Expectations. Part 1

The following blog



titled "When you are expected to pay for lunch or dinner on the first date offline. Online dating part 2" was created on the 30/1/2018 and was left in a draft form in order to be picked up and continued later on the subject of "Expectations" , subject of this blog today.

The specific blog regarded the expectation of my person paying for lunch or dinner in unwanted and unwelcome ways that definitely did not include paying half or the whole bill for lunch or dinner at a restaurant.

The expectation regarded the first date offline.

Subject of this blog is therefore, expectations in regards to the first date offline.

For the reason that expectations is a vast subject , this blog excludes expectations during dating or relationships in real life.

It is restricted to online dating and as mentioned earlier , expectations in regards to the first date offline and in real life.

As such the specific blog is referred to and includes a specific group of people that can be found online and this dating site.

Under this category or group of people come only those who plan or intent of dating in real life and/or to meet in person and real life.

Therefore, the questions included in this blog are primarily directed and concerned with this specific category/group of people.

The following scenario part of which are the questions of this blog is being given for better understanding purposes of this blog,

Hypothetical scenario

You have made contact with a person of your liking and interest through the private message service and begun getting to know each other.

Your liking of each other for another grows as you chat more and more. It appears and feels that "you hit off" with one another and after a certain time of chatting with each other, you both decide and agree to meet in person and in real life, have your first date offline.

Questions

1. Do you have any expectations in regards to your first date offline and in real life?.

2. If yes, what are these?.

Thank you for reading and looking forward to hearing any answers.

teddybear

Comments (232)

Molly drinks tea!!! applause
Star applause hug teddybear
I didn’t exclude you!

The event already happened.

Molly and I ( and a few others ) did just that.

We had dinner when we met for the first time and we then met again the following early morning to have coffee/tea and churros dipped in chocolate!
Kalpataru
Hi StarG..


Ofcourse I do.. I ain't gonna spend my time, energy, and money without any expectation or purpose. When I meet or have first date with that person in real life, ofcourse I would expect :
(1) him to be like as what he said about him online.
(2) us both to enjoy our conversation and other moment till the time is up and we say "lets meet again".
(3) him to like me too if I like him. flirty

But if nothing does meet any of my expectation, oh well.. C'Est La Vie. wine
Akash70
@ Star & Krinka & everyone.

Hi Krinka am glad we are on the same page :)))

STAR said/asked/uttered lol >>> "And, breaking my head to find "a solution" if there is one while I'm starving and having my dinner in from of me, that is why the delay.

Don't know if anyone reading this wants to express an opinion about this....wave hug"

Well isnt 'everything' & everyone Romantic in some way or the other..... does a possible 'solution' lay in expanding, from being 'A' Romantic to being Romance itself?

(and now I am hijacking your blog haha) I would step a little sideways & ask/invite everyone to reflect & comment, what is Romance? What is your understanding of romance? cheering devil frustrated bouquet

Sorry for complicating things but ... "Oh F**k it, all i care about is the crumpled sheets with stains of togetherness... " is fine too lol
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Stargazer111
@ Akash & Krinka wave,

Keep up this good work, it makes CS worth visiting ? (Akash)

Seriously I have never written so much on dating sites hehe :P ?(Akash)

I also agree with your opinion regarding Stargazer's blogs. ?One of the things that still keeps me here. ?(Krinka).

Thank you for your words and appreciation both.

teddybear
Stargazer111
Good morning/afternoon/evening everyone wave
Stargazer111
@ Krinka wave

I do have a general answer to the questions posed that I was thinking of and reflected upon yesterday.

I will give this answer with reference to your question "maybe the solution is one to stop being remantic?".

The question was posed in relation and is related to an illusion of having met that special someone,while this is not true or does not assign to reality.

One just not idealising and romanticising another but in a way seeing someone as they are not, attributing qualities in the personality and projecting or seeing a potential suitor as who they want and are looking for in life, that special someone and ideal partner.

This could not be further from the truth and that is why it is called an illusion to the creation of which the other person someone is chatting with, for me, definitely contributed in the creation as well as the instilment of these feelings and most definitely resulted in some kind of emotional fraud.

The solution is to find out whether what you think and believe about another is true or not.

In other words, ground yourself in reality and what is real through taking certain actions such as first of all, going ahead and taking the next step to from just chatting online to talking to the other person on the phone and having a phone conversation with this person.

Once again the same question, why the recorded messages and not a direct phone conversation with another? comes to mind(Still don't understand why someone will want to be sent recorded messages when they can have a phone conversation).

For me, the solution is not to stop being romantic or emotional or to have feelings and turn basically into ice inside.

But, to crosscheck and confirm that what you think and believe about another , the person you are just chatting with online is true or not.

For this purpose, in addition to not just chatting online behind a computer and having a phone conversation, in the whole process of this prior to a meeting in person which is another subsequent to the calls step, you see the actions of another person and whether those words they say are demonstrated in action.

Or, are just vague and shallow.

Anybody can be sitting behind a computer hiding behind it saying whatever they want and whatever another wants to hear and a real man/person is going to come forward not just stay hiding behind a computer just chatting online , never wanting to speak on the phone.

The solution for me is not to stop being you and what makes you , romantic , emotional or sensitive.

The solution is to hold your horses and let things unfold naturally, if they ever do, take steps such as a phone conversation, meeting in person (as long, if and in the case you established and is certain that it is safe to meet with the specific person) and not just chatting or hearing words of most possibly an emotional fraudster(who wants to just be sitting behind a computer just chatting online, why does a person not come forward and just want to hide behind a computer) and crosscheck or confirm what you think and believe about another by hearing the words and then seeing their actions.

Why stop being who and how you are, romantic instead of accepting this, who and how you are, what makes you the person you are and find someone who will respect this and not create/instill false beliefs in you , creating false impressions,confusion and take advantage of this?.

You just get rid off all who want you to be living and believe an illusion.

In regards to the rest matters in your comment,

1. "Special connections" made online that continue offline into some wonderful story are not that common!".
True , it is not impossible to take place. It's just rare but, this is what also takes place with all that is worthwhile in real life.
And, you can use an international site like this to search worldwide for your match, while keeping yourself grounded in reality through taking certain actions(mentioned)
Stargazer111
@ Krinka hug wave,

This is a continuation of my previous response to your comment/s here due to the limitation of words/characters in comments.

2. "If you are a romantic soul searching for something special-you can very easily delude yourself online...you can see more than there is while chatting/talking to someone just because you want it to be something special. Once you meet you cannot be living an illusion & you feel as if your expectations haven't been met. Maybe the solution is to stop being romantic?".

" Once you meet you cannot be living an illusion " and as mentioned in the previous response that is parts of the steps someone has to take in the whole process to ground themselves to reality , to confirm and crosscheck whether what they think and believe about another is true or not, to what extent it assigns to reality and the truth.

In addition to this, how truthful and honest the person they have been chatting with is and was with them for, someone was not participating in a conversation or having an online conversation and/or chatting on their own. Surely, there's context in this whole chatting and conversation or chatting that is taking place. Surely, a specific context, there were certain words and things mentioned by the other someone is chatting with.

No responsibility for the other part and the other part is being treated as completely innocent?.

What's the reason for this and how real is this?.

To me, it sounds a deception and emotional fraud other than an illusion and disappointment in these cases especially when one has been honest and truthful with who they are chatting with, expect the same in return and when this does not take place , the other is inevitably disappointed if they face up to the reality and truth and do not turn a blind eye to it as well as become aware of that, not even their basic humane expectations that all normal healthy functioning human beings have could not be met and would have never been met.

As mentioned in the previous comment, the solution is not to stop being who and how you are (romantic) but, to find and be with someone that does not take advantage of how and who you are but, respects this(you being romantic), who and how you are.

Have a good day.

teddybear
Star - taking your comments made to Krinka above, I think it should be taken a step further.
I agree totally that it is very important to have real conversation with someone we have started text chatting with online.
For me the concept of knowing what a person is really like involves all the senses. We need to hear the voice to ascertain that this person really is at least capable of pleasant speech, sounds correct in terms of age, accent etc. The tone of voice tells us so much too.
But that’s not enough. The visual communiation will complete the picture. Does the person really look the same as in the pictures? The facial expressions and body language also tell us so much. I once chatted to a lady online for a couple of weeks who was full of fun in her typed words and I imagined her as being all smily and jolly. But my illusion was wrong. We video chatted and for the entire 20 or 30 mins...the face was a continuous scowl. She actually looked angry, even though she wasn’t I guess. So that was it for me. I love smiley people and so I saved wasting further time and politely ended our encounter.

So my point is this. Before that first date or meeting for coffee, bagels, omelettes whatever ( grin ) there must be a full audio/visual meeting first. What’s the point of a blind date these days with all the technology available?

teddybear
Stargazer111
@ Akash wave ,

Thank you for valuable contribution to this blog and among others the introduction of new ideas and solutions to possible problems.

This is a response to all of your 3 comments on this and matters raised in them(will respond all that I remember as I do not see or have them in front of me while I'm writing the responses from my phone).

1. Your first comment,

I somehow tend to agree with Krinka's comment 

though Ref ...... "Maybe the real questions is - how to stop being such a romantic soul?" 

there is no solution for that lol .... if anyone has it pls let me know too ?

I did think of and reflected upon the question "how to stop being a romantic soul?" yesterday as mentioned earlier today in my last 2 comments to Krinka to which I'm referring you for the answers to your question and my own solution to what is/was perceived as a problem.

For the response to your first comment and question, please read my last 2 previous responses to Krinka, I have referred you to.

2. Your second comment.

I would add, being 'ghosted' thingy is the most cowardly & retarded behavior on anyone's part & such a person should immediately be removed from one's life.

Of course it is cowardish behaviour. They can only give shit to others, that is what they are good at, no response, no explanation, no answer to a question or questions raised about their behaviour.

In regards to the verification of someone's ID through Facebook,

I'm very sorry to say that, there are people who created a separate, different Facebook account specifically for dating sites they are on and those of the opposite sex they meet and of the same sex who shares the same mindset, motives and personality as them.

Most under a fake name and in which (Facebook account) pretty much there is nothing real.

This is what scammers and those who want to scam others (emotionally & financially) do, work and operate and some operate mostly through their facebook account that they use to contact persons/potential victims never met in person and real life to "get to know them for, they are/look hot" or whatever else they say to them.

They basically treat their facebook account as an account on a dating site.

For me, a Facebook account provided by those who created one for this and other dating site/s means absolutely nothing at all-what shall I do with this fake account?.

And why should someone add as their friend along with their rest friends or family a person who created a Facebook account specifically for those they meet on dating sites they are on?.

I would love to hear more about the "100 ways of verification" privately.

3. Your third comment

Just a suggestion ,

Why don't you create a blog of your own on this site with subject "Romance" instead of "hijacking" as you said this blog here?. laugh laugh laugh

No, you are not hijacking my blog whatsoever or at least I do not feel or see it that way but, it's a valid/substantial suggestion, you can create a blog or blogs yourself with whatever subject you want.

I will have to think of and reflect upon your questions about romance to have an answer.

Take care, have a good day! wave hug teddybear
Stargazer111
@ Mimi wave hug kiss ,

Hello lovely heart!

Glad to hear that "you have not exclude me" purple heart

I didn't know that you were referring to the past and what has already taken place, thought you were talking and referring to what was going to take place in the future.

That's good! smitten

Take care, have a lovely day! hug teddybear
Akash70
STAR!!! I happen to be online & keep refreshing your blog to see what's new haha, so you have an invisible fan now ;) :P hence this quick reply >>>

"I would love to hear more about the "100 ways of verification" privately.

Yes sure will do so :))

"Why don't you create a blog of your own on this site with subject "Romance" instead of "hijacking" as you said this blog here?. laugh laugh laugh

No, you are not hijacking my blog whatsoever or at least I do not feel or see it that way but, it's a valid/substantial suggestion, you can create a blog or blogs yourself with whatever subject you want."

Honestly I dont have the requisite amount of patience to so beautifully, religiously & mindfully reply to all the comments like you do, so I bow in appreciation & would rather be a participant with you as the "CHOIRMASTER"

"Those to serve who stand & wait/watch/comment.... " ;) :D


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Stargazer, can you do a simple blog one day, my eyes hurtcrying
Akash70
Maybe someone should start a new blog >> "Simple Blog" <<
explaining what a simple blog means

& along with that maybe another blog >> How to keep one's eyes from not hurting while reading online blogs"<<
cool banana

Expecting something cheeky soon lol beer
Krinka
@Akash70

Everyone is romantic, yet you put that ugly ugly photo in your profile where Aquarians are presented as people with almost no heart at all! crying laugh

I agree that most people are romantic. At least, all people I have ever met were romantic - in their own way. smile

Some are maybe more ''idealists'' and ''dreamers'' than others... confused
Krinka
@Stargazer111

You started so many different topics that I simply don't know where to begin. I think that they all deserve blogs for themselves. smile

I think that different people have a different pace. Some like to get to know someone fast, others need more time. I often met men online who were a lot faster and a lot slower than me.

The first ones would exchange a few messages and already ask for a phone number, chatted for a few hours and already called me on the phone, the next day wanted to have a video chat or meet in person (if we were close enough). This was often too fast for me and such people seemed not very serious and rather aggressive - I often suspected that their intentions weren't pure and refused to get to know them better.

Then, there were the slow ones. They would exchange messages for weeks until - finally - we would exchange telephone numbers, then they would again chat for weeks until the first phone call, etc. Depending on their culture and country - I could understand such a behaviour. Some people are rather private - like Japanese, for example - and they need more time to get relaxed enough to have a phone call and - especially a video chat with someone, especially a foreigner. So, I think that this ''slow pace'' with some people doesn't necessarily mean that they are just ''emotionally playing'' and want to chat forever.

However, if men come from my country or any other Western country (Europe, the Northern America, etc.) this ''slow pace'' for me usually means that they are not interested enough or that they chat with too many women at the same time and cannot manage to spend a lot of time with us all. laugh It's - generally - a sign to move on. I can give them some time to change they mind, maybe more than I should, but if they don't do anything - I move on.

I'm the happiest when I meet the man who is similar to me and with whom things somehow flow naturally and comfortably for us both. smile

About honesty and trust...

The further someone lives, the more difficult it is to determine whether the person is honest or not. I can rather easily check anyone in my hometown. It's not such a big town and there's always ''someone knowing someone''. But it's not the same with other towns and especially countries.

Facebook is - of course - absolutely unreliable. There are so many fake profiles there nowadays and it seems that especially married men often open fake profiles in other to chat with women and cheat on their wives. There are also plenty of scammers with fake photos and information.

However, even if you can determine that someone is honest, even if they have a REAL Facebook profile, give you lots of personal information, introduce you to their friends and family grin , it doesn't mean that their intentions are honest.

Some people are who they say they are, but the only thing they are interested in is ''virtual love''. They don't want a relationship, they don't want to meet in person, they just want to get emotionally involved with someone on the internet. Such people can make all sorts of promises, yet refuse to meet in person or - even if they do - refuse any sort of a relationship.

Some people are who they say they are, but they lie about the nature of a relationship they say they want. They would pretend that they want something serious, while the only thing they are interested in is a casual weekend romance.

Both these types (there are probably other ones too) are not always easy to spot and a person can waste a lot of time and money on them and end up feeling used and heart-broken.
Krinka
@robbyreal

I agree with you. smile

Photos mean nothing. They are just a two-dimensional representation of someone. They have ''no soul''.

The overall impression is what really matters. smile
Akash70
@ Krinka

"Everyone is romantic, yet you put that ugly ugly photo in your profile where Aquarians are presented as people with almost no heart at all! "

Hahaha ok that was just for fun, I was teasing someone with that pic, but then sorry to know that you are an Aquarius (obviously) lol :P (I hope you noticed Pisces lol ;) )

BTW I really like your analogy with details of experiences in your last reply to Star :))))

teddybear
@Krinka...awww thanks. Nice to have someone agreeing with me grin hug

@Akash - us pisces should stick together ! handshake
Stargazer111
Glad you guys are having fun thumbs up my brother is also a Pisces that makes 3.

Krinka, have you noticed that Capricorn has no heart at all? laugh laugh laugh

I will read and respond the comments now based on the timing they were made. wave hug
Star - we await all agog grin hug
Stargazer111
Hi Kal wave ,

I really love the structure of comment in answering the questions,

1. Do you have any expectations in regards to your first date offline and in real life?.

2. If yes, what are these?.

Your introduction, the fact that you placed your expectations in arithmetical order and conclusion.

I copy and paste below your introduction,

Of course I do.. I ain't gonna spend my time, energy, and money without any expectation or purpose. When I meet or have first date with that person in real life,

laugh laugh laugh That's very true that "time, energy and money" is spent.

Your expectations in arithmetical order,

ofcourse I would expect :

(1) him to be like as what he said about him online.

(2) us both to enjoy our conversation and other moment till the time is up and we say "lets meet again". 

(3) him to like me too if I like him. ?

I think your first expectation is the one mostly said by participants in this blog and this also includes me.

I think the biggest problem entails when someone makes an emotional investment online from just chatting online and with the wrong person or a person who is not as presents own person to be.

Your conclusion

But if nothing does meet any of my expectation, oh well.. C'Est La Vie.

Your conclusion for me equals to self awareness and being grounded in reality.

Someone having realistic expectations and knowing prior to this that there is a possibility of none to be met which does not take it to heart and knows that has nothing to do with them.... C'est La vie.

This is life and these things happen in life.

Really nice comment. Thank you for your comment.

teddybear
Stargazer111
Robby wave ,

Maybe you can play a song to accompany this blog??! laugh laugh laugh

The response to your comment is up next peace
I’m playing ‘ The Long and Winding Road’ haha
Stargazer111
@ Robbyreal wave ,

1. Star - taking your comments made to Krinka above, I think it should be taken a step further.

Whatever that is, I personally need to be forward to the next step and stage.

In general, I'm not the type of person who jumps into relationships or calls or dates(meetings in person) but, someone chatting for weeks, months even years on end and not wanting to have a phone conversation, that is just way too off for me.

There are many people on dating sites to be chatting online for months even years, 15 years the last case met, not having a phone conversation or meeting anyone in person.

2. I agree totally that it is very important to have real conversation with someone we have started text chatting with online. 

To have a real conversation, real persons who are able to hold a conversation are required.

I'm afraid I did not have many real or substantial conversations on CS in my private message service up to now and what was presented as real was definitely not.

It sounds disappointing but, that is how it is.

3. For me the concept of knowing what a person is really like involves all the senses. We need to hear the voice to ascertain that this person really is at least capable of pleasant speech, sounds correct in terms of age, accent etc. The tone of voice tells us so much too.

I absolutely agree with you here and that is why I copied and pasted above the whole paragraph from your comment.

4. Audio & Video call & Your experience with the video call.

Thank you for sharing your experience with the video call.

My experience with video calls was very different from yours from the point of view that I really cannot understand anything and what gradually appears to be the case is that , people can play their role on camera.

They can play a role and be completely fake.

I find an audio call much more accurate than a video call.

But, nothing can substitute face to face communication and interaction with another.

5. What’s the point of a blind date these days with all the technology available? 

It does feel like a blind date even with the technology available, at least it seems to be the case for me.

As mentioned in a previous comment to Krinka on this blog , even though I chatted too many hours prior to meeting in person with the couple of guys I dated in the (far) past, it took me a very long time when met for the first time to get used to their physical presence and of course, talking to them face to face instead of online or on the phone.

Also even though we chatted for weeks prior to meeting in person for many hours , it felt like meeting a stranger for the first time.

And/or having indeed a blind day.

I am wondering whether it would have been better if we did not chat for such a long time prior to meeting in person or not...

Something to think about.

Nice comment and good matters raised in it.

Thank you for your comment.
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Stargazer111
Robby, "The long and winding road"???? laugh laugh laugh
Stargazer111
@ Robbyreal wave ,

In my response to your first comment(not "the long and winding road"laugh laugh ),

Blind date not blind day laugh rolling on the floor laughing
Star...thanks....I’ll take it that you agreed then..lol

Don’t you know ‘The Long and Winding Road’ by the Beatles?

A beautiful love song. It’s a long and winding road to get the girl he loves...but he gets there.

You should youtube it grin hug
Stargazer111
Robby,

I did!

Enjoy everyone The Long and Winding Road!


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Awwwwwwww.
Krinka
@Akash70

SORRY to know that you are an Aquarius?! wow

You don't deserve the reply. snooty

laugh

@Stargazer111

The photo must have been made by a Pisces. laugh
Good question! If we have a snack or a meal on meet or on a first date, I’d expect she would not pick her teeth with her fingernails when we were through. wave
Stargazer111
@ Kalpataru wave ,

Kal, I forgot to add in my previous comment that, my assumption is that you placed your expectations in arithmetical order based on the importance of them , starting from the most important one for you as number 1

I think that's another reason why I love your comment but, is this assumption true as I believe this to be and the case?.

Thanks.

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Stargazer111
@ Akash wave

1. You being "an invisible fan" as you called yourself in your comment, I really do not think that is the case and friends , online and offline are not invisible.

The only ones that are "invisible" offline and online are the opposite to friends and that is enemies, cowards who are hiding or who love to be hiding in a corner waiting for an attack or to be given some "food" or opportunity for an attack.

In my real life and offline, I usually starve them and give them no food.

2. Honestly I dont have the requisite amount of patience to so beautifully, religiously & mindfully reply to all the comments like you do, so I bow in appreciation & would rather be a participant with you as the "CHOIRMASTER"

"Those to serve who stand & wait/watch/comment.... " ;) :D

Thank you smitten

One of the most beautiful, humble, emotionally touching comment ever! smitten

teddybear
Stargazer111
@ Bnaughty wave ,

Thank you for your complaint that I really do not find substantial and sorry to hear about the suffering (hurting of your eyes) this blog caused you.

You don't have to read all of the comments or comments so "your eyes to hurt", just to concentrate and answer two very simple questions asked in the blog.

That is,

1. Do you have any expectations in regards to your first date offline and in real life?.

2. If yes, what are these?.

I really cannot understand why some seem to be having a problem understanding questions that 5 year olds at primary school after someone explain to the 5 year olds what expectations are or substituted the verb " expect" with "want" would have immediately being able to answer the question.

I may create a very naughty , saucy blog in the future which is my assumption that you want, I may not.

Is it not a naughty blog that you Bnaughty wants?. devil

I'm sure you can answer these 2 very simple questions.

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Akash70
Just a short visit here to glance at the blog.

Hi Star, Robbyreal, Krinka (the blue hearted Aquarian) haha come on dont prove that pic to be true by 'not replying' lol
& yeah could be the photo was made by a Pisces haha head banger

Catch you lovely people later in the day/evening ... have fun
Stargazer111
@ Krinka wave

This is a response to both of your comments(page 1 of 2).

1."At least, all people I have ever met were romantic - in their own way. ?

Some are maybe more ''idealists'' and ''dreamers'' than others..."

I'm an idealist more than a dreamer.

Unfortunately or fortunately,I haven't encountered or met many romantic or idealists or dreamers in my life.

Currently, I'm in one of the greediest environments ever, surrounded by the greediest people ever encountered in the Mediterranean but, there are always ways to even create and experience an environment that someone wants even if it is online.

And my inbox on this site is just full of people pursuing own selfish interests with just 2-3 exceptions to the rule which may also be the same case.

My person being an idealist though , will not change and doesn't change even if I find myself in an environment in which idealists are being discarded and there's only just 1 idealist in any place, any given time, a group or environment.

2. You started so many different topics that I simply don't know where to begin.

First and all, thank you for sharing with all here, different kind of experiences in the same area in such a very detailed, thorough manner in this comment comment.

Very much appreciated.

I'm just responding to the comments and matters brought forward in the comments section and I absolutely agree that, there are so many important matters, questions , ideas and experiences shared and exchanged.

All within the subject of this blog, expectations for the first date offline and in real life with someone met online and a dating site like this one.

As previously mentioned in this blog, "expectations are a vast subject".

Therefore this blog was titled "expectations. Part 1" and concentrated solely on expectations (online dating) for the first date offline and in real life with someone met online.

It also concentrated on a specific group of people that their intentions , purpose and wants in the specific context of this blog matched(meet someone they wanted to meet in person or go out on a date with-just 1-).

From this, a group with common ground was naturally formed and an online discussion of this subject in the context of this online group formed begun and carried out.

I think and feel that almost all matters raised in this blog within an online group and discussion about the subject do come within the subject "expectations" of this blog.

There's too much food for thought for me as well and still thinking of certain important matters raised in the comments section.

The blog expanded through the sharing of experiences between participants related to expectations for the first date that participants in this blog felt safe to do within the context of this blog and in a very constructive, mature, civilised, respectful manner.

The blog expanded and grew even further through the offering of solutions to possible problems in regards to a first date with someone others met online, introduction of new ideas , suggestions of steps to be taken, sharing of both experiences, ideas and solutions to potential problems.

This is how a functioning , productive team and group of people works and operates.

This was the usage of what was available for something productive, worthwhile and substantial.

As long as all us within the subject of this blog, I don't mind having a little bit more to think about or food for thought.

Better this and the wealth of matters raised within this blog than absolutely nothing at all or worse than this, nothing of no value or worth or importance in the context of comments made.

3. "I think that they all deserve blogs for themselves".

How about you creating a blog?.

You do have a wealth of knowledge in different subjects and think that any blog you create will be interesting to read. At least, I will definitely be reading it and interested in reading it,whatever the subject
Stargazer111
@ Krinka wave ,

(Page 2 of 2).

4. Different people, different pace & a match of this pace between 2 people.

I absolutely agree with you that each person has their own pace and think that's important to be a match of the pace between 2 people otherwise, especially when you do not know of the other person and all interaction and communication takes place between strangers online, misunderstandings may occur.

I don't like a fast or very fast pace or approach either.

A question asked by me directly to someone going with a fast or very fast pace is, "what's the reason for this rush?" And, "why all this rush?".

There's no need for rush in these cases (personal matters) at all. When there's no need for rushing , what's the point of it?.

My own experience with those who do not want to receive or make a call even after weeks of chatting is that, either they are already with someone in their real lives or chatting online with 3-4 others the least at the same time.

They picked up No.1 to concentrate on, while they are keeping No.2,3,4 etc. on stand by and on the side to pick up and use whenever and in whatever way they feel like and are already using all stand byers at the same time in addition to the No.1.

5. I'm the happiest when I meet the man who is similar to me and with whom things somehow flow naturally and comfortably for us both. ?

Yes, that's the best! A match of pace!

Absolutely agree with it!.

6. Difficulty of crosschecking information and trust to be established when there is long distance.

Krinka says,

The further someone lives, the more difficult it is to determine whether the person is honest or not. I can rather easily check anyone in my hometown. It's not such a big town and there's always ''someone knowing someone''. But it's not the same with other towns and especially countries. 

Stargazer says,

Deception is just way too easy to take place and what is said by another (e.g relationship status) to be revealed in and through time when there is a long physical distance between two persons who are dating online.

However , much bigger problem for me in crosschecking/confirming information(e.g relationship status) constitutes the time difference between countries of long distance between them e.g more than 5 hours.

7. Facebook & creation of fake profiles on Facebook.

I agree with all that you say about Facebook and all new information you provide about fake profiles on it.

My opinion about Facebook being unreliable or fake specifically for those who created a Facebook profile specifically for the dating sites they use, was expressed in my previous response to Akash.

8. It is true that even if the profile on Facebook is real, does not mean that the intentions are honest.

9. I did encounter myself many who do say they want a relationship but, it gradually appears that the intentions were far from it.

It was either just words for an ill and malicious purpose and intention or their unresolved issues with their exes came on the surface that made it obvious that they did want a relationship but, it was not possible to form and have a relationship with anyone-just temporary one and for the short term.

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Stargazer111
@ Galrads wave ,

Good question! If we have a snack or a meal on meet or on a first date, I’d expect she would not pick her teeth with her fingernails when we were through.wave

Thank you.

Eeeeeeeeeewwwwwww wow that's just so disgusting especially for a first date!barf

Don't tell you have already experienced this on a first date!

No toothpicks or tissues at the restaurant??!!wow

What about dental tape in a pocket and done discreetly in the women's room??.

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@ Akash wave ,

Welcome!

Yeah, you do seem very busy the last few days, glad you are having a good time here hug

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