Very sad indeed
Reviewing various female profiles and their perception of self and the quality of men they seek It's rather sad when they preach about how loving caring they claim to be and love their God and their Jesus etc. Then place their unrealistic expectations of potential mates that they must be this or that or love God the same way they see him.. Or list all the things they don't want in a relationship such as they don't want abusers or drunks or a loser without a job etc. Yet, rarely do we see anyone suggest what they do want. Such a nice gentleman or lady who is honest with themselves and to have a real connection with someone. Or they want open communication, fairness something in common etc. I know everyone has their own idea of a friendship and or relationship. However, if you convey a message of past hurts and past relationship failures in one breath and preach about how you may love your God the next what kind of message of contradiction is that? Even God said you can't serve two masters without favoring one over the other. One cannot be dictating that everyone must love God according to an individual's perception then attack everyone that says hello or points out their mixed message of the kind of friend they seek. Where is the empowerment in that? Women want to be empowered and wear the pants today but, part of that responsibility is not attack those trying to reach out to them. It kind of defeats the purpose of seeking a friend in my opinion. Hence, people should be careful what they ask for and what they project out there for we tend to attract what we think of ourselves in our anger and in our joy. If you want to draw love into your life offer love without fear, without using past hurts or judgment. Look at the dysfunction we see in the world today. On the brink of nuclear war, mass shootings and natural disasters. Is this the kind of world people want? If we can't learn to love in our immediate community we can't love anyone online or 4000 miles across the ocean. Oh we can play superficial love and games and offer selective coyness to one another but at the end of the day when we want to curl up with someone and snuggle but left in an empty cold bed we realize our value to anyone and everyone. Something to ponder and criticize in your travels.
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I know to avoid anybody who says they are god-fearing; full of love for all the world; empaths; and a few other choice words.
Now as a prospective partner to be, it is up for you to find it out yourself. If you find early enough that their descriptions of themselves are a mile away from your truth, then voila, don't pursue any further effort to get to know them. My two cents.
"Your task is not to seek for love...
But merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it"
Rumi.
But generally i wouldnt anyways, that all comes in the natural order of a relationship and getting to know someone
"First impression determines much about us. Communication Compassion Understanding Flexibility..."
... which are basic qualities, then one would expect to find these in the first communication exchanges since the first impression determines much about us...
"It's rather sad when they preach about how loving caring they claim to be..."
... and then you find out later that they have none of the above qualities..
When I see a list in a woman's profile, I get this gut feeling that they are a very demanding person. I don't like being demanded. I rather enjoy my freedom. That same freedom can also be enjoyed with the right person.
And... many of us have given up since the world of algorithms has taken over.
We don't know who is whom anymore!
It is not 100 frogs you have to kiss in order to find a prince/princess..... but around 100.000 or one million. !!! - if that´s any consolation?
How many tend to take for granted what is given to them and always dreaming the grass is greener elsewhere?
The universe never gives us what we think we might want but, it does give us what we need.
As some have said here that we follow the natural order of things.
I admit, I may not be the sharpest knife in the drawer, or the brightest bulb in the box but, we all have our own perception of what we think beauty, friendship, and love, and that so called spiritual connection along with punctuation.
Overall, fools are easily blinded by past experiences and use them as a basis in deciding whether to create new experiences.
Ultimately, I think because of that they sabotage their efforts. For now I will just keep banging my head against the wall because it feels better when I stop!!
Now you have 2 options..
...do the work ..
..or...keep banging your head..
I still wouldn't fancy taking on a bear though unless it's a teddy one.