Psychological warfare!

Now, being on here for around a week, I had lots of traffic in my inbox. It is very long time ago that I participated on a dating site. First: compared to other dating sites, I find many people here on CS, which are nice, kind, genuine and authentic and to get on well with.

What does do surprise me though, is, that some folks are just getting their bully out and seem to have lost all their education and manners.

For me, it is no problem to deal with them, but it is quite amazing how many ridicule and disrespect other members.

I feel sorry for them, because it is a spineless attitude. It does let me think, in certain respects, of the phenomenon of "gaslighting"!



If one is aware and knows the signs of it, then it is much harder for the "gaslighters" to find their prey.

I´m wishing all of you a splendid day! hug

Comments (37)

P. Ehrlich waehrt am laengsten. Aa-V.
Lukeon
Whats the rate these days for a good Soldat?dunno
Lots of traffic in you inbox? The fk I don't for pete's! It's an outrage! moping
Johnny_Sparton
Have a wonderful day yourself.

Pro....I suspect that some....if not all....people just want to be recognized and get attention. In essence, get some sort of feedback from others about their being. I would think it is just a typical human psychological need. If they cannot get it in a positive way, then negative it shall be.

dunno
So many righteous blogging these days.
I'm having a bad conscience now.
goldengloss
Protegaia Shonen Tag. I hope you enjoy being on the blogs and I have a feeling that you will meet somebody very quickly since you are young, grounded and pretty. Best of luck.
wine
That's alright! You can say anything you want about me. I must warn you though, that I' no fun to pick on. That's because I'm just too dumb to know when I'm being insulted. . . . . rolling on the floor laughing . . . .rolling on the floor laughing
My_Lover
Quit smoking you Moron, you're killing the planet devil
The men here are outstanding!laugh
And the women here just don't seem to care.Can't get any better than that.
No huge turn over of men.
No jealously or squabbling.

* most here in blogland are over 40 years old.wink

Have fun! thanks for blogging.thumbs up
Speaking as one of the spineless disrespecters of other site members: Some of them deserve it. devil
Crunia
cswelcome
Your first blog and it seems you have the gift of opportunity lol!
Enjoy your time around Protegaia wave
KNenagh
Yes, not much you can do about the negative behaviours of some of the members.

Stick with people that you can communicate and have positive experiences with. wave
cswelcome blogs cheers

professor
Here's the best piece of advice you'll ever get -
Believe without questioning EVERYthing Ashlander (Patti) tells you.
Such as...

"The men here are outstanding!"

Patti is the smartest woman in the world.
grin

cowboy
goldengloss
MiClee ~ Of course, she is correct. Absolutely.conversing
It would be also nice if our lovely new German Blogger replied or acknowledged our replies, just saying.
Happy Sunday all.wave
Also - place complete trust in anything gg says.
It is absolute truth. Always.

Gg is another smartest woman in the world.
grin

cowboy
Protegaia
Hello everyone!

Thanks to all, who commentet so far on my blog, that includes the not so kindhearted commentators as well.

Unfortunately my time is scarce to spend a lot of time responding to all comments, but I have to set some priorities to manage the time for all my many interests. So, I´ll dedicade some special time now and agian to to so.

A very special "wunderschönen Sonntag" to Goldengloss! Your are a fantasctic lady. I did spend some time reading some of your contributions on CS and you´ve got me started writing my own blog. Thank you for this and your kind welcome in Blogland. You are an absolute assett to CS!




handshake daisy thanks
Is there a cult forming on the blogs? Let´s hope they don´t have weapons!
Protegaia, I am also an asset to CS, as you would have noticed for yourself had you had more time to discover me properly.
pat8lanips
This gaslighting, I'm guessing its similar to gascranking. I prefer pedalcranking myself, its great when a sexy womans car wont start.
seaworthy
Ms protegaia, gaslighting, which, back when was associated with megalomania. This word has now been replaced by the word Narcissist. The main characteristic is an obsession with grandiose or extravagant things or actions.

The predator tries to make the prey feel that they are not sane and continues to pass this agenda until the prey gives in and believes there is something wrong with themselves.

There was a movie back in 1944 that went by the name Gaslight and exemplifies this psychological deranged behavior.

goldengloss
Protegaia Many thanks for that. I did not know you had little time to come back on the blogs.
Keep up your blogs. Gute Nachtwave
Protegaia you said these words within your post: Quote? which are nice, kind, genuine and authentic and to get on well with.

@ yes right.The world wide web is cruel and nothing like real life.
I am also an asset...ich auch! applause

Has du noch nicht meiner Blog gelesen? wink
My_Lover
Protogramma

You will never save the planet, but i'll let you save me from boredom drinking

Do you have your Tree of life on your back dunno

If not? you should get one wink
pat8lanips
Something vaguely arousing about "lots of traffic in my inbox", but then again its been a while so if you talked about grinding pepper on to a steak I'd probably take that the wrong way too. Just sayin'
My_Lover
@Pat rolling on the floor laughing cheers cheers
Pat: I add bourbon to my top notch pepper steak! laugh
Because you are so Good Looking I would say some people cannot control their Jealousy and forget to be nice to you.? So park those nasty people. Best wishes.sad flower
Because you are so Good Looking I would say some people cannot control their Jealousy and forget to be nice to you.? So park those nasty people. Best wishes.sad flower
goldengloss
Protegaia,
I hope the inbox is still full. Gaslighting is an interesting phenomenon. It seems to be getting common nowadays now that people can hide behind smartphone/laptop screens and be invisible.

To me it is easy to spot them. they never take responsibility for their actions, their rudeness, insulting behaviour ,
They never apologise Never, the person always deserved their vitriol.
They thrive on being Noticed, even if that is abusing others online and being crude

They show very little empathy at all and rarely if every have real feeling for anyone but themselves .
Since they feed off others for their supply. Ignoring is the only treatment that works. It is a life long condition.
Have a wonderful time on the blogs.




cheers Viel Gluck
goldengloss
Seaworthy ~ I do remember going to the play, 'Gaslight' and then there was the film.
It then became a psychological term when I was studying counselling /Therapy for psychopaths and Narcissists who try and make the victim of abuse, verbal or physical, think that it is all their fault.

Narcissists are incapable [due to malfunction of Amygada in the Brain] of feeling any real empathy
for other human beings. The emptiness within and the false sense of self as a superior being, with a
sense of entitlement, even if that means abusing others, using others, insulting others hurting others
without any wrongdoing on the part of the other person is part of what they do.

They have no self awareness, and have a sense of entitlement in this world, a superiority and a cruelty
that is beyond comprehension. There is only one way of dealing with them ~ as far away as possible.
Behind the Mask ~ David Thomas makes sense of a lot of their behaviour.
God bless.
Very true.
goldengloss
Oden ~ Thanks, sounds like you experienced one.
Keepers
What does do surprise me though, is, that some folks are just getting their bully out and seem to have lost all their education and manners.

For me, it is no problem to deal with them, but it is quite amazing how many ridicule and disrespect other members.

I feel sorry for them, because it is a spineless attitude. It does let me think, in certain respects, of the phenomenon of "gaslighting"!


That's the truth, and they seem to lack the wherewithal that their own words reveal more about them than they do any other. doh
Busteralec
its sad but very true.i thought i was the only one that reconized this.great post.have a great day
The blogs would be thin, wasting away without troll topics. I guess we can fall back on religion or politics. The sex, dating, etc is nowhere to be found on CS
Keepers
Good blog, I'd never heard of gaslighting before. And believe me on another site I was trolled relentlessly and hated for reasons beyond my control, mainly because one particular member couldn't take rejection. Then jealousy is right behind everything because I am a success while the others are just floating around with big mouths and no knowledge on to make a comfortable monthly living.

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