Age a state of mind or statement of uselessness?
Isn't it unique the many varied profiles of women who are 65 or older who have one foot on a banana peel and the other on the threshold to a nursing home looking for a useless wanker who is equally or darn near on the same threshold that they will suggest age is just a number or age is not so important. Yet, in my opinion it sounds like a tesimony they are afraid of growing old and bitter and alone. Very sad indeed. To consider most are divorced by the time they reach 40 to 50They dont want another old useless wanker that they kicked to curb and a guy doesnt want an angry miserable woman who will just spend more time picking out the faults or traits they dont like in a new man either unless perhaps he has a good estate planned.
If you are a poor broken down old fool living on social security from month to month going nowhere what chance does anyone have in entertaining a woman at any level?
Yes we all want a second chance at love and a love that doesnt live 4000 to 12000 miles away
We can all say if we find a personality we can put up with then age is not a factor but having to be middle aged or younger and being compatible would be an ideal hope and predominate reason why we are here or on any other social dating site. Yet, perhaps to be realistic, many should be grateful or happy if we can find anyone suitable. Yet, perhaps its not the search or the chase or catch that matters anymore. Perhaps its OK that people can come here just to exchange banter and not worry about if anyone suits us or is the ideal age or emotional maturity as they say if the shoe fits wear it. Everyone has their reasons why they are here. It is not for me to judge but I find it unique and sad to see my generation is divorced picky and overly critical of the quality of friends they want. Perhaps I am equally guilty of that as well. The problem is our expectations we place upon ourselves and others. After awhile we learn that we sabotage our efforts to fail in finding anyone because of our unrealistic expectations. Something to ponder in your travels here.
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If we really value ourselves we deserve the best!!! This doesn't mean expecting perfection as it doesn't exist...but someone suitable and compatible.
I myself prefer NO company rather than bad company.
A fairly frightening percentage of people between 38 and 50 have no pension plans in place since they know they will win the lottery
most kids at school intend to be international pop stars or famous sportspeople
What we definitely learned was that keeping company with someone for the sake of not being alone is not great, but enjoying someone's company for a reason, a season or a lifetime is pretty good.
We live in hope, we don't accept what we already learned won't last.
Picky? Yes. Overly critical - mmm. Don't think so. But then I wouldn't, because obviously I think my criteria are valid, we all think that!
Cheer up
I think being picky is totally alright independently of age, You can't enforce affection anyway.
Also to repead something failed would make nobody happy. It's good to have this room to see the different statements/ views, behavior and to respect other.
Si, estoy completamente en tu opinion. Tambien sobre todo, no deseo educar a un hombre que no tenga modales.
Mucho exito!
I still have plenty of life in me, lots more places to travel too, lots more early mights and late mornings
If i don't find someone who suits, I'll do without. I have a good life as it is so that can continue.
As said earlier, no relationship is better than a bad one.
I also liked the statement that we are divorced, picky, and overly critical of the quality of friends they want. I for one would not like to spend whatever time I have left with someone I did not like or even just disagree with. Life is short and when you get to the point that it reveals this then don"t spend what little you have left on grief and disappointment. You should go out laughing, not crying!
There is no human being more "picky" than me, I´m twice divorced of 2 extraordinary men and the list of potential contestants has been quite long...no way I´ll stop my search of that person I think is my complement (and vice versa) where ever he is, and no way I settle down for a different one, I might have all fun I want meanwhile but if is not him it will be nobody....If my intention is to love someone else, first thing I must do is to love & respect who I became after everything I´ve learned, I think I do that being honest ......and picky lol!
Oh! and just for the record, I´ve been this way my whole life, 50 years and counting.
Hope you find what you are looking for
Having said that, we don't know what communication is going on behind the scenes. Not everybody lives out their private life in public.
All I can say is, it is a beautiful world and a beautiful life.
If I may ask, is the issue about what we write in our profiles and what are we expecting? How we present ourselves out there with the hope that we can match what complements ourselves, in terms of intelligence or dullness, beauty or not so beauty, character or lack of it, etc. etc.?
First of on my part, when I answer any questions and or fill in the blanks of what is expected of me to respond, I do it very honestly and very real as though it doesn't matter who will read it or not.
I originally was not searching at all. I was almost forced to be a member on here just to vent out all my pain and sorrows about life and my divorce. I was invited to post all my poems (500 of them and all deleted by me) and found out what a great feeling it is to be able to write all my sentiments. It was cathartic. To cut the story short, love found me. Very extraordinary experience and even if didn't last forever as I would have loved, it gave me the most beautiful experience and that is a gift I will never lose.
Anyways, I feel that you have an issue with expectations. We all do, but it is very individual as to what each of us are expecting and how we fulfill those expectations. You keep saying that you don't want to raise your expectations for whatever reason is your choice.
Remember we are all here for a reason. Whether looking for the perfect or not so perfect out there, soul mate or just plain friends. We are here and it is grand. At least to me.
Anyways, in terms of relationship, yes, some can choose to be alone than with a miserable one. Then again, some want to have a miserable relationship than being alone. Whatever it is that we seek in life, we are here and hope we all find what we are seeking or just be happy being here.
it is not the goal that we want to achieve but how we achieve it is more interesting sometimes.
For me, both my being here and whatever comes are worth every effort I draw when I respond and or post my thoughts. So, I guess I can say good luck to everyone and for those who are my friends, and you know who you all are, I am very thankful, I meet you here. So many I have met in person and continue the friendships we have and to me that is priceless.
Anyways, good blog, just the same.
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