NEVER Say NEVER ~ I'M SO CONFUSED..He Wanted me & then Dismissed me !!!

Needed to share this - As I'm just so confused?

How could I have been so misguided...so stupid...
~ & Of course & Fortunately it is So...~ ...Nothing Worthwhile can be Pretended, Forced or Bought...


Why was I rejected? .... Was I unattractive...not his type...not even for a fling? Wink wink...

~ Not to bad mouth him - but I accepted that he wasn't at his best - Tall, dark & handsome -
and yet he was also overweight ...and his snoring would've made any girrll run for the hills...


Yet,...How could I have been so misguided??...I thought there was a potential for real chemistry?

I was also open minded and so accepting to just enjoying this time together - whatever that might or
might not have been...


Long story short - Met a 'seemingly' great Guy, & We spent a holiday together...
...He was into me as I was into him.

During our time together - out of nowhere he decided that there was just "no chemistry!!"
& his ego was big enough to 'tell me just that' !!!

Yikes!!!...imagine being on holiday with someone... & it comes down to him deciding for the both of us - that there was just no chemistry...??

Who said there was no chemistry? The truth of this would've naturally evolved ...as the days continued...
Had that been allowed ...

He seemingly also expected me to be "All over him" - yet not for one moment did he use his worldly charm & experience to 'turn me on"....

His self absorbed behaviour...resulted in me not being at ease to just be my spontaneous Self ....
Or to continue being attracted to him...to be able to be "All over him"...wink wink

He also didn't want to..." just sleep with me" - to have another notch on his well travelled belt of conquests...
"You see - he was more deeper than that...wink wink!!"...

From my own experiences & Goes without saying - 'A MAN knows just how to turn a woman on!!!"...

Which hot blooded guy wouldn't want some hot sex...besides us females need memories too?? wink wink

I thought we shared maturity to value our friendship and then go with the flow...
& How wrong I was...

That's why I say - "Never say Never.!!!"...I was 'dismissed ...as not even an option'...


I would've pursued an in-depth discussion to understand just what was going on with him...& Why
the hot and then the cold & distant behaviour?...

It was I that ended the holiday before it was to end...It was I that coldly greeted him and moved on...

And it is I - that still can't understand why he was like this to me...doh


teddybear

Comments (46)

Dedovix
Long story short - uh oh

wink

happy new year

this my personal opinion -and as such it could be tottaly wrong

the chemistry wasnt both sided ,
1to1to1
I tend to agree with what Dedovix said earlier.
Soul_Whisperer101
Thanks for your wisdom...

And a Happy 2018 to you too...
And Enjoy...

teddybear
nonsmoker
OK Soul_Whisperer101 ,

Tell me more, Tell me more!

I'll be Danny dancing

"Summer lovin', had me a blast
Summer lovin', happened so fast
Met a girl crazy for me" dancing dancing
ashlander
It was the wee Willie winkie
roseofsharon1
Lets just cut through the crap. The guy (or boy) was a JERK. Put it where it belongs on him, not you. For you just another lesson learned and, you just keep on walking. Hold that head up!
hatelies
I think yu not confused yu just needed more time together
thou chemistry could strike at a later stage sometimes at first sight

or he didn't meet you expectations and it killed your moods..
or maybe you became more nervous than being comfortable with him

you should find out if you still want him chase after him it could work wonders
good luck.
Vierkaesehoch
SW. Reads like a two Rand pulp romance novel. Excuse many of us for not following the genre. But he did sound like a crumb. What's the word for crumb in Afrikaans? Best for 2018.
Bnaughty
No wonder he dumped you, you don´t stop talking!
ashlander
Your choice in music clear as a bell. He can't dance.
Soul_Whisperer101
Btw...when I was with him...he did most of the talking...he's American....really very informed...travelled and educated....

Anyways..THANKS for the great comments and insight...

Appreciated...
....BE BLESSED


Love...Peace and Light Always!!!


teddybear
Bnaughty
Only joking Soul Whisperer, for what it´s worth I would bang youhandshake
ashlander
Disappointing American men...move to line two. I'll introduce you..
Robert,Wen and the new guy,meet soul whisperer
Cachuchi
Ash, If he couldn´t dance, he probably couldn´t .....put dirty clothes in their place????? dunno

Come on lady! it´s january 1st!!!!!! new year = new life confused Do not overthink! it doesn´t help (neither this blog in case you haven´t noticed yet ) wine
ashlander
I think that going to a bar to dance is superb idea.just NOT Hooters
Soul_Whisperer101
When one understands something then easier to let it go...
....As Overthinking kills the spirit...confused


Anyways It's a Brand New Year - 2018 dancing dancing


And for Us Women ~ "WOMEN ARE MEANT TO BE LOVED & NOT UNDERSTOOD"....





dancing dancing


lips lips
ashlander
2018 options dancing and/ or karaoke
Cachuchi
"And for Us Women ~ "WOMEN ARE MEANT TO BE LOVED & NOT UNDERSTOOD"....

I certainly love who said that but...he wasn´t talking about me with that one LOL!

Hope you find what you are looking for, do not know why but I think you´ll find a new love very soon, I´ll drink for that wine

wave
mollybaby
Tough truth was, he just wasn't into you blues

Amazingly, not all men are ruled by their lower brains. Some need more.

Women just aren't as used to rejection as men are, and take it more personally.

If a man had written this blog, he'd have been told to get over it, that it was her right to reject him. I'm afraid it cuts both ways.

Better luck next time bouquet
Soul_Whisperer101
This was a while back...and my first 'rejection ever',,,so maybe that's why I'm battling... wink wink...

..he had nothing to fear as I never had any plans of walking off into the sunset with him...Lol...

In retrospect...He was too opionated ...everything was about him and his world - actually very selfish....

So even if this experience was different and he was into me...I would've rejected him in the end cos of his huge Ego....
Hello Soul,

That quote might be right about women not meant to be understood. laugh
Cachuchi
In case it was needed to say Johnny, you and I are no soulmates head banger
Cach....I don't understand. laugh
Maya74
It seems to me that you both didn't feel chemistry for each other, just he was the one who said that.

Rejection is always painful...

hug
Elegsabiff
Did you get it on, then he said the chemistry wasn't there to keep going? Because that can happen. You both need to work hard to create something that simply isn't happening naturally, and that takes a lot of dedication and commitment, and will still never be as hot as when you look across the table at someone and your insides jump to attention. The work is worth doing if you have to stay together. Ain't worth doing unless there's solid rock to build on.

If you never got it together in bed - you said not even a fling, and also that he didn't just want a notch on his belt - then the chemistry definitely wasn't there.

And hey, if he's having problems getting it on, and was hoping you'd work a miracle, then who is the one with a problem? Could be he is blaming you for his inadequacy - damn, hate it when I hear of men doing that!

Shit happens. You moved on. Keep moving, don't look back. handshake
Crazyheart38
Happy New Year 2018, Soul!

This sounds not too complicated ...no chemistry obviously and I think it's something you can't push to grow between two persons. If there's no enough chemistry at the beginning then it's not something I'll really invest time with...don't know but some people believe that persistence and giving a relationship a chance to grow could do the trick, maybe. sigh
Soul_Whisperer101
Yip ...Rejection is painful
...& So is the Truth...

He just wasn't that into me..
..& I too wasn't just so easily into him either...

It wasn't Easy come...Easy to

...& Best to let Go..& Move On....





wave


wine


wink wink
Soul_Whisperer101
In my previous comment it should read - ....."Easy come...Easy Go"...

& Re my Experience here ~ Best to Let Go... "Nothing More ~ Nothing Less"... cool





HAPPY 2018 TO ALL OF YOU HERE ON CS...

MAY IT BE A TRULY GREAT YEAR !!!

& WITH LOVE ...PEACE...& LIGHT... ALWAYS!!!..


.cool


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1to1to1
Hello Soul, wave There is those occasions when a person finds that special someone, or so they think, then find out ,theres nothing there, nothing in common.
And there s those occasions where a person is looking for some one ,who ll give them that special person ,they were with in a past relationship.
In my case , I was one of those people ,who was always on the go, and didn t know what I wanted.
All I can say is don t be confused, or saddened by the situation, you did nothing wrong, learn from it, and take that wisdom forward.
Hope I made some sense,
IncubusBaig


Yikes indeed... what a disgrace.. who the hell does that doh

Chivalry is mostly lost nowadays I suppose.. or even common courtesy come to that.. frustrated

But like everyone else has said.. you'll be fine of course.. just a matter of time. comfort

Welcome to the blogs by the way..

bouquet
Soul_Whisperer101
Just to Thank ALL of U for reaching out...
...for sharing...for the great advice ...encouragement & caring...

I read this the other day...
..."I don't want to Control....Or be Controlled...
...I just want some one to be by my side"...




& Be Blessed...

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teddybear
Rayita
Chemistry is lesser than deep feelings of bonding and friendship .
perhaps you both jump to quick! into the sheet.
Something must be wrong with him. I wouldn't mind taking a holiday with you grin
loulou77
Think of it as a good thing...
Who wants to be around someone who thinks of themself as better than you...professor

Happy New Year...


wine
2828sun
handshake The mind is everything what you think you becomewow He lost & you won crying cheering readprofile reunion
Catfoot
Sorry to hear about this.

I guess he was just not that much into you.grin
cheers
Soul_Whisperer101
Thanks again for ALL the great comments...

I think it wasn't really about..."He's just not that into Me"...Lol

But more the result of his 'Narcissistic Personality'
- which includes an inflated sense of self importance...
- long term 'grandiosity'...
- lack of empathy...
- fragile self esteem
- deep need for ongoing admiration...
Resulting in troubled relationship/s...moping help





teddybear
Catfoot
Ah Soul
I know those symptoms. When a person is in love with him/her self you cannot compete. Maybe better when the break comes sooner than later.sad flower
hug
Soul_Whisperer101
Yes Ur so right Catfoot...

Never an option to be with a Narcissist...



May 2018 truly be a Great Year to You & Yours


wine



teddybear
Catfoot
Soul,
We all have our problems. It's so easy to give advice to others but we battle to solve our own. My 'Yours' is not mine for the duration, A problem I have to solve in time but it is going so well that I cannot find the heart to deal with it at the present.sigh
cheers

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