100%
It seems everyone is looking for that special one, that soul mate, that life partner but isn’t that one and only so hard to find? What each is looking for is someone who will give them 100% and to which they can return the same. But is this the only way it can be - 100% for one person or can that 100% be shared around? For example, supposing you have a lover who can give 40% of what you need, all the intimacy, pillow talk and physical stuff. Then there’s your family which can give you the back-up, a base to go back to with familiarity, we could count them as 20%. Then there are your good friends who give you an alternative view on life and who will listen to your stories and complaints, they can give you say 25%. That leaves 15% for activities, sports clubs or anything else which gives you a buzz. Of course you can alter the percentages all you like, as long as you come up with 100%. That way your life is full of what you need without putting all your eggs in one basket.So the question is, why should we expect one person to give us everything we need? Of course many people do have a single partner and all the other relationships too and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t, but at least with the above formula you’ll know you won’t have to expect everything from the one you’re with and if it’s not that great, at least you don’t have to give it 100%.
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Enjoy life while you still can
I really like your blogs.
After spending some time on CS and reading different blogs and threads, I came to the same conclusion.
I think that being here was - after all - well-spent time.
Expecting that is putting tremendous pressure on that person.
That is what we have family and friends for, as well as ourselves.
Then you don't put them on a pedestal but get to know them surely and slowly, keeping up your other interests and not phoning or texting too much, too much intimacy breeds contempt [another good saying]. That for me, anyway is what a soul mate is all about. No pretence, no barriers up, you will know when it happens and I hope it happens soon for you.
Do we really need mathematics to decide how much love we need...how much we're prepared to give...and how much time for different activities.
All bloody complicated if you ask me
I don't really want someone full time as I need my space to breathe ...to do MY things ...
But...I like a man who gives me his full time attention whenever he's with me!
You want your man to pay you full attention even when he's driving? This could be dangerous.
Anyway, my post is not about mathematics, just that we don't have to have one person to give us all we need - all our eggs in one basket. Relationships are often more like ownership and that's also dangerous.
How do you do @Bunyi888 ? Is that like a person message?
In conclusion...as I've said before on other blogs...
In order to fulfil ALL our needs ...a woman needs 4 men if she can't find it all in one...
One for stimulating conversations...
One for love..intimacy ..pillow talks etc..
One for going out and fun
One for security who has nothing of the above
And...the most important...that those 4 men don't know each other!
Surely you need a man to fix the car and wash it?? ;-)
I have a daughter and three grandchildren. These are forever implanted in my heart. My mother also has a permanent place there. I would never forsake theses for anyone else no matter what the cause and would also never ask anyone else to choose this action. The most that anyone can do is give you a piece of their heart alongside those that already reside there. It is natural to be reciprocal on your part. Now as long as you realize this then you can go into the future with a mature and even understanding of life with another person. This will make it work and is as close to 100% as you will ever get.
@ Daniela---
@ Ekself....
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It seems you´re still having problem with posting comments to each person?
Just press the key @ like somebody@hotmail.com which you will find where the 2 is by pressing the alt key at the same time.