My Kind Of Flirting

It's no secret here on blogs that I'm a flirt and a crazy tease from time to time.

I chatted and sexted with one for more than 3 years, we aired our dirty laundry here a few times trying to lash out our frustrations at each other, crazy shameful days really but somehow we managed to saved some respect for each other...and still talking and longing to meet one day soonyay

I've also chatted with blogger friends including the two being crucified here but I cant think of any reason to shame or ruin them in real life ...there were some flirty messages but nothing disrespectful, they were mostly friendly funny messages that never included naked pics and videos. I think it's because I set boundaries, I see them as online friends and that's all there is to it. We've also exchanged personal info and photos of our kids and I take them as sincere messages.

There were sincere flirtations from a few but I put a stop before I could lead them on and give them reason to disrespect me. I never like to play with others' emotion...I call that self respect too.

I can be playful when flirting but happens rarely, only with a few I can connect with and who's up for the same thing but there's a red line that I'm careful not to be crossed, I'm cautious and make sure that both walk away happy and no regrets when sanity dawns. I stopped chatting and flirting long ago, I exchange messages from some blogger friends from time to time but nothing flirty, just some friendly messages.

The player blog below made me think of the steamy messages that the chef and I exchanges. For a moment, the thought that they be could be use to ruin me in real life did crossed my mind but he's a decent guy and I have no doubt will never hurt me that way if things go bad one day and I know he trusts me in same way.

I'm not taking side. I know there's more to it than what was posted and I understand it could be painful and when one gets badly hurt, we could say and do things that will make us feel better thinking that we outsmarted them but we will more likely end up regretting later...so it's best to recognize the signs and know when to walk away with pride and dignity.

Busy days here...just want to check in and say Hi to allteddybear

Comments (35)

Show us your pants Crazywave
Hello CH,

Love can be a dangerous thing....treat it with respect.

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Respect on both sides goes a long way.
Crazyheart38
Naughty,
go back to my old blogs, plenty therelaugh
Deedee123x
I dont do revenge or vengeful stuff..its not in me as i just dont care once something is over its over.
Ive also had to learn to set boundaries with men....but if they cross the line i will tell them they have...break up..move on and thats it....if i have done the same to them they would tell me.
I dont see this need to let everyone know about it...to shame them....to still live in that misery....its too draining and toxic
Crazyheart38
Johnny,
yes, love can be dangerous but if one truly cares about the one he loves, he'll only have her best interest at heart, should work both ways...

and I don't think one can truly love someone they never touched , seen nor kissed in real life...sigh
Crazyheart38
Johnny,
yes, love can be dangerous but if one truly cares about the one he loves, he'll only have her best interest at heart, should work both ways...

and I don't think one can truly love someone they never touched , seen nor kissed in real life...sigh
Crazyheart38
Molly,

true...and seeing things for what it is really keep people grounded...it balanced everything. It's when they start expecting things way beyond what is real that delusion sets in and causes one to react and do things out of controlsigh
Hi CH,

Good to see you! I agree with what you say in your blog!hug
Crazyheart38
Dee,

yes, it's draining...

life goes on, if you've been through your first heartache it won't be that difficult to get over the next one...just know when walk away and do that while you still have some pride and dignity left...

I'm not being judgemental, I've seen friends throwing a fit and acting crazy when they got heart broken, I feel them and understand...I got over my first heartache, it was the worst, it ended in divorce, the first cut is always the deepest ....the next ones will be just pieces of cakes.... errr ,minor scratcheslaugh
plavitrol
Imbackagain and baig please for God's sake show yourselves

Blog after blog after blog and counter blog


WILL IT NEVER END

frustrated
Crazyheart38
Hi Jim!

Which part did you agree? the part that I'm a flirt and tease ? laugh

just kiddinghug
Crazyheart38
Blue,

This blog is not about another blog...I'm simply flirting here...scold

watch this turn into a sex blog, won't be longrolling on the floor laughing
itchywitch
Crazy, what about the way you exposed Smartass here on the blogs... If you see a difference it would be interesting to hear them?
plavitrol
Really ????

Then why mention them directly! !!

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I've also chatted with blogger friends including the two being crucified here but I cant think of any reason to shame or ruin them in real life ...there were some flirty messages but nothing disrespectful, they were mostly friendly funny messages that never included naked pics and videos


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scold
Crazyheart38
Hi itchy,

Yeah, I exposed smartass here for conniving with a man in playing another female blogger and among other things, one thing lead to another ...but when I look back now, I would prefer to simply let them continue to play and laugh at Snooks to save myself from trouble...at the end, it's virtual world and won't do any good in my life. I've learned to distinguished real life from virtual life after some online disappointmentssigh
Crazyheart38
Blue,

I didn't mention their real names and uploaded photos of their kids which I also havelaugh
plavitrol
So the blog is about them after all...

scold
Crazyheart38
Blue,

no, not about them...it's about lessons I've learned from the arts of online flirting...been there than done...I ain't doing it again, it;s not worth all the hassles and heartache...I've realized that after I chatted and meet one in real life, first time at the time...I realized then that online chatting is just that, online chatting...can never be compared to meeting a person in real life, touching him, kissing him and spending passionate time with him. If I look back now, I can only laugh at all those crazy silly shits I wasted on online chatting without meeting and knowing them in personlaugh
itchywitch
so you stepped up that time to protect Snooks, and here's me thinking it was to protect yourself.. by any chance is that blog still around? to read it again might go a long way in saving a lot of disagreements here.
You’re goofy and fun. I don’t think there’s much else to comment
Krinka
Two married male friends came to an internet forum to chat, flirt and have fun with single women. They tried with everyone - were successful with some, weren't successful with others - but had a good time - until they met a woman who didn't find their behaviour fun.

I doubt that any of the photos those men sent were real, especially children photos. I doubt that any information they gave were real. Nobody is that naive and silly - to flirt with dozens and dozens of women on a website and send their real personal information and family photos. Especially married men who got used to such fun.

It's good to know that there are married people on this site and that there are people who are ready to post any information they have about someone when hurt. We should all learn from this. smile
Crazyheart38
Itchy,

big difference is I never uploaded a video of her and her daughter nor mentioned their real names which I had plenty, i referred to her by her blogging name...what was posted was for blogland, nothing that threatened her daughter nor family in real life...and no, I don't save photos nor videos of other people to use them against them when things turns bad....we even had phone calls to settle the issue between us while that exposure on blogs was going...and after that there was a blog that that settled the issue...during those days, what happens in the blogland stay in the blogland but I just don't see it that way when one uploaded a video with photos of children who have nothing to do with their parent's silly virtual stupidity.

I'm sure they were more to it than we know about, I'm not taking side of the two men...I'm just saying lessons I've learned from things and people who aren't worth stressing myself for...

when Maria, posted her first blog naming one of the men, i received a text from the other one asking for my thoughts on it...I simply replied that I'm too busy to read blogs and simply have no interest...coz I've had my share of dirty laundry here so I'm sure others are entitled to have theirs too.
Crazyheart38
Palm.

When I was new here, I also took things way seriously than I should...I've learned so many things from the blogs...most important lesson is just to take this place as a fun place to pass some boring time with...don't expect too much and just enjoy the ride...

and for those controversial blogs, I've learned to take them as they are, just controversial blogs, fun to read, forgotten the moment I log off and get on with my life...coz I do have a real life, a busy lifesigh
Crazyheart38
Krinka,

I've exchanged friendly messages with those two for a long time now, they never hinted they know each other...the messages were just that, friendly messages that sometimes gets funny and a little flirty but since I made it very clear I have someone and not interested in playing online games...it keep them at arms length and respected me .sigh
Crazyhearts I just finished reading your blog and highlighted this couple sentences "You posted" quote/ I never like to play with others' emotion...I call that self respect too./end quote.

@Crazyhearts It's not in my nature to play/toy if you will with other peoples emotions either.It's just not in my nature to do so.Nice to know that you do it either.
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UsernameTaken123
confused
I think I've missed something!
dunno confused dunno
Krinka
@Crazyheart38

If they were single, my opinion might have been different. But I'm against cheating, even if it is some harmless flirting and sexting with unknown people on the internet. That's why I really don't like the idea of married men on a dating site. It's OK if they are serious people who state in their profile that they are married and here only for forums and blogs and talk about that publicly. But - this kind of behaviour - only brings unhappiness and misery both to their wives and family and - lonely women they seduced and hurt along the way, who joined this site looking for a partner. Of course, a woman should put limits herself and not engage in flirting with a married man, but maybe not everyone was told and - some women are simply too lonely and don't realize the danger in time. I don't like these kinds of things. They only make us all distrust everyone more and more... I'm not sure if it's healthy to stay on CS at all... sigh
Crazyheart38
Hi Bear,

I'm a big tease sometimes but I do it with the right person, at the right tie and in the right place...and always know my limit and when to call for self respect.sigh
Crazyheart38
User,

that makes the two of us!laugh
Crazyheart38
Krinka,

i don't trust 'separated" men either , as long as they're not hitting on me and messing with me, I don't judge them. We can never know a virtual person, best to be defensive and always put safety firstlaugh

There were days when I used to read mails I receive, if one interest me then I would check out the profile, it nothing there impress me, it ends there. If they somehow interest me, maybe exchange a few mails, if no sparks it stops there. If there's a spark, it could lead to sexting...but after years of not making an effort to come see me, it stops there...I'll go for something real...

when we read a profile, there's always something that would tell you about a person, some red flags...once I see one, that's it.

The guy I chatted for more than 3 years, I picked himrolling on the floor laughing

The one I'm seeing now picked me, I checked him out, I like what I saw and read...sparks were flying when we met, we didn't waste anytime,,,rolling on the floor laughing
itchywitch
Crazy. I'm minding having my grandson stay over tonight, he's restless all night and at the moment his aunt is trying to settle him, I doubt she can when hes looking for gran so I'm afraid I'll have to make a sudden exit out of here .. when i can I'll be back to give my view on the difference between your THEN blog and her now one.
Crazyheart38
Itchy,
have a lovely night with your grandsonangel

we will walk down memory lane another time....long day and tired here so off to bed too, Goodnight!angel
itchywitch
Another time then crazy when we both have more time we'll take that trip down memory lane.

Till then, enjoy your day wine
Ken_19
What should be done with nude photos? Is there a market for them? If I post my paypal # will $$$ money roll in sight unseen, or must I give previews first? Please advise.
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