The Mating Game

The world is filled with single people looking for somebody to share their lives (or maybe just the evening) with. At least some will show an interest in you, other will be indifferent, blissfully unaware of your existence and some will not like you; simple as that! So why do some people have so much difficulty in hitting it off with the opposite gender? It’s the easiest thing in the world; you only need to know who to go for.professor

I’m sure other guys may have better strategies but this has worked for me – when I was young and now that I’m older. All that changed is the age of my ‘marks’. The important thing to remember is that a woman cannot like you until she becomes aware of you.batting

When I walk into a place, whether that is a disco or a charity event, first thing I do is to establish who is looking at me. If I like one of those, I’m half way there. If not, I look a bit further and when I find somebody I like, I make myself visible to her. If I detect reasonable interest I will proceed, otherwise I look for somebody else. Eye contact is most important. This process of silent surveillance will continue until I find somebody I fancy who shows enough interest in me to pursue. I will not go after a woman unless if she shows some interest as well.flirty

The next step is to establish contact. I may ask her do dance or simply park myself between her and the toilet or any other route that she is likely to take. Then I will take a glimpse at her every now and then to show her that I’m interested; without staring at her all the time. If she has lost interest, I drop it and start all over again. uh oh

If she is as keen as I am to meet, she’ll want to check her make-up much sooner than later. As she passes, I’ll smile or wink an eye at her and if she smiles back, I’ll corner her when she comes back. This is her last chance to escape. If she avoids me, I start the whole process over but it seldom happens at this stage if the groundwork was done properly.dancing

If she does not get up, I’ll try to establish eye contact with her during one of my glimpses towards her. That done, I’ll smile at her and if it is returned I’ll look away pretending to be shy and repeat the process once or twice more before walking over to her. wink

And now you have to play it very carefully. Ask her to dance, buy her a drink, do anything to get her to be in your company for a few minutes and remember easy does it. Tell her your name but don’t ask for her name yet. Ideally you want her to volunteer that. Pay her a compliment or two but don’t overdo and don’t tell her she’s pretty or sexy. Rather compliment her hairstyle, her hands, her taste in clothing or something to that effect.conversing

At this stage the only thing that can ruin everything is overdoing. Offer her a seat; do anything to keep her a bit longer. Keep it light, smile a lot and be confident but don’t crowd her. Stick to small talk, don’t start pouring out your love stories and don’t even think about touching her until she touches you. Don’t hog the conversation; give her a chance to talk as well. Sweep her off her feet but don’t run over her with a steam roller. Believe me; it works and most of the time you will leave at very least with her phone number to set up a date the following week.applause

And dating sites work exactly the same. Start by looking at who is looking at you and take it from there. Don’t waste your time with those not interested in you.idea
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Now go out and get her.wave

And as always, you don't need to pay me for this valuable advice. I render it as a free service to promote faster hook-up between men and women.devil

Comments (100)

MimiArt7348
Art had me at hello smitten


Hello Catfoot applause
Catfoot
Hi Mimi
why didn't you look at me a bit more?laugh
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MimiArt7348
I did!!! applause

Only you didn't notice coz you were busy looking elsewhere ....blues





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Catfoot
Mimi
Ah, you still remember about that elsewhere.laugh

She's is a marvelous girl and we still have sporadic contact. She met somebody since then and I'm happy for her. She deserves it.
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Catfoot
Actually that adventure showed me that CS can work. We just met at a wrong time. My life was in tatters at the time.
Rayita
Wow!

I never pay attention to all that kind of approach and game.sound interesting and very caring.
Catfoot
Hi Rayita,
Actually very basic but as I said, it works for me. There is no need to be exuberant. Average people like average partners.
You are one smooth kittycat cool
Catfoot
Hi Molly
Is it really that smooth?

I think it is just natural. What is the point of spending the whole evening trying to convince some girl that she likes me just because I like her? Then I rather go for somebody else who already likes me a bit and we have the whole evening to enjoy and get to know each other better.

We both go home knowing that we enjoyed the evening and there still is the anticipation that more can come of it.

Courting is such a wonderful game. All the early dreams and expectations!smitten
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I am crap at the early stages of relationships..the courting stage doh

I never notice if somebody is interested in me, they would have to mow me down with a car to get my attention laugh
Catfoot
molly
You don't have to be aware of it. i think that is the man's job to get your attention although, if he's like me, he'd first consider those who show interest before paying attention to you and then it would only be if he does not fancy any of what is on hand.
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So I would be 2nd choice mumbling


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It sounds like your approach is a science, not a game...
Catfoot
molly
No, everything but that, rather the less preferred route. think about it; I have not found anybody i like among those who show interest and I'm now looking among those who are unaware of me. No, definitely not a second choice; just more effort and still looking for who I like fancy most.smitten
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Catfoot
Hi Pat
Well, then a scientific game but really more an art than scientific. Science is too exact. Too many variables here; this game is played with finesse.laugh
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Cat, I think you could give classes

I don't know if they would work the same way for women though

But you could try grin
Catfoot
Molly,
As I said, other guys may have better strategies but this works for me. And yes, it certainly does not not work on all women but it gets the type of women I want. Some women wants to be courted more aggressively and some will jump on your lap if you show the least interest. I'm not interested in those.
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I am neither of those...I just need to be mown down by a car laugh
For me its easy. I go online, make a few inane comments and talk a load of shit about salami, the ladies get to thinking... Bazinga! the old inbox lights up like a christmas tree. I slick back my greasy mullet, arc up a durry, and its on like donkey kong.
Catfoot
Molly
Will a steamroller do? Then I only have to adapt one tiny part of my strategy to get you.devil
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Pat, admit it, you have never had a Christmas tree
Cat, a steamroller may be a bit slower. I don't know if that would work
I think it would have to be one quick mow-down to work on me
But i am open to offers
Catfoot
hey Pat,
I never liked Donkey Kong but I'm sure your strategy, though much simpler than mine, will also yield dividends. It's all just a matter of what you want.laugh

And i don't bother on-line. There are enough talent around me here at home.wow
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Catfoot
Molly,
I suppose we could knee-halter you before I start the assault with my souped up steam roller. I'm so used to the steam roller politics in this country that it will be hard to adapt to using less force.laugh
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I'm not sure what knee haltering is, but it sure sounds kinky! wink
Catfoot
molly
Probably not the correct English word. It's a way to tie up a horse so that he can walk around but cannot run away.rolling on the floor laughing
It still sounds a bit kinky when you are proposing it for a woman devil
Annleerose
It is much easier for a man to do all of the above . I do not think a woman should ..............
Catfoot
hi molly
Maybe I should explain a bit more. The horse's halter is tied to his knee in such a way that he cannot lift his head high enough to run but allows him to walk around to graze and drink water.

We can give it a try if you wish. I sound like more fun that handcuffs.devil
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Catfoot
hi Annlee,
Yep, it is meant for a man. If a woman pulls this on me I'll run for the hills.hole

It is here for the benefit of men who think like me and for the ladies to suggest some refinements. I don't consider this as the ultimate scheme and any new ideas will be appraised for utilization.laugh
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Lamhe
Thanks for the tips...never knew it was so easyapplause
Catfoot
hi Lamhe
yes, it is so easy and now that you are aware of how at least some men operate, you can smooth out things even more by showing an early interest in a man if you like him. Most women play hard-to-get too early. That should only come once you have the man hooked. Before that he'll just go off again.laugh
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Bob
Hmm! Okay.....conversing
Catfoot
hi Angel,
Of course I'm open for improvements and/or refinements. devil
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Crazyheart38
Cat,

nice approachlaugh some men can't take no for an answer, when you give them a friendly look, they'll push for a s*xual look and start hounding youlaugh
MimiArt7348
Art honey!!! Maybe we should incorporate some knee-haltering into our 'fun sessions' ??? batting daydream
MimiArt7348
Angel applause
Umm..interesting..but this was the way in the old days right?

Now there are short cuts and more direct approach? dunno

Time is speeding up Cat...no time for all those games.laugh
Catfoot
hi Crazy
those who can't take no for an answer often go home alone. They believe that if they persist the woman will give in eventually. but modern women are not that easily swayed. I consider it a waste of time to try to convince somebody that she likes me. If she does not, i move on.
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Catfoot
mimi
The biggest problem is to get the halter over the head. Before that you have no control.laugh
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