to know what she plans. No matter how well we get on, I'm not prepared to 'waste' two years or more in a relationship without a future.
I'm getting older and I want to settle with somebody. And that has to happen while we can still enjoy life. Two years is a large portion of the rest of my life and I'd rather spend it to find the 'right one' before pursuing a pleasant relationship that will end prematurely.
I know it sounds harsh but it has to be. And I'll give it a few months so we can both form a better picture of where we are going. We may even get fed-up with each other before that time.
Sometimes they run interference no matter their good intentions.
A professional matchmaker would have the futures' details pinned
down.Life is messy when left to your own devices.
Don't tell me.
I like things simple and uncomplicated. And this is a complication I don't like But I'll give it chance and see which way it goes.
If you want to build up something serious, you need to know if she wants something similar.
I thought you have left us! It's really good to see you again.
And at last somebody who thinks the same as I do. But I'll give it a few months to see which way it is going.
too early to rejoice as nothing is set in concrete yet. Many a slip between the hand and the mouth.