A Gift or Not A Gift?
She is here on holiday from one of the Northern provinces and will be leaving for home on the fifteenth. I met her at a dance on the third day of her vacation. After spending a very pleasant evening together, we decided to see each other again.
To the present we dated five times and we have three more dates set before she returns. The last one is on Valentines Day. I have booked a table for us in a dark and cozy seafood joint with a small dance floor. I can only find one word to describe our dates so far and that is ‘joyful’. We will probably spend some more time together this weekend. She appeared on the scene at a time when I needed somebody to get somebody else out of my system.
She is not a woman that I would have dated regularly if she was from around here but now, after we dated a few times and knowing her better, I must admit that I would have hanged on to her if she did not live so far away. During our first two dates we have sort of agreed that we won’t pursue the relationship afterwards. Since then the subject was not raised again. I don’t have a problem with that. As I said earlier, she is not quite the woman that I would normally date.
But the fact remains that we had some great times during the last three weeks. I want to give her something to show my appreciation. She is not a materialistic person and she has always offered to pay half the bill. Naturally I refused every time. Last night she wanted to pay the whole bill and I had to be very firm to change her mind.
I have never been in a situation like this and I don’t know if it is appropriate to buy her a parting gift and if so, what a suitable gift will be.
See! It is almost weekend again.
Comments (96)
How about a box of gift set from L'Occitane?
Try Google L'Occitane gift sets. Too many to choose from...
You don't want cash from me. Our money is worthless outside the country.
Did you visit Ramayana Ballet dance in Prambanan Temple?
Enjoy the holiday.
This is the first time I see you around. Are you new?
I had to google all that stuff on your list. All looks so exotic but we cannot leave her with a big excess fee to pay at the airport, can we? The only foodstuff we export to our inland provinces is fish and wine.
I think you've mistaken Catfoot for somebody else ?
If she doesn't use it, that's ok coz there's such thing as re-gifting? I have given away a lot of things that was given to me as gifts. That is why I prefer cash!!
Im not sure what u could get her..maybe some perfume??.
May i be cheeky to ask why she wouldnt be ur type if she lived locally??
I'm 1000% in favor of an appreciation (not a parting) gift of all great times spent together.
Most suitable gift would have been one based on those great moments or times shared together, something you both shared/valued/appreciated or something that had meaning or meant something to both of you that can also served as a reminder afterwards of those great shared moments or times.
The gift/object may be symbolic of these feelings of appreciation or creative (created by your own hands from scratch).
A friend was creating different pieces of art for me from scratch each time this person wanted to say thank you and as a form of appreciation.
The art created may look rubbish or be considered junk for others but for me, it's got great value or the value of it is priceless.
Yes, I thought of perfume too!! I'd love a big bottle of Chanel Mademoiselle
Yes, Catfoot. You make perfect sense but I still prefer cash!!
I still want cash!!
She is of the type I would go for ; just not my kind of girl. A big difference. She is just a little too plain for me and not too bright. I like intelligent women. And then she's just a few kilos too heavy. I want to see less of her, if you will excuse the word play.
She will make a fine wife to somebody else and her ex husband lost out heavily when he let her slip through his fingers. she's a nice gal.
Sorry sweety, already mentioned that, "I can't afford the Channel".
Now you're onto something. She has been admiring one of my sketches but I'm not sure it is of the quality to part from. Some people like my sketches but they are so amateurish that I don't really want to display them. It is more doodling that sketching and many end up in the dustbin before completion.
I'll have to think about this for a while.
If I give her my ATM card and pin no she'll never talk to me again. After Christmas, a backyard with fake grass and a few other unexpected expenses, I am, for all purposes of the law, insolvent.
I told you that you don't want our money. It is Monopoly money outside our borders. Our finance ministers over the last 24 years, as a group, were nominated for a Nobel prize in chemistry. They converted our currency to a ball of poo.
I hope you're not talking about the one I want.
I asked you for it a hundred times.
I'm not talking about that one and I'm not giving any of them away. Not yet in any way.
Just a manner of speech. We don't sat we are broke. We say bankrupt.
And some of them do come back. I recon they fancy that if the victim was gullible enough for once, it may work twice.
Small bottle of perfume mgt be the way to go.
Yes Mimi i love coco too
Im surprised you could continue a holiday romance with someone who seems not to have done anything for u intellectually physically.
At least did it take ur mind off other things..
A gift-box of Healing Earth products would work on nearly any woman
They are not as difficult to choose as perfume and are still beautiful and personal.
Get the glass bottles if you can, they are nicer than the plastic ones.
I don't want to give her something consumable. I was thinking about taking her for a stroll through all the curios shops at the waterfront tomorrow morning to see if she likes something.
Yes i get u....men work so much differently to women...or maybe they dont anymore!!
Ill admit to having a few Male "friends"...who help out too when needed.
Maybe just instead of buying her something then just put ALOT of effort into making yer last date something to remember...doesnt have to require spending alot of money.
A collectible is nice, if she likes collectibles.
Me, I try not to clog up my house with unnecessary ornaments or things like that.
But I guess you know her best, and know what she might like.
And as I know you always wish to improve your English, instead of saying ' I would have hanged on to her" say hung.
I know there is the whole hung v hanged thing going on, but because it is a phrasal verb, hung is more correct, or definitely sounds better anyway.
Hmm, I don't know, Neither of us put much effort in our dates and yet they worked out super. I don't want to send her back with a memory of some old coot who amused her while she was on holiday. I want to give her something tangible to remind her of me.
I thought about a baby of her own to raise with love but she cannot conceive anymore.
The more i read about ur dates...the more u make me want to go on a date with you!!
Have u ever thought of writing a "dating" book
Well if u do sketch, then why dont u sketch a picture that she will remember you by.
Like if u always bought her flowers..sketch the flowers u used to buy her.
Or if she mentioned something that she likes..sketch that.
Just a thought.
You just put me onto something. A few years ago I bought my dad an electronic picture frame and I put all his favorite pics on there. He loved it. We may just be a bit short on time to have pics taken. i don't think I want to take my father or Bea along on a picnic and a stroll in the park to take some nice pics.
"She appeared on the scene at a time when I needed somebody to get somebody else out of my system" I wish I could have done that, it´s just impossible for me ....anyway, after a loud laugh with first comment (Mimi
We love details, presents, a gesture from others that make us feel appreciated. Wish you the best what ever you decided to do
I understand you looking up words
I sketch a little but it not of good quality; some talent but poor technique. As I said, it's more doodling than anything else. She likes one but it is not one of by better sketches. It is a charcoal job on a piece of smooth asbestos sheeting. I could have it framed but the frame will be worth more than the drawing.
not my forte; I tend to use things for the purpose they were designed for but I guess that puts a new flavor to it.
No malice intended but you don't only look like my ex wife but sound like her to with this comment. She loves giving what I call handouts.
You don't look alike but there is some semblance when I look at your current profile pic
It seems that Bea is not going to help. I'll have to ask somebody else.
I always look up words I don't know. Your blog only made me aware about the words I use in my blogs. Not that I changed my habits. I write as I speak.