Divorced?
This act of treason had always been the biggest imaginable taboo in my family and I have the dubious honor to be the first in the family to have attained such status.
Since then an uncle, my sister and a cousin got divorced but that did not count. My parents continued to recognize my first wife as my rightful wife and saw to it that she was invited to any event where the family would gather. They put me under such pressure that we tried to give it another go but once again it was a no go.
After being happily divorced for eighteen years, during a short spell of temporary insanity, I took the plunge again; just to set the stage to commit the unforgivable crime a second time. For five years my parents stopped to invite my first wife to our family gatherings. My mother passed away while I was married to my second wife but the moment I got divorced again my first wife was called back to take her ‘rightful’ place in the family.
My father’s doing; with maybe a bit of conniving by my sister as well. And I know this will continue until either my father or my first wife goes off to the happy hunting grounds. Does it have to be until death do us part?
This is an awkward situation for I can never take a girlfriend with me to a family gathering because my first wife will be there as sure as there is a sun in the sky. I made that mistake once. My first wife has a way to make people uneasy without attracting the attention of the other people around. She may be a perfect lady on the surface but there is a bìtch lurking beneath.
Now, I don’t mind my first wife. We have discovered many years ago that we are much better friends than lovers. We call one another from time to time and when I happen to be in the suburb where she lives, I normally drop in to say hello. After all, she is the mother of my children but I don’t want her around all the time. For suck’s fake, I have a piece of paper with the court’s stamp on it that says that we are no longer married and our children are grown up and married.
Cheer up! It is almost weekend again!
Comments (101)
I've always been very close to his aunts and cousins.
It could get very awkward at times when strangers came up to us and asked how were we related!
It is awkward to say the least. I feel that they don't have to invite her to EVERY family function. Or maybe she should decline some invitations.
I'm not so sure about that. I think she comes just to spoil the day for my partner.
Come on! Don't be like that.
She is very fond of your father.
As for me, I won't be meeting Art's first wife coz she has passed away. Not likely to meet the second wife either coz she's in another state but if I ever have the fortune to meet her, she'd get to witness how happy Art is with his MiMi!
Just curious, what's the colour of your eyes, Bea?
I know she is but she visits him regularly. Surely that's enough.
How was your date last night?
When is she going back?
I have brown eyes.
The date was ok and she's going back on the fifteenth.
I have known you all my life.
I can read you like a book.
What lead up to this blog?
Why are you venting about this now of all times?
Suffer baby, suffer.
I love Birthday cakes....
No, deep brown, almost darkish.
The emoticons are back!!!!!! Yayyyyy!!!!
Thanks for the heads up! I don't even know who to ask yet. Pity Yorkie is out of bounds. She would have sorted her out in no time.
It is still three weeks. You have time to apply for leave and catch a flight.
I just need to wait to get my hands on the USD1,000,000 reward and I'll be right at your doorstep!!!
Didn't you get it yet. You better push them. You're losing interest.
There'd probably no interest coz I'd have spent all that money in no time!
Btw, how big is your birthday party gonna be?
Sometimes I attend .
My ex mother in law , lives next to me
I have been to her house once this year for ( 2 ) min
They still consider me there in-law
What am I to do ,?
The family was alright
But the dog needed training ,
The dog!
Suddenly I'm glad I don't live on an island. If she lived any closer than the six kilometers between us, I would have gone mad. I would have preferred a thousand miles but she won't comply.
I will comb my hair and the comb will not be tangled
The moisturizer will keep them in line
Soft and neat
I keep to myself , I always do and truste they know
Yes, it is a problem. I have my friends and my sister has her friends. And then we still have family as well.
luckily, with the family we don't pay, Family tradition with us is that the guests pay for and prepare everything. They chipped together and got caterers to do deliver the food.
So each of us only need to pay for our own private party and even then we only supply the meat and own beverages. The guests must provide their own drinks in addition to all the other goodies like salads and starters. Makes parties all that more affordable.
I think it is very insensitive for family to invite an ex, whether wife/husband or partner to a family occasion when they are not with the person anymore, and especially if the person has a new partner.
Won't work with my ex. She is a compulsive nagger and when she gets something into her stubborn had there is nothing to stop her. And she's weird.not in her actions but in her believes. No, the more distance I can have between us the better.
I should stay away but why? I belong there. She is the one who should not be there. They must just not invite her that often. I don't mind if she is there sometimes. but all the time is a bit heavy.
But if you tell them that you will not go if they insist on inviting your ex, and follow through on it, they may think before asking her the next time.
Hmm. maybe next time. I'm not missing anything these coming birthdays. I'll just get a hard baked gal to pair up with. One who won't be scared to cut her down to size. I just thought of the perfect one for that job. I must phone her tonight.
The one I'm dating now will also be good but she'll be back home by then.
I hope you were not thinking about me to sort her out.
I won't do it.
Not by itself, it won't.
::cheers: