My Valentine
I never make a fuss about big days like Christmas, Easter, Valentine’s Day and the likes. To me it is just a commercialized moneymaking racket and the real meanings of these days have long been forgotten.
Oh, I’ll join the fun if there is a party somewhere and if not, I normally book a table somewhere well in advance. But I never waste my money on expensive cards and BS that end up in the dustbin a week later. It is the same with Guy Fawkes Day. I'm not upset with my money and won't set it alight. When my children were still young, I used to buy a few fancy rockets just to see the awe in their faces but that was a long time ago.
I don’t know what is happening this year; maybe I’m going bonkers in my old days. Where I normally book a table at the more average places, I booked a table at one of the more expensive places. I never eat seafood when I eat out, yet I selected a place that specializes in seafood. I normally buy the first and the best Valentine cards but this year I spent about thirty minutes browsing fancy Valentine cards and ended up buying what probably was the most expensive card in the shop.
All because of a certain woman from Gauteng who happens to like seafood and who I probably won’t see again after tomorrow. So, it is not even an investment for the future. Why am I trying so hard to impress her? And the worst of it is that she cannot be impressed by any of this. If I entertain her at home and treat her on take-away fish and chips, wrapped in newspaper, she’d be happy too. She’s easily the least demanding woman I met in my life.
And before you tell me I’m in love; I’m not. Yorkie still steal my thoughts too often; not as often as before but she’s still somewhere there.
I wish you all a happy Valentine's Day.
Comments (62)
Someone's gonna be an unhappy chappie come two days time.....
so you like fish and chips. I don't like chips that much but I eat a lot of fish at home. That is why I never bother with seafood when eating out.
Being in love with her will not create insurmountable problems. I visit my daughter who lives in Pretoria about four times a year, every time for a week or so, and this woman lives about forty km from my daughter. She's taking pension in three years time so then there would be nothing to prevent her from relocating but I'm not in love with her.
Yes, I'll be a bit sad by tomorrow this time but it will blow over.
And that is what we are doing. Although we said we're not going to maintain contact, I suspect that there will be the odd phone call and birthday cards.
Or, maybe you are denying reality (not being in love) as part of "going bonkers in your old days"
In any case , it's good to know that if any man goes the same trouble for me, invested a considerable amount of time, energy and effort to do what you did or any other similar actions, it doesn't mean "he's in love".
Yep...I'm a cheap date. I like the simple things.
Fine dining in a crowded restaurant makes me feel awkward....I like a more casual atmosphere...outdoors preferably.
This time next year? Wait... I'll just check my diary....well, what a surprise...I'm sure I'll be free that night....
Hmm, if I was trying to impress her, this would have been the wrong way. This is just a way to show my appreciation for a everything we shared this last month. I was great being with her.
Then I'm a lucky man. I thought your next six Valentine days were booked in advance.
I have no date for Valentines.....ever.
I may have to resort to begging....
Hi,
I guess you are answering your own question in the blog, "Why am I trying so hard to impress her?" in the blog.
Are you sure you aren't in love?
I find that very hard to believe. What's wrong with the Kiwi men. Are they blind?
I don't think so, I'd be a liar to say that I feel nothing for her, but my thoughts are still elsewhere. Maybe we just met at the wrong time.
He seemed ok. Remember you have just met and he did not have the opportunity to to book a table. I'd say call him and say you changed your mind.
I hear so many women here saying that. Are you not perhaps expecting too much. There is no perfect guy out there. You have to start with what is more or less what you want.and work on that.
Fussy I may be....
...but chemistry is a must have for me.
If he doesn't curl me toes from the get go....then, it's never going to happen.
Anyways....getting away from your blog a little.
Enjoy your evening with your lady....
I have a date for tonight!
I'll do that. Thanks for dropping in.
Just being curious. Did the Gauteng lady know that another woman (the Yorkie lady) still occupies your thought often? Did you ever tell her that even indirectly?
Well, if you are thinking of an illusion, you better concentrate on what's real and reality(have absolutely no idea about who you are referring to or still investing your thoughts upon, you decide if it's worth it, your thoughts, your energy, your time).
Sorry, I really have to log off this site for now.
Have a lovely time with "Your Valentine!". Enjoy the moment and present!
It sounds like a guy in denial to me.
Who are you trying to convince by saying you're not in love?
Us..or yourself ?
I'm also a simple girl and prefer a picnic on the beach any time rather than fancy restaurants.
I've always been told that I was cheap to run!
This question was asked numerous times during the last month. even my sister, Bea, my friends and their wives wanted to know. Yes, I told her the very first night we met; even before our first date. It was just a holiday romance and she knew it all along. She knew she was just a lightning conductor; In return she got an interesting holiday and I truly hope that she enjoyed our time together as much as I did.
It is my previous girlfriend. I broke up because she will be returning to the UK towards the end of next year when she retires. I opted for the smaller knock now iso a bigger knock then. I heard a rumor that she may be returning even sooner as her pension will be worthless in the UK in anyway.
The answer to your question on a previous blog will be answered tomorrow.
Thanks for dropping in.
I'm not denying that I'm fond of her and I'm sorry to see her leaving tomorrow. No, I will repeat; I'm not in love with her; there is no electricity sparking around. I cannot be in love with two women. When I see Yorkie when she's in her front garden, I still get butterflies in my stomach.
Sorry for taking so long to respond. I had visitors again.
Normally it is just another day with maybe something not very special at night. Dunno why this year is so different.
I like good restaurants and I also enjoy fish and chips at the beach - I have done both quite happily.
We don't have to be in love with everybody we enjoy the company of. And we don't have to feel bad that we are not in love with them either.
At last somebody who believes that I'm not in love with her. You can be fond of somebody of the opposite gender without being in love.
so I guess the picture and frame is out
Hope you both have a great evening my friend
I don't have good enough connectivity at the moment but I'l listen to your song later.
You know nothing yet.
I will reveal that tomorrow after we have parted. But we found a something that she loves.
you're right about that. sorry girl, i have to run I'll talk to you later.
Here is some flowers for you
I agree with Molly. But ofcourse I would enjoy more the company of the one I am in love with.
I certainly will. I don't think any one of us is going to spoil our last evening together. but I must tell you that it does not feel like our last evening together.. As I said, I do get to her neck of the woods about four times a year.
You don't need to be in an relationship to enjoy life. There are more than one woman who would give anything to spend the evening with you tonight. Even on take aways. You only need to find one of them.