My bf still open his dating site profile..
Lets just say i met a guy on a dating site, hes good hes great we click, all rainbowsCommunication is intense, we got into a dates, he shows his routines i shows mine
He tells me about himself and i told him mine we kissed but havent slept together
Everything is great couldn't be better
I just lost my mother a month ago
And Im throwing back my self in the dating game
Because it somehow feels lonely,
And i needed a friend
But in between our rainbows and our busy schedules he still opens his profile on the dating site that we met
And so did i, i still open that dating site
But in my case its just out of curiosity
which latter its also to know whether hes back on there or not
I cant possibly ask him why he still open the site
It will only make me sound like a jealous gf
And the fact that he didnt ask me aswell....
This doesnt sound alarming does it?
Thank you for any insight, opinions, or tips that can be shared with me today
Hope you all have a good week end
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I'm so sorry about your loss of your mother.
Hello,
May I ask you, what's the reason why you aren't asking your boyfriend directly "why he opened his dating site"?, if you are wondering about the reason why and, want to know of it?.
Thanks.
that he prob lie about his answer
And the fact that i still open my profile, you know ..
Seems like this is a new relationship which is still at first or second base, you guys need to talk before you take it forward to commitment - are you going to both commit 100% and give it a try, or are you going to warm each other's lives up for a while and see how it goes, but still leave the door open to other people
Losing your mum can make you feel very lost and vulnerable and needing unconditional and all-encompassing love pretty badly
Is your believing he would lie about his answer a reflection on your attitude toward men generally, perhaps you've dated a lot of liars, or has he shown himself to be dishonest before?
Are you sure that's a healthy position from which to even begin a relationship?
only time will tell i guess
However, who am I to say...
Hope you find happiness in him.
You sound a little confused.
In one breath you're saying you're back in the dating game because you're lonely and in the other you're saying you're still checking up on him.
May I ask how many dates you've been on with him?
I'm sorry to hear about your Mum's passing.
Never an easy time...
Thank you ..
3 meets for coffee 1 movir date and dinner
Its too soon i know
But i really really like him ..
Open, honest communication is the key.
I hope it works out for you both.
All the best
You just need to spend a lot more time with him, getting to know one another better and doing things together.
With the guy - early days, you will have to give it time to get to know each other and see how it goes. For your own sake, maybe try not to get too involved emotionally until you know this will go somewhere or not.
If you want this to work, go off the website yourself would be my advise. I don't date off here but I wouldn't like it if someone would still be on a dating website looking around (I take it he doesn't use blogs etc.?).
Concentrate on getting to know each other and see if this could work. If he is serious, he will stop using the dating website and will tell you when you talk about it. If he would continue to use it, it would tell me something about how serious he is with you (or not).
Best of luck.
You have to have the conversation with him.
Either you are starting a relationship with him, and you are both not technically single.
Or you are not in a relationship with each other, and still are technically single.
Either way, you have to discuss this.
You can't complain about him being on a dating site if you are too. One rule for everybody.
Sorry about your mum
Maybe you both are not completely sure of your relationship at this point, give it some time and see where it leads.
As I think you are asking for a serious comment I tell you what I think....
Yeap he is opening his profile on the dating site .....so do you (even if its for checking him, you do it...that´s the jealousy thing here) .... I would make it simple and easy: ask him.
What ever his answer is, take it and act according to that. After that you have done your part.
Wish you luck on that and hope you have a soon "recovery" regarding your mother
Is what stoping me ..
As for the dating site guy, you're there... he's there... you've got your reasons he's got his, who's to say its not the same reason?
You answered what your seeking to know.
You mentioned that if you ask him he will probably lie as much as we all want those yummy rainbows I would prefer to be alone.
We make friends on dating sites give him the benefit of the doubt as your guy you should feel comfortable talking to him about this.
As long as he gives you his password and lets you read his correspondence on the dating site, don't worry about it. It is when he doesn't want you to know what he wrote other women or what they wrote him is when you need to worry.
Ask no questions and hear no lies. Just trust that you are supposed to be together. If he leaves, maybe, just maybe it's because the right one is standing just outside the front door.