Valentine's Fight

It's my opinion is that I'd much rather have the person with me then any kind of gift cause they would be my gift.

Maybe you should have discussed your expectations with him in advance.

Men are not mind-readers.

If you want or expect something, make that clear, so there is no miscommunication.

You are mistaken

Mimi!

I've just finished off homemade vanilla ice cream

Thanks for the ice cream @mimi made my happy.

Anyway, thanks for ur comments guys. My boyfriend is kind of a short tempered. Most times, I feel like i have to filter my words carefully because, i might upset him. And Im a pretty polite person.. We are in a LDR so all I actually want is for us to have a special time together. Costs nothing. Maybe he's upset he couldn't do anything about it. But he doesn't have to take it on me.

And yeah I get that guys are not mind readers and i try to tell him what i want. But, he just makes me guilty. Like its wrong for me to want something.

Mimi, I'd set the dogs on you

Blue, maybe he's not the one for you,

Okay Mimi, you win.

They'd eat me to get to that

@molly, after 4 years, and after everything, he should be confident with my commitment.

@mimi, thanks. Nice to know someone understands. Here here

Blue, are you confident in his commitment?

Mimi, I'll make a litre just for you

Break into his house and take a dump in the shower, that should even up the score.

Yep! 4 years! I actually told him clearly, very frankly in the sweetest way possible that he has changed. He's not as sweet as before. He always said that he'd do something about it. But again and again. Id end up feeling the same. I wonder if I was just emotional, or expecting too much. But no. I am not high maintenance, but it wouldn't hurt a guy if they put in some effort every once in a while, would it?

Blue, have you actually met him?

@pat. Nah, I'm not that kind of girl. And it won't be sanitary.

@molly, yeah, aside from his quirky temper, I have no doubt about his commitment.

Oh boy, i probably need to do some more thinking.
Or am I overthinking this?

Mimi, you are reeeeaaaalllly pushing it now

Mimi, tell him that chocolate chip is as good as it gets

How could anybody consider you pushy, Mimi

I think so too.. I'll just wait and see what happens. Anyway. Now Im craving for chocolate chip icecream now after strawberry. thanks guys!

You could always try huffing spraypaint.

Thanks @Wen. Happy Valentine's to you too..

Bluescrubs, my wife ruined valentines day 6 years ago by overcooking my dinner ( I know, wtf right? ) so don´t feel bad about ruining his day just because you´re high maintenance

Gidday Blue, maybe putting it on social media would be beneficial because then another of your family members, not as emotionally involved, might step in and make an opening as a mediator, and get the two of you talking again. All the sympathy, ice cream and good intentions, in here, are not improving the broken communication that is causing you stress in this situation.
As for him changing, how long did the sweetness last for after you fist connected? If it was for the first 3 to 6 months then it was probably him being on his best and sweetest behavior till he felt secure that your commitment to making the relationship work, would not faulter if he started to revert back to his comfort place of not really having to put in that much energy to the little things that you so enjoy and makes your heart skip a little from the love you feel when it does happen. It is not unusual for that kind of behavior in many new relationships and can come from both men and women. Unfortunately, there is always one who is left questioning, as you put it,
"And yeah I get that guys are not mind readers and i try to tell him what i want. But, he just makes me guilty. Like its wrong for me to want something. sigh"
and feeling insecure in a lot of ways because the expectation was founded on their first behavior when the relationship was new and not the current one now that the true self has taken back up residency.
If you find yourself regularly having to try to do things to please him and having feelings of inadequacies within yourself when they aren't appreciated then I would be evaluating your position in the relationship and just how it is benefiting you and if it is equal to how it benefits him because if it isn't, then there is something seriously wrong in how you are being treated. Partners should be equal and see each other as such and act accordingly.
It is just how I read what you are saying. Hope it helps. :) <3

Sorry, but you sound like a bit of a fifteen year old princess who didn't get what she wanted and is now bad mouthing him in the school playground.

Just out of curiosity, what did you do for him on Valentines? Anything?

@Greg. Thanks. I can't do this on social media. I dont want people in our circle to think wrong about him. Or my family to think about my troubles, as they have troubles of their own. And when I talk about this, biases and sides will be formed among our friends. So, I really dont want that. I don't want him to look bad or anything. I wanted us to talk about this actually. Been asking for us to talk about tbis because the bad feelings accumulate. And I don't want to suddenly snap because of it. However, he isnt talking to me. We cant fix things if we dont communicate. And about his sweetness gone, he didn't really change until about last year. I don't know what to do with it.

Honestly, i feel silly having boy troubles af this age. But I dont have much experience. He is my first boyfriend. And only.

Blue, I think you might have to come to terms that he has lost interest

His change in mood in the last year, and his lack of communication isn't a good sign.