Are you selling yourselves?

Of course it is.
Of course we are.
The same way as you would like to look your best on a first date.
We are all in the business of sales, but some are just better salespeople than others.

Yes.

Having a decent profile text on CS is important.

Anyone that contacted me with a badly written profile text with lots of spelling mistakes (and the usual laid back, having a laugh, going with the flow, likes having fun) would't have gotten an answer.

I wouldn't be interested in meeting stupid or lazy people and that would give me the impression that they are.

Hi Wen hope you're well.

Well....while I agree that a profile should have a good presebtation if you wish to "sell" yourself..

But....it's a bit like buying a product in a supermarket...if the package looks good doesn't mean what's inside is good?

As for my own profile...I'm not trying to sell myself but put people off as I'm not looking for anybody.

*presentation...

Wen...I have found that very good and well written profiles it's only an appearance...too good to be true sort of thing.
Unfortunately...in reality people were much different.

The question is...do they walk the talk? After selling themselves...do they keep up their promises?

Thanks, all good Wen.

Not everyone is truthful - that applies to well written and badly written profiles. Both will be apparent after a while I think.

If someone isn't able or can't be bothered to put together one decent sentence on their profile, it wouldn't entice me to get in touch. I haven't had any decent conversation with a guy that had a illegible profile text.

KN, I totally agree with you about badly written profiles, or poor replies.
No decent conversation ever comes from them.
But then, the written word is not for everybody. Some would be better being out there in real life.
And there is always somebody else looking for something different.

Yes Molly, it's not only men on dating sites where some can't spell or don't put emphasis on correct spelling and wording. I joined one of the local Facebook groups were things are sold, and some of the postings there make me cringe...

There could be some matches made in heaven if they figure out what the other person is on about.

KN, we are all attracted by different things, which is good.
There are some lovely people who wouldn't be very good with the written word, but have other qualities which would attract the right person for them, which is great.

That is what a profile is for, selling yourself.

Readed some comments, and profiles,

A bad spelling or buildup, means that the profile is generally not serious ....

My answer: A profile that is written to correctly can also imply that the writer is good with words and an exceptional liar, and can therefore sell better, but can also lie better. Look at the autors of bestsellers....

But, someone that writes in his/her native language will also make less mistakes in the grammatics and buildup of his/her profile. Not all people went to school to learn another language, they just learned by communication. As for myself, I speak eleven languages, but can't write them all. At least, i do five common well.

I can't read one profile where the autor even impley one less good quality of her/ himself. Beside saying...i am not perfect...thats quiet general, isnt? Nobody is perfect, we know that already.

A good idea maybe would be, a site where people only are allowed to put there bad qualitys and habbits on, and how they realy look like, full profile in swimming suite....believe me ladys en gents....you gone have a LOT less anoying private messages

Go ahead, sell yourself

Hi Lamhe

I was 'On Sale' when Art found me here. He thought he got himself a good bargain but little did he know what he actually signed up for.......

That looks like something I wrote in a past profile.

i've got poster board lying around here somewhere i'll have to make up a sign that reads "For Sale"A little wear and tear hear and there but body in reasonable good shape".

BW

mimi I couldn't help it.

Lol I swear I wrote something like that on an old blog/comment. Like minds I guess

Yesssssss

Enjoy your Saturday, Lamhe

@Lamhe, there are several selling themselves and they are very good at doing a careful undersell. They pretend they have almost given up on meeting someone, but for a good reason (I live in a really remote, beautiful, place is often one, or I am focused on giving my children a happy childhood) and they list only one or two attractive-sounding qualities. They don't limit their expectations of the person they want to meet in any way.

The intention is to come across as utterly honest and refreshingly free of fixed ideas, and open to meeting someone extraordinary - you.

They can then tailor their response to your approach to be exactly what you want them to be - chameleon people.

Dangerous people. Because those selling themselves are constantly looking for new buyers, and never settle for one.