SAPIOSEXUALITY - What Attracts You To The Opposite Sex?

After reading a friend´s poetry, I was extremely enlightened and have now found a name for my rather specific prerequisites about what attracts me to the opposite sex.
So I thought I would elaborate on this.....

Many blogs have been written about what attracts us to some people more than others. In particular, what attracts us to the opposite sex? Indeed, chemistry between people plays a huge part in our relationships, but there are also certain personality characteristics that draw us to one another.
Some people are attracted to physical appearance and others to status or an individual’s personality (charismatic, friendly, kind, thoughtful etc).

But, recently, a new word has come to my attention that describes what often draws us to the opposite sex. The word is “sapiosexuality.”

As defined by the urban dictionary, a sapiosexual person is someone who finds intelligence and the human mind to be the most sexually attractive feature in the opposite sex. wow

Common characteristics:

One common trait of sapiosexuals is the ability to identify the intelligence in others. They can pin point the wise man among the wise guys. They can also figure out if the person is genuinely smart or ostentatiously smart.
Having an in-depth discussion with a sapiosexual about anything that interest him or her is the sexiest moment they could ever imagine. They can also disregard looks because for them, intelligence is long-lasting.
They have very good conversation skills which make them charming and usually they like to share their thoughts with someone who will understand them and someone who can make them learn new things.

In other words sapiosexual are intelligent people, who would be more likely to end up with a sapiosexual too.

If you identify as a sapiosexual, this world of instant matches and quick hookups may not be for you. In other words, a sapiosexual is someone who cannot be attracted to someone unless they first develop an emotional connection.

Looking back on my relationships with men, I realize that I have always been attracted to intelligent men. Those who admit to being sapiosexual will say that they are turned on by the brain, and tend to be teased or excited by the insights of another person.
The sapiosexual person may crave philosophical, political or psychological discussions, because this turns them on. Although the attraction is not always connected to sexuality, it often is.

Those who are sapiosexual are those who are stimulated or challenged by the way another person thinks. They are basically in love with the mind.

In so many realms, including sexuality, so much of who we are has its roots in our childhood. What happened during our childhoods serves as a foundation of who we are, especially in connection with intimacy. Much depends upon our relationship with the opposite sex parent, our first love experience, and first intimate encounter.

Perhaps what we look for in a partner is what we always wanted in ourselves. It also might be the catalyst or portal to knowledge of our deeper selves. dunno

Can anyone relate to this?

Are there any Sapiosexual men/women on this site? conversing teddybear

Comments (136)

Huge turn on for me. I love a man to be more intelligent than me, and to have an inquisitive mind and It has always been a terrific turn on, if he has pools of ink as eyes, that is a bonus too, but can't be too fussy. 'Oh let me see your big brain'.wow
Godson ~ We women are multi taskers and being turned on by a man having a good brain, does not stop us admiring his bum, his lovely gentle or exciting eyes, his lovely hands, the hairs on the back of his arms glisten in the sun. Lovely feet when he goes for a swim. His greying hair, or if younger, his curls. It's in the package, Your priority is mammaries that are huge, [Freudian language for needs mummy for milk ] and thats ok, so is wanting a man who is interesting and intelligent. hug
Goldengloss you haven´t mentioned liking a fat stiff cok, are you a lesbian or something?
Dont be so impatient, she's getting to that.
I think she´s shy.....cok shy
Hello Goldie...long time no see..wave

Wow..What you've just described is exactly how I

Hope you have found all this in the new man in your life? applause
Naughty...I'm sure that's included in the package. wink
Hey Parsnips..where have you been mi Amor? kiss

Are you also a Sapiosexual?
Come on...don't be shy to admit it..
Bnaughty ~ wave As for the first question as to why I havenot mentioned the Male appendage
I thought that was obvious and did not need mentioning, but brain is first.
As for 2nd question, you'll never know
Be naughty ~ Isn't a cok what I use to do stir fries ? I have one hanging up. I love to pour oil on it. flirty
I guess I am mostly, unless its just some eye-candy who's got no idea about anything.
Daniela Yep, we may disagree on many things, and agree on many others but when it comes to a red blooded male, they gotta have big Brains. wine smitten
If and when someones sexually attracted to/by a brain...
its because of something they were lacking OR chasing OR holding on to since their childhood professor
giggle wagi
I'm sure it has something to do with childhood upbringing Itchy .

My sister is also one and she married a brainy guy.banana
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