Gamechangers
We all, whether on our profile, or just in our heads, have a list of the characteristics and qualities we would like in a potential partner.The list can be mind-boggling in some cases
, both for the prospective partner, and even more importantly for ourselves.To differentiate between them, maybe we should break them down into categories, from the Gamechanger down to the Would be nice, but basically Inessential
1. Gamechanger
2. Preferable but not a gamechanger
3. Desirable, but not that important
4. Would be nice, but basically Inessential
When we think about it properly, we may have no gamechangers, but lots of No. 2s instead.
No two people will have exactly the same order of necessity. Indeed, some people’s priorities are polar opposites to others.
But it is good for ourselves to know them either way.
If we sort them out, it may be easier to separate the wheat from the chaff, and concentrate on what is really important to us.
Comments (100)
So preferable and desirable should be the main criteria for initial contact as well as a totally honest profile that will stop anyone wasting time and finding out later that that person isnt a suitable candidate.
I'm saying Spock is Your ideal man
So start listing
Mimi...I have been in the shadows, I emerge now and again
So much critera & so many choices can confuse our heads
Setting it out in compartments can help make it clearer for ourselves
Or maybe you wouldn't
Molly, That list actually works, You might be onto something, it would certainly stop a lot of singles from becoming something on the antiques roadshow.
- a down-to-earth man who LOVES dealing with all sorts of earthly everyday problems
- a good-tempered and calm personality
- tall enough (preferably 176cm+)
- living alone (no small children)
2. Preferable but not a gamechanger
- intelligent and 'deep' - someone I could have good discussions with
3. Desirable, but not that important
- physically attractive enough (I don't have very high criteria when this is concerned, so this basically means not too unattractive for me)
4. Would be nice, but basically Inessential
- everything else
By the way, not someone that could be found on this site, unless at least 20+ older than me.
See, an older man should be in your Gamechanger compartment
Mimi, Happy New Year!
I plan to abandon this profile - the illusion (maya) didn't bring me too much luck.
Until I'm able to post with a new profile - see you!
(I have problems using CS with Chrome... It seems that I should shift to Firefox).
I agree with you about conversations. I covered that in intelligence . I prefer if they are more intelligent/knowledgeable than me, especially in areas that I am not. i love to constantly learn from my partner
I'd say by the end of the blog, I will have a totally different list ..d'oh!
..and if she's attractive to me, intelligent and cheerful.. that would be nice too.
We just ushered in the new year over here! Firecrackers and blaring Chinese New Year songs all around us!
May we all have a pawperous new year!
Is that a gamechanger?
Which year is it? Rat/Horse,etc..and what does that represent?
Is it imperative that he/she must smell heavenly............like MiMi?
there's no game changers for me. I think, if it works and it's comfortable, yet exciting, then it's great.
As for the "admitting when they're wrong?" I knew that would be a difficult one for many... women and men.
I really like men who are more intelligent and 'deeper' than me. I fall in love with a man's mind. The more I admire his mind, the more I like him.
However, I think that it's not easy to find no. 1 and 2. in one man and especially at my age. Probably when I'm a little older myself... Maybe in 10 years....
I needed 10 minutes to type this in Chrome....
Snakes have a deep and complex mind, but if they love, they love with their entire heart.
Sounds about right to me
if you have no absolutes, life is probably easier.
But I know myself well enough to know that I have
I like your lists. Unfortunately, I only fit one of them, I like animals. I have a house full of dogs, and they let me live here with them.
Mimi, happy New Year one more time!
See you all!
if you can't find what you need in one man, find it in two.
Life is for living...live it
but only to re-fuel it!
You have gamechangers, you just won't admit to them.
You just said that she has to smile...that is a gamechanger
I am sure you want her sane and not a crazy woman...that is a gamechanger
So stop with your nonsense, you have as many as the rest of us
I suppose life wants to teach me the lesson in patience...
Either a compromise or - wait!
You would be surprised how many people have more than one partner. All in full knowledge and agreement of the arrangement.
Ok, so answer me one question without going on a rant at me
If the woman didn't smile or have a good sense of humour, would you date her?