Love Is A Decision
I wrote and posted the following piece on Poetry Corner on Jan 7, 2016:Love Is A Decision
(Author: socrates44)
Love is not based on a feeling only
There must also be a clear decision
Passionate feelings may die off early
Showing it was just infatuation
One should not need another as a crutch
But be able to stand on one's feet
This will allow each other space as such
And enrichen the sharing when both meet
A love relationship has its demands
It does not ensure smooth sailing always
Be mindful of this in each circumstance
And it will help you survive the rough days
The one that you love should be your best friend
Someone with whom you can share everything
A person upon whom you can depend
In situations that can be trying
As time passes, both of you will change
For change is inevitable in life
Do not consider this as something strange
Learn to adjust and avoid any strife
True love is the most precious emotion
That a person can engage in sharing
It fills the heart with blissful elation
Giving one's life a rich sense of meaning
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Posted: Jan 7, 2016
About this poem:
"Love is a decision, it is a judgement, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgement and decision."
- Erich Fromm - (The Art of Loving)
"But let there be spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow."
Kahlil Gibran – (The Prophet)
Comments (29)
I write poetry but I will never put my work on cs but in saying that the word "LOVE" bores me I want it to mean more.
I wrote a blog to celebrate Poets day (it was yesterday) hope you have had a good day
Thanks for your approval.
“the word “LOVE” bores me I want it to mean more.”
Your statement is not surprising since the word itself
has come to be interpreted in so many different ways,
some of which may seem trivial.
Glad you love the piece!
(Lovely picture!)
Thanks!
Re the second stanza,
Two people in a relationship should allow each other space to be himself/herself
Erich Fromm is one of my favourite authors.
His “Art of Loving” is a masterpiece on the subject of Love.
Nice to hear from you!
Thank You.
Thanks for the info.
I was not aware that there was a world poetry day.
You are entitled to your opinion though several others may not agree.
I hope it brings you fulfilment.
I wasn´t aware either ....it was Facebook
Read my CS profile!!!
What about when one's emotions become so strong that they override the logical decision making part of the brain?
The reason why I ask this. I heard once, when coming to women....it is said that, "attraction is not an option."
One can assume that when one talks about options, there needs to be a decision made to choose which option. One can also assume that attraction leads to love.
So, if it is fair to say that attraction is needed for love...then I would say that emotions, for some, override the actual conscious decision making process of the mind.
I must say you also have a very lovely personality.
Art is a real lucky guy.
Thanks for your comment.
I share the view you expressed.
True love is the most precious emotion
That a person can engage in sharing
It fills the heart with blissful elation
Giving one's life a rich sense of meaning
Of course, emotions or feelings are an essential part of love and are probably the basis of the initial attraction between two persons.
However, although it may be difficult, it is important to seek to maintain a rational level-headed approach in the relationship, especially when the “magic” of the phase of initial attraction has subsided. This is when the “decision” factor arises.
I think a lot of people only want a big of fun, no commitment, see how it goes etc. - this will never go anywhere. Making the decision to give a relationship a go, to be with someone for the good and bad and continuously being there for the other person, supporting and communicating will be essential for a relationship to last over time.
"Making the decision to give a relationship a go, to be with someone for the good and bad and continuously being there for the other person, supporting and communicating will be essential for a relationship to last over time."
Thanks for your comment, quoted above, which reinforces the "decision" aspect of love.