THE PROBLEM OR THE SOLUTION.

Wen, I live on the West Coast where any incorrect answer, is acceptable.
And to complicate it further, it is less linear, and goes in an emotional circle until you just give up using logic.
The longest answers to the simplest questions.( See, it's rubbing off on me).
2+2=5X4+a3(?)

@ Wen ,

That's indeed a very true statement "be the problem or the solution".

It is all a matter of choice and the choice of few to be the solution whereas of the choice of the many to be a problem and create nothing but further problems to others, just a reflection of what's going on in the head of each individual.

Healthy or unhealthy.

How you deal with problems and someone who creates or loves creating problems problems or further problems, indeed , it does show integrity in addition to how healthy a mind and person is.

Take care.

Now Whenever, deal with the problem of my "long answer" to your long blog

I used to hear it said this way."You either have to be part of the solution,or you're going to be part of the problem".

Hi Wen..

I usually focus on the solution rather than the problem.

As it is said...there are no problems without solutions.

Also..many people are always looking for problems when there are none.

@ Wen ,

and I do hate to say but there are people who like to add to problems rather than discuss or solve problems. Star it is just life and even though sad but part of it. 

I agree with both of what you said above. But, there's always a solution and no solution is found through negativity and that's exactly why negativity is deliberately created by those who want to create problems or further problems.

The key to the second comment,

Now Whenever, deal with the problem of my "long answer" to your long blog.

Unlocked(what's meant).

It's all in the eyes of the beholder and it happens often others to see problems where there are no problems and therefore, create problems out of nowhere and when there was absolutely none in the first place and to begin with.

It's up to each individual to figure out what's really the problem.

Hi Wenever,
Good blog. ~ I think the hardest problems for me are the ones we have no power over. Health problems, being told we have perhaps Cancer, or losing a loved one via death or a failed marriage, people whose adult kids turn to drugs, these things are extremely hard to see clearly and can change the mind set and it is hard to see any way out.
For me, I think if we have genuine friends to help us, to give us that push, anything is possible.

Good blog

Hi Wenever,
Good blog. ~ I think the hardest problems for me are the ones we have no power over. Health problems, being told we have perhaps Cancer, or losing a loved one via death or a failed marriage, people whose adult kids turn to drugs, these things are extremely hard to see clearly and can change the mind set and it is hard to see any way out.
For me, I think if we have genuine friends to help us, to give us that push, anything is possible.

It's actually a question asked quite often nowadays in corporate situations, or at least in the UK. Complain about some facet of office life, or a business difficulty, and someone for sure will round on you and tell you not to be part of the problem, instead write down suggestions to be part of the solution.

Slightly different, but more or less the same message and always worth remembering, so a good subject for a blog!

Hi Wen
That´s what divergent thinkers do, they use problem-solving strategies directed toward one correct solution to a problem ...whatever it is, it only could get better. Be like thinker-bell, always part of the solution.

@ Wen,

Star, You know as good as I do that there is negative people in this world, there is something wrong in there life and they don't like seeing anyone else happy. Iti is sad but you need and me and everyone else need to stay focused on the positive side, do you agree. 

True, true, true, if they can't be happy nobody else should be or feel happy. If they feel and are miserable then all should feel and be miserable.

Yes, I agree with focusing on the positive side, no matter what!

Sometimes we think we have problems when really is none, but we are bothered about something, I had my son tell me some things the other day that he thought was a problem, after listening to him all I could think and say was I don't see a problem, but it was bothering him.

I don't know how old is your son and what the specific problem is but, what I would have asked is, What's the reason you see this as or is/constitutes a problem for you?

There's always certain reasons why.

If someone sees or feels something as a problem then, there's a problem and this problem is valid for them (whoever feels as such).

If "it was bothering him" that's another problem itself in addition to "it" and what that was.

That's the beginning point for me and how I deal with this.

Maybe you can discuss from the beginning and have another conversation but, about the initial conversation, I don't know anyone who would have wanted to say much more after being told "I don't see where the problem is" so, maybe there was something more there that he was trying to tell you and may have taken it as you wouldn't understand so he said nothing.

Sorry, you may not like what I say above but, that's how I see it.

@ Wen ,

32 years old that's a man not a boy. I kind of understood I think...based on what I kind of understood, I would not have taken his side at all if i believe he wasn't right in what he said and told him that "he is old enough to deal with it on its own".

Wen ,

I'm going to log off this site for now...

"Deal with it on its own"= take responsibility for all of his action and what comes under his responsibility, you aren't there to clear up the mess he created but, to support him emotionally to clear up his own mess, him to take the necessary actions a,b,c,d and not you for him.

The best and safest option is the first one,

Maybe you can discuss from the beginning and have another conversation but, about the initial conversation, I don't know anyone who would have wanted to say much more after being told "I don't see where the problem is" so, maybe there was something more there that he was trying to tell you and may have taken it as you wouldn't understand so he said nothing.

I still hold the initial view or feeling that,

Maybe there was something more there that he wanted to tell you but he could not.

If you are to have a conversation from the beginning you will have to leave all negative prejudice that I believe is there due to past behaviour on the side and come up with a new course of action if the one up to now applied is not working(different way of dealing with matters).

I kind of understood but, not completely and the best I have based on what "I kind of understood" is this.

Hope you find the solution to these problems.

Good night

Stargazer ~ Glad you liked my sharing. I had to go through some frogs though.

Wenever ~ yes faith, without it I would be nothing, nowhere . Not a crutch but it does make sense of dying, illnesses, [in others] and is a great comfort.