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....but I would leave him.
I need to be able to express my love for a man physically, as well as emotionally.
Berrysmoothie
It's like trying to start a reluctant lawnmower
No matter how much you curse and swear and yank the rope nothing is going to happen until the lawnmower wants to start
But then the sound is music to ones ears
Proof read please
What a surprise.
I can only answer in relation to an able-bodied man.
If the scenario presented itself, as you stated, then only when I'm faced with that situation, would I be able to respond.
They may just need a little fine tuning.
Does that have an age range for men.
Tokyo Rogue has indicated otherwise.
May include suggest female viagra
There is lots online for your approval and perhaps market testing
would I sleep with any woman if someone would pay the pill?
would I sleep with any woman I once slept with if someone would pay the pill.
I guess the pill is not the magical answer
Loyal
Staying in the relationship and not having sex no matter how steong your desire/need
And guys, if you are affectionate, teasing, and loving, your woman will still be interested in sex, because she will still be very much in love with you. We're suckers for that sort of stuff, feeling wanted and liked and needed and desired. Nuts for it.
As to Try Weakly, it's my experience that men have sex more often, not less, as they get older. May be the old tick tock time's a'passing thing, so never turning down an opportunity because who knows when the next will come, but the term randy old goat was earned honestly
When I say 'my experience' I also ask a LOT of questions in the name of research. And that generally has been the feedback, from around a dozen women. Older guys are hot to trot and if there are occasional malfunctions, they are occasional. A good relationship takes them on board, no worries.
Any man who makes his woman feel sleek and sexy will have all the sex he can handle. He will also have a happy and loving partner who cares very much.
Any man who looks at his woman and sneers, tells her she is getting old, or dreary, or dull, then says 'ok lets go to bed, try not to just lie there ok?' will not have an enthusiastic partner
I hope you don't feel the need to delete this comment. It was not intended sarcastically.
Ashlander has put her unique/eunuch spin on it to confuse and castrate the blog
...always the best way to examine a situation and the conclusion and results can indeed be uplifting
I agree with all you have said.
...aside from your opening paragraph.
I was in a situation as described by the OP(don't wish to give further details on that).....a man being permanently unable to perform can affect other aspects of the relationship and not in a positive way, I found.
I thought I could live without sex, affection and physical comfort......easy, right? I loved him.
I couldn't.
I did try....though I ended it.
I don't consider myself to be a selfish woman.....it just drove me up the wall literally, despite it being no fault of his own.
It was a very difficult decision to make...though have not regretted it.
And yes sometimes sex is the glue, the way of making up after a quarrel, or easing tension. One of my best friends is married to a guy of 63 with a heart condition - not only makes sex a bit risky, but the meds he's on, he no longer even wants it. They've been married since their early 20s and it was always a major part of their relationship and she does get very tetchy sometimes without that glue. The rest of the relationship is solid and they've sorted solutions that work for them. So long as the basic relationship is rock - but yup, usually it changes, and never for the better
Yeah, it did change....despite loving each other very much, all physicality disappeared from the relationship, due to his fear of arousing me sexually.....and, like your friend....his ED was due to physiological reasons.
If the physical affection had remained, we may still be together, but that's a moot point now. It ended years ago.
I take my hat off to those who can make it work.
Thanks for being understanding.
I felt like such a b*tch at the time for calling it quits.
he says " was it as good for you as it was for me" though crap i'd be disloyal ... lie and say it was heaven on earth for me as well.
As for being disloyal in the physical way ... I'm not saying
but feeling loved is useless/nothing unless feeling and being desired as well...
It was complex......he desired me psychologically, but was unable to physically, for medical reasons.
Despite separating, it took us 12 months to let go emotionally.
Of course we all want to be desired.
Kinda stuck between a rock and a hard place(excuse the irony of that term).....I don't want just an overnighter.....I want an intimate/loving partnership where we can each express ourselves openly....but finding that is proving more and more difficult as I get older.
I'm about ready to throw in the towel.
In fact, I already have several times, and regathered towels, on occasion....
I'm ready to handover anytime about now.....
I'm very loyal to my friends & family I don't have sex with them but I'm very loyal which they keep harping at me about.
but by leaving him I think you done the right thing for you... if anyone's in a relationship and their looking for more (no matter what the more is) such relationship shall never be satisfying.
Ps, if YOU can't find anyone, then there goes hope for the rest of us
heatheart .....Sorry, seems I've heat on the mind
Better than cheating on someone just be upfront from the start.
Attention to a little heat and our hearts would be a fine thing....
Merc.....don't be silly....no damage done.....and I get your point made..... other aspects of loyalty are just as important with friends and family.....
Gotta go.
Enjoy your day....
I agree but the one left behind could not help in my opinion feeling inadequate
And the one leaving feeling heartless and shallow
You answered the age part of the Try Weakly question.
And Len understood about being self empowered.And whether you would share that intimate information with every partner.From the single person
perspective, not as a husband/wife.
I would not discuss my previous marital
sex with anyone.(it is part of my devotion and loyalty.A doctor's opinion is probably the only exception.)
then out the window with him, what use is he otherwise....
Night now time for my bed