Be Yourself
It is so easy to spin a yarn to impress somebody but it always backfires. If it requires a lie to be the person that somebody wants you to be, it is doomed to failure; for one lie is never enough. You have to keep lying to maintain all the previous lies and before you know your whole life will be build on lies. You may even believe your own lies in the end but sooner or later the whole card house will collapse.
If you are not what the object of your affections requires you to be, give it up. You can never be exactly what other people want you to be; they will always find fault with it. You will be pretending and that will make you a fake. And sooner or later fakes are always discovered.
Don’t try to change yourself into what others want you to be and don’t expect them to do it; you will be wasting your time with one unsuccessful relationship after the other. Precious time that could have been used to find somebody who likes you just the way you are.
Sure, work on your shortcomings, by all means. Develop and better yourself. Those who can accept you with all your flaws will only like you more if you improve yourself. Widen your horizons but in the directions that you want to go. Don’t allow others to decide what you want to be. Only you know who you really want to be.
Remember, you cannot ever please everybody so please yourself. Those who do not like you as you are not worth your time.
Don't allow your Monday to be blue. Paint it black!
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Thanks for the reassurance.
He's vying for sympathy from MiMi by talking about his 'maaaaaaaajor' surgeries 24/7
Catfoot, think he had a sudden urge ( nope, not THAT urge!
That's good! I know several people who had cataracts removed and they all are very happy with the results. Actually, with my poor eyesight I was hoping that I had cataracts but the quack said no, none such luck. I just have bad eyes. I think I messed mine up with computers
Oscar Wilde
Good morning
Are you telling me that I have bum eyes?
This is a complicated topic, although it seems simple on the surface...
Yes, it is complicated. If you write down what you think of yourself and ask four other people to write down what they think of you, none will be the same. Some people see things in you that others don't see and people never see you the same as you see yourself. This is one of the reasons why it is not easy to describe yourself.
Molly, you walk too fast! Just because you have wayyyyy longer legs than my snooker-table legs, doesn't mean you can walk wayyyyyy ahead of us in search of that small cafe
Leaving that two poor Arthurs behind huffing and puffing! And my Arty for a moment thought the other Arthur might not be able to make it alive!
It might have stopped the complaining too
It is always easier to see the shortcomings of other people. Our own are not so bad and we have learned to live with them.
I just happen to wonder if your profile mentions that you're the athletic type.
Maybe it is time for a revamp, to catch some unsuspecting male, yanno
Anyway, if you too were in the bushes, I'd say you would choose the latter option
This is a disgrace, I did my profile when I joined and updated it once in the first year. my pics are almost five years old. I should really update it, but somehow I never get to it. but then I don't really bother because I'm not here to get dates. There are enough single women around.
I thing that depends largely in whose hands the bird is.
that is what they say about us! You can take a boer out of the bush but you cannot take the bush out of a boer.
Do you mean shorn like the collaborators during the war? Something like Ryan's daughter?
but jokes aside, they are pleasant and make good girlfriends or wives.
It's like your resume. You search for the smallest thing that can count in your favor and then from a pebble of sand you develop it into an anthill. Not important at all but it sound grand.
I have no problem in putting your best foot in front. we all do that. We certainly don't advertise our bad points.
What I'm talking about is inventing things that ain't so. Like telling somebody that you're an astronaut when you're in fact spraying insecticides over corn fields.
If you want to make something known to all while keeping it a secret to to me, post it on FB.
If I discover that somebody told me a lie I immediately wonder what other lies they told me and I doubt everything else they tell me afterwards.
I can't even re gift with out getting caught as I did one Christmas.
So the best thing for me is just be me, take me or leave me.
My motto is, I would rather be I am as I am and not be like for what I am than being loved for who I am not.
Yes, be who I am and be who I am.
I don't care if so many people don't like me, I am formidable as I am with the truth that I believe in.
Catfoot, too much information and most of it unnecessary because people are bored maybe!
Agreed!! Accept me as I am or lump it. One way or the other it does not matter to me if they like me. As long as I know that I live a live that is more or less decent and that I don't harm other people willfully, I'm happy with myself.