Bad Experiences With Men
My jaw wants to unhook when I listen to what some women have to say about their close encounters of the third kind with men. It crossed my mind that some of these women are just out to make men appear as evil monsters but I’m more than prepared to concede that at least some women may have had some really terrible experiences with men.
But all this makes we wonder with exactly what kind of men you are involved with? In all fairness, if you date an undesired character, you must expect to be treated in kind. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t say he has the right to misbehave because he is what he is but you cannot cultivate weeds and expect to pick peaches from it.
If a friend arranged a blind date and he turns out to be weird, kick your friend’s arse. You have been sold out. Otherwise you must take at least some of the blame – even if just for your inability to spot a bad character for they are not that difficult to recognize. They all carry a lot of baggage and it wells up soon enough in conversation. And if you get into it, knowing that you’re dealing with a dubious character, don’t complain about it afterwards because it was your choice to be with such a man.
I have seen it countless times that a woman who comes out of an abusive relationship, just hook up with another bad egg the next time. They find calm relationships dull. Harsh as this may sound, some women are attracted to ruffians and I think they want to be mistreated. I don’t know if they crave for the excitement or the sympathy but they normally get both.
I have also been had by one or two women but they were few and far between. The majority of women are normal and rational. Just like that there are many good men out there but the onus is on you to separate the dregs from the wine. If you pick one loose cannon, we can call it a mistake; it can happen to anybody. More than that, it starts looking like a trend. Remember, nobody can force you to date anybody. It’s your own choice. We cannot always blame others for our own bad choices.
Relax! It is Friday.
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And I love my Arty the most
Is it not funny how people can differ? I like women again.
I love much older men.....
Then I want to rephrase as well. I love YOUNGER women.
Don't worry, I'm kidding. I won't date women who are more than ten years younger than myself. They giggle too much.
I've always had much older men in my life.... Ironically, I married someone who's only 6 years older than I am.
My second wife was 18 years younger than I and age was not the problem in our marriage. My sister has a very successful marriage with a man twenty years her senior.
I think when someone was in an abusive relationship and does not ask themselves how this could happen and does not change himself or herself, then everything will repeat itself in every following relationship because you attract always the one who fits to you like the other side of a zipper with all the good and bad mechanisms.
I do not understand well how any generalization can happen at all about women and men. It has always only do do with the individual.
I once read that women has a built-in sense of what they want for a partner. It further said that if a married woman never met her husband, she would have married somebody similar in any way. When I look around me, it makes sense. Woman hook up with the same kind of men all their lives.
I think it is more or less the same with men. All the women I have been involved with were different to each other but they all had certain similar traits.
It takes time to get to know someone and sometimes it does emerge that someone is not a good person after a period of time.
To get to know someone you have to give them time and the opportunity to do so. Just for myself, I'm not into being a doormat and don't tolerate behaviour I think is unacceptable for any length of time. If I figured out someone isn't ok, I didn't hang around.
I haven't been treated badly by an ex. However, there was a reason why someone became an ex - no one is perfect and everyone has a side to them that can be problematic. I always knew who to keep away from though.
And yet we generalize all the time. If three persons belonging to a certain ethnic group or race were rude to us and we don't know anybody else belonging to that clan, we can easily assume that they are all like that.
Generalization is caused by a lack of enough samples to evaluate.
If somebody is prepared to condemn all of a certain group because of one or two bad incidents, it is not generalization but hate speech.
And that is why you have not been badly treated. It is simple as that.
Then there would be no rough rides
If the ride is to rough
Stop that bus and run like there is no tomorrow
And that is life
just think how boring life would have been if everything went smooth.
Really? The men on this site are angels. Just look at the sincerity in my eyes.
Of course there are a few trolls too.
Luckily I have never directly had a bad experience with a man.
But as you know, it is not really down to luck.
We attract, and are attracted, to the a certain type, to certain traits.
If we do a little bit of introspection, we can look at the bad traits we go for, and choose to not go for those in the future, just the good ones.
But most people don't. Instead choosing to blame every man, and the world. for their 'bad luck'.
But it isn't down to luck, it is down to choice.
It really is as simple as you say. If you sleep with the dogs you wake up with the fleas.
Changing one's behaviour and choices isn't that easy.
We automatically are drawn towards certain things. It takes a lot of self-knowledge,and usually willpower
The implementation may be problematic but the solution is simple.
Old Wen has me on edge here with big words.Three out of ten were longer than 7 letters. I cannot help it. This is the way I talk.
Nobody ever learns anything if things are dumbed down.
People just have to up their own game and look up words if need be.
But he made me aware of something I never thought about. I have never considered it that longer words may be a type of barrier to less proficient readers. There is not much point in writing if half the people don't understand what you are trying to say. If you write for a magazine you can expect a certain level of for comprehension for the language but here we should consider that many are strangers to English.
I can identify with it. English did not come easy to me and even today I still cannot write or speak English in the way that I really want to.
Some or other time, for some or other reason in life most folk tend to play that card...
I can't imagine the likes of Mimi being impressed if you just used the same short words repetitively (sorry, over and over again
Write the way you write, speak the way you speak. You do not write in an overly-complicated manner.
It is much harder to read big blocks of text with no commas or full stops, than the occasional larger word that people can google easily anyway.
This is a modern tendency. We learn it from our politicians. Shifting the blame has become a fine art.
Absolutely true. I think punctuation is the biggest single cause of bad readability.
Don't worry, I said that only to buy face with the ladies,
I only remember good times from my past relationships; not just in love, in everything. When somebody do me short; be that money, love, or whatever, I put it behind me and go on with my life.I forget about the bad things in life.
When I see a person who did me short again, there is no hard feelings. There is a little red flag inside my head that says 'be careful, he/she did this or that to you and may do it again' but that is it. No other bad vibes.
Generally I enjoy life too much to think of bad memories.
If I stop believe in people I must stop believe in myself...and HA! that´s not gonna happen ever! So my "hope" in others is not big (actually is everyday less and less) but it works like Zelda super powers, it refills constantly from hope I have in me, I´m people too
Listen, I have a question for you, may I?
Sorry, my old man came around to see me and we had a few things to discuss. I'm all ears now.
As for women, ( I quit trying to figure them out,
Noooo! The vodka only helps to understand better.
As I said to luke, we must blame the politicians for that. They are setting the example.
You wake up the following morning with just as little understanding....plus a pounding headache