Be Yourself

It is so easy to spin a yarn to impress somebody but it always backfires. If it requires a lie to be the person that somebody wants you to be, it is doomed to failure; for one lie is never enough. You have to keep lying to maintain all the previous lies and before you know your whole life will be build on lies. You may even believe your own lies in the end but sooner or later the whole card house will collapse.professor

If you are not what the object of your affections requires you to be, give it up. You can never be exactly what other people want you to be; they will always find fault with it. You will be pretending and that will make you a fake. And sooner or later fakes are always discovered. doh

Don’t try to change yourself into what others want you to be and don’t expect them to do it; you will be wasting your time with one unsuccessful relationship after the other. Precious time that could have been used to find somebody who likes you just the way you are. innocent

Sure, work on your shortcomings, by all means. Develop and better yourself. Those who can accept you with all your flaws will only like you more if you improve yourself. Widen your horizons but in the directions that you want to go. Don’t allow others to decide what you want to be. Only you know who you really want to be. thumbs up

Remember, you cannot ever please everybody so please yourself. Those who do not like you as you are not worth your time. grin
cats meow cats meow

Don't allow your Monday to be blue. Paint it black!wave

Comments (151)

Angelpepper
Bob

wave I Know! This shiitt Right.
Catfoot
Hi Angel,
Right, you are, Must I add a red disclaimer to the blog?grin
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scoobler
Bollocks! I'm happily enjoying an alcoholic beverage and up way too late for my country's time zone (because!)...

Good blog, because if those that are to be are future partners can't accept us for who we are in the first place, then what's the f~cking point?

I think it's all the pretentious people that make a big deal of what they earn, brand of car, how many kids etc. sticking them on Facebook like it's a big competition - thinking it makes them better people? Honesty is the best policy and nobody needs any material shit to be a worthwhile human being...

It's all a far cry from when we only had our local pub (a zone of a couple of miles!) and the local people we knew because we simply didn't know any further, that's the way it was! cheers
scoobler
Hello Angel!!! laugh
Angelpepper
Hello! Scoobler..........laugh
MimiArt7348
Everything about me is fake! Even my current CS profile pic- I photoshopped it to make it look as though I have flawless skin! drinking
People say its hard to tell the truth but its just so easy, you don't have to make up anything or remember anything, its idiot proof. Even an idiot can tell the truth.
Angelpepper
MimiArt

Got dog! I Knew It........rolling on the floor laughing
MimiArt7348
Angel! applause



Scoobler wave have we met before? wink
Catfoot
Hi Scoobler
I think this is the reason why many relationships and marriages fail. At some stage you get fed up with pretending. You can only change if you really want to, not because other people want you to.dancing
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Catfoot
Mimi
I've been wondering about the same thing. She appears to be new but she seems blogwise.laugh
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Catfoot
Mimi
does your arty know about your 'flawed skin'. I hope so.laugh
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Angelpepper
MimiArt
Not This Year!.......drinking
Catfoot
Hi Track
I see you got some stick early on.laugh

I wanted to comment but then I laid off. Just in case the stick came my way too. Had enough of that this week end.rolling on the floor laughing

Talking about Idiots, even they can be mistaken for wise as long as they keep their traps shut.grin
cheers
Cat

Be yourself...good one...no New Years resolution needed...wine

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Hi all...
Often, the smartest thing you can say is nothing at all. cheers
Catfoot
And Good Morning Mimi!
no need to ignore me because Angel pipped you to the post this morning
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Johnny_Sparton
Cat, if one cannot live their life as genuinely as possible....that would have to be tough.

cheers
Angelpepper
Heyyyy! Loulou.


roll eyes And you too Johnny.
Catfoot
Hi Lou,
I'm so surprised to see you here at this time of the day. I have gotten used to you commenting while I'm asleep. Got the day off?grin
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Angelpepper
Bob

beer I Am Just On My Way To Bed!
Johnny_Sparton
Going to be too soon Pepps. roll eyes rolling on the floor laughing
Catfoot
Track
Lord Faulkner said: if it is not necessary to say something then it is necessary to say nothing.

Some of these Britishers were very wise. laugh
cheers
Hey

Angel...and John...wave

Cat

It is a night off...for a change...patients should be happy...lol...laugh



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Catfoot
Hi Johnny.
the thing is if somebody does not like you the way that you are, he/she does not like you at all. There is nothing you can do to please that person. There will always be something else to change.

cheers
Catfoot
Angel & Johnny,
I just got out of bed. I thought I'll put the blog up and then have breakfast. As it is I did not get a chance to make coffee yet. but I'm not complaining. Nothing like a good old chat before brealfast.laugh
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Catfoot
Hi Lou,
Enjoy it, go paint the town red. don't waste it.applause cheering
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scoobler
So really what you're saying is that people should be honest from the start?

Honest people will get honesty because they want truth, honest people don't lie...!!!
MimiArt7348
LouLou applause bouquet



Catfoot, I'm actually quite worried now. My Arty is scheduled for an eye surgery ( cataract removal ) on one eye and will get the other eye operated on 6 months later. From what I gathered, people that have had this operation done, they could see really clear after that........uh oh


Better get Art to marry MiMi before he changes his mind!! laugh
Angelpepper
Bob

Please! Don't Take This The Wrong Way.
But! Hun, I Am Headed To Bed


" And Remember! It's Not You. It's Me, That Is Going To Sleep. Not You"....conversing
Mimi


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wine


Don't worry I have seen that type of surgery...very quick and good results...


Cat


The town is officially red...lol...wine


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Catfoot
hi Scoobler,
Yes, it does not pay to tell a lie to impress somebody. When I was young I lost out on a very nice gal just because I tried to impress her with a BS story, She dropped me like a hot potato when she discovered that I lied to her.

And the irony is that it did not matter to her at all whether I could play the violin or not. And even today I don't know why I told her I could.doh
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Catfoot
Mimi
Don't worry too much, It is a very standard procedure these days, he'd be just fine.

BTW I saw him on one or two blogs last night before I went to bed.
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Cat

Lies catch up with us...eventually...dated a cool boy in school...found out he was dyslexic...by his actions not his confession...

He could have saved himself alot of problems being truthful...
Catfoot
Angel,
Ok honey, I just want to finish watching the game and then I'l join you. keep the sheets warm.laugh
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Catfoot
Lou, then paint it green.laugh

Dyslexic people can be very sensitive about their condition. I don't know why because there is no disgrace in it. My ex-wife's sister is dyslexic and she hides it from everybody. Not even I was supposed to know about it. So silly.
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Cat

Back then there was no name for it...must of thought he was stupid but gorgeous...lol...laugh

He is doing good anyways...has a business in USA...but I think he is born again Christian...some people need it I guess...dunno

Cheers


wine
scoobler
Catfoot, it's nice that you realise where you've been, and are very in tune with yourself with the way you write your blogs etc. Love can be so simple and yet such a mystery at the same time... Sorry to be boring but what else is there but time and truth? cheers
Catfoot
Lou,
Some people need religion in their lives and thrive on it while others just use it. Again I think it is a matter pretending with some people. but that is their business, If there is an afterlife then they will have some explaining to do.

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Catfoot
hi Scoobler,
No, you're not boring.

You see, I live a simple, uncomplicated life. I avoid people, situations and things that can complicate my life. I do care about what people think of me but could not care less if they like me or not. Maybe a boring life but I sleep well at night.
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4MaryB: "bowl of life "(meet us in the ecards)

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