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I was doing the same job for the same company for nearly thirty years. When it came to an end I expected it to be something that would take a lot of getting used to but that wasn't the case. Suddenly, my day in and day out carry on was different yet I slipped into the new situation completely seamlessly. Likewise, I lived with the same person for forty years and when that came to an end it was the same story. I find it surprising that a way of life that has gone on for so long and become so deeply ingrained in my sense of who and what I am can be moved on from so easily. It's not that I don't have any regrets or feelings of nostalgia about the past, I very much do, but even so, I can't quite get over how things can change so much and yet just feel normal. I just wondered if I was unusual in this or is it a common experience?

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1one1●Sliema, Majjistral Malta

Mar 26, 2018●62 Comments

You've probably made peace with the fact that everything comes to an end sooner or later and that that is simply unavoidable. I reckon it's a healthy attitude towards life.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 26, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Even so, one, it's not what I expected.

Grouchyoldfart●San Juan, Puerto Rico

Mar 26, 2018●253 Comments

We all fall into a daily routine whether we notice or not and we also fall into a pattern of life. This is not so neurotic as it may seem. It is just our conscience and sub-conscience going about the daily routine. We all do this without thinking too much about it, and we concentrate on the task at hand. It is what allows us to perform complex tasks and confront any and all obstacles that confront our path. Since we are all human and comprised of the same genes anything new will not be so enormous or difficult as to not be referenced in past experiences. Welcome to the human race.

wenever●perry, Florida USA

Mar 26, 2018●89 Blogs●2,159 Comments

Hi Harbal my friend, when I retired from work I was sure of this is what I wanted, but I still had these doubts and uncertain if I was doing the right thing.

It sounds to me you are content with your life, and that is what matters the most'

Hey you got this thing

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 26, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Hi wen.
No, I'm no more content now than I was before. My life is different now and better in some ways but I don't think I could say I'm any happier.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 26, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Grouchy, you seem to be saying that everyone experiences life changes in the same way but I don't think that's the case.

ashlander●In God's Hands, Oregon USA

Mar 26, 2018●3,804 Comments

Harbal, the CS blogland fits you to a T!

Glad you are here telling it like it is.
Inner strength just takes you to the finish line some day.
I worked Hospice and who that person
was in their pain and suffering was still the same person,caring about everyone else first.
Or others were vice versa.
It's your outlook on life.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 26, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Hello ash,

There doesn't seem any point in not telling it like it is. It wouldn't change anything for me and I don't see what's to be gained by giving a false impression to anyone else. I'm glad you think I belong here.

mollybaby●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Mar 26, 2018●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Different people just react differently to change that's all.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 26, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Yes, molly, I know, I just wondered how easily other people have found having to adapt to a different way of life.

Elegsabiff●Motril-ish, Andalusia Spain

Mar 26, 2018●358 Blogs●9,358 Comments

I think I envy you - my life has been fairly constant change but although I switch to the new tracks and truck on, it's never seamless. I'm always slightly astonished for a while that I'm coping and always wondering when the wheels will fall off

So, your question, jmo but I would say fairly unusual. Most people I know resist change fiercely and would fall apart if their routine was removed abruptly. Unusual is definitely good in this case.

mollybaby●Cork City, Cork Ireland

Mar 26, 2018●37 Blogs●11,285 Comments

Some people are always going to fiercely resist change, and some embrace it.

But for the majority it is a little discombobulating, but most settle down to their new life and it becomes the norm.

Elegsabiff●Motril-ish, Andalusia Spain

Mar 26, 2018●358 Blogs●9,358 Comments

Nice use of the word discombobulating

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 26, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Biff, from what I've gleaned and pieced together from your posts, your change of lifestyle is considerably more radical and adventurous than mine so perhaps we can't make a fair comparison. I envy you and wish I was brave enough to do something like it.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 26, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Yes, molly, well done for "discombobulating".

Bnaughty●Málaga, Andalusia Spain

Mar 26, 2018●17 Blogs●994 Comments

Harbal, you´re probably a selfish cat

Elegsabiff●Motril-ish, Andalusia Spain

Mar 26, 2018●358 Blogs●9,358 Comments

Harb, my most recent change is probably insanity pure and simple but I was thinking more of when I was made redundant after 10 years with the same company, I got a fantastic redundancy package and made all sorts of plans (some of which worked out, too) but the reason I envy you is that I wasted the first 3 months. All the changes of my life, I never adjust instantly, I am like my cat on his lead - slinking along staring wildly in all directions, then a sudden dash, then a sneaky attempt to get out of the harness, a kangaroo leap, then back to slinking ...

Miwagi●Flyover, Kentucky USA

Mar 26, 2018●5 Blogs●149 Comments

Somebody put up with you for 40-years.

I'm shocked I tell you shocked.

Just kidding.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 27, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Biff, call it insanity or whatever you want but you're still heroic.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 27, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Miwagi, I agree, nobody should have to put up with me for forty years. Forty minutes is enough for most.

itchywitch●galway, Galway Ireland

Mar 27, 2018●1 Blogs●3,435 Comments

when I find change comes surprisingly easy to me is only when I admit I've been secretly wanting it for a long time... change that is

wenever●perry, Florida USA

Mar 27, 2018●89 Blogs●2,159 Comments

@ itchy

it's good to see you

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 27, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

I think you might have hit the nail on the head, itchy. Maybe I'm more open to change because I seem to be in a constant state of wanting it (change, that is). Being content with the way things are is something I've never experienced.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 27, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Wen, I agree with you: it is good to see her.

ekself●Onehorsetown, Eastern Cape South Africa

Mar 27, 2018●1 Blogs●1,711 Comments

I think people who love routine find it harder to adjust to change. It is a blessing if you can take change in your stride. Have seen people's worlds falling apart because of minor things, in my opinion, happening. My life was never planned so whatever happens is fine....sometimes takes a while to adjust but never very long.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 27, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Ekself, my life has never been planned, either. That's mostly because I could never think of a plan.

itchywitch●galway, Galway Ireland

Mar 27, 2018●1 Blogs●3,435 Comments

I'd be different than you Harb, for a long time content was my middle name, I think when we make sacrifices being content is some how easier to shallow with less risk of choking on it also.

Fate deals you and when we can't make change for ourselves it sometimes steps in ... reasons why I often think bad or wrong things happen for right reasons ...

Wen

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 27, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

I'd settle for contentment gladly, itchy, but I can't see it happening.

Annleerose●Port of spain, Port of Spain Trinidad and Tobago

Mar 27, 2018●2 Blogs●437 Comments

Any changes that were made in my life .
I adapt quickly once it's a good change .
If it has a lot of ups and downs , sorry I get somewhat depress , until I settle into it and realize , ok this is what it is going to be .
Change is good sometimes .
When I am praying I still pray for my mother then I realize that she is no more .
I guess, or I wonder if I will get accustom to that change .

itchywitch●galway, Galway Ireland

Mar 27, 2018●1 Blogs●3,435 Comments

living with appreciation is the happiest way to be

plus its easy to find.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 27, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Annleerose, what you say about your mother is kind of what I'm talking about. When you've known something or someone for most of your life and then it is suddenly gone, you would expect it to be hard to get used to and adjust to. That doesn't usually seem to be the case with me.

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 27, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

Sounds like there's wisdom in that, itchy, but I don't understand exactly what you mean.

wenever●perry, Florida USA

Mar 27, 2018●89 Blogs●2,159 Comments

Hi Harbal my friend, why do I keep getting the feeling there is something you are not telling us. If it is personal and you don't want to share I completely understand. when you answered my comment you said you was no more happier, and now I see you are not content. why do I feel you have giving up.

please I hope I am wrong with this feeling. and if I am wrong I am sorry for feeling this way. as I said before you got this thing. show me

HarbalOP●South Yorkshire, England UK

Mar 27, 2018●115 Blogs●2,153 Comments

I appreciate your concern, wen, but I'm not going through a crisis or anything like that. I suppose what I'm saying is, even when life changes it still feels pretty much the same. It's okay, though, I can live with it.

wenever●perry, Florida USA

Mar 27, 2018●89 Blogs●2,159 Comments

Harbal my friend.

itchywitch●galway, Galway Ireland

Mar 27, 2018●1 Blogs●3,435 Comments

Harb ... that makes two of us

itchywitch●galway, Galway Ireland

Mar 27, 2018●1 Blogs●3,435 Comments

Ah gee whiz Wen and no disrespect

but I think you may be reading into things a little too much with a certain comment...
he's just a wondering star as so many of us are, unsure of where were coming from less sure of where we're going to, sitting for breathers and enjoyment along the way... travel the journey, nowth wrong with that

Ken

wenever●perry, Florida USA

Mar 27, 2018●89 Blogs●2,159 Comments

@ itchy, I understand what you said. I said I hope I am wrong and if I am wrong I am sorry for it. just had a feeling and was concerned that's all.

I might have got to personal as I do sometimes, but always mean well.

Miwagi●Flyover, Kentucky USA

Mar 27, 2018●5 Blogs●149 Comments

itchywitch●galway, Galway Ireland

Mar 27, 2018●1 Blogs●3,435 Comments

I know you did Wen

I wish now I never said anything

You may beat me with my broom if you so wish

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