How important is sex

Yes, I'd remain loyal to him whilst in the marriage....

....but I would leave him.

I need to be able to express my love for a man physically, as well as emotionally.

NB: I'd remain loyal to him in that I wouldn't cheat on him.

Oh, a twister.

What a surprise.

I can only answer in relation to an able-bodied man.

If the scenario presented itself, as you stated, then only when I'm faced with that situation, would I be able to respond.

Even lawnmowers don't like being cursed at, sweared at, yanked.

They may just need a little fine tuning.

....of course, if the lawnmower is salvageable.....

I'd like to understand the third stage.
Does that have an age range for men.
Tokyo Rogue has indicated otherwise.

Are women to expect Viagra will aid all men and provide the action regardless of intimacy.(not implying anyone here using viagra,maka,T shots)

Depends what you call loyal....

Can only speak for myself but sex really is only a part of it. A perfect husband will be affectionate, teasing, loving, and therefore actually performing like a porn star is a very small part of the whole package. A very nice part but only a part. Losing it permanently would not change the relationship unless it changed all that over stuff.

And guys, if you are affectionate, teasing, and loving, your woman will still be interested in sex, because she will still be very much in love with you. We're suckers for that sort of stuff, feeling wanted and liked and needed and desired. Nuts for it.

As to Try Weakly, it's my experience that men have sex more often, not less, as they get older. May be the old tick tock time's a'passing thing, so never turning down an opportunity because who knows when the next will come, but the term randy old goat was earned honestly

When I say 'my experience' I also ask a LOT of questions in the name of research. And that generally has been the feedback, from around a dozen women. Older guys are hot to trot and if there are occasional malfunctions, they are occasional. A good relationship takes them on board, no worries.

Any man who makes his woman feel sleek and sexy will have all the sex he can handle. He will also have a happy and loving partner who cares very much.

Any man who looks at his woman and sneers, tells her she is getting old, or dreary, or dull, then says 'ok lets go to bed, try not to just lie there ok?' will not have an enthusiastic partner

I hope you don't feel the need to delete this comment. It was not intended sarcastically.

Biff,

I agree with all you have said.

...aside from your opening paragraph.

I was in a situation as described by the OP(don't wish to give further details on that).....a man being permanently unable to perform can affect other aspects of the relationship and not in a positive way, I found.

I thought I could live without sex, affection and physical comfort......easy, right? I loved him.

I couldn't.

I did try....though I ended it.

I don't consider myself to be a selfish woman.....it just drove me up the wall literally, despite it being no fault of his own.

It was a very difficult decision to make...though have not regretted it.

Berry, that's crappy but if I understand you, the whole relationship changed along with the loss of sex.

And yes sometimes sex is the glue, the way of making up after a quarrel, or easing tension. One of my best friends is married to a guy of 63 with a heart condition - not only makes sex a bit risky, but the meds he's on, he no longer even wants it. They've been married since their early 20s and it was always a major part of their relationship and she does get very tetchy sometimes without that glue. The rest of the relationship is solid and they've sorted solutions that work for them. So long as the basic relationship is rock - but yup, usually it changes, and never for the better

Biff,

Yeah, it did change....despite loving each other very much, all physicality disappeared from the relationship, due to his fear of arousing me sexually.....and, like your friend....his ED was due to physiological reasons.

If the physical affection had remained, we may still be together, but that's a moot point now. It ended years ago.

I take my hat off to those who can make it work.

Thanks for being understanding.

I felt like such a b*tch at the time for calling it quits.

well wave ...
he says " was it as good for you as it was for me" though crap i'd be disloyal ... lie and say it was heaven on earth for me as well.

As for being disloyal in the physical way ... I'm not saying

Berry don't know what to make of your situation... and I'm not asking either
but feeling loved is useless/nothing unless feeling and being desired as well...

Itchy

It was complex......he desired me psychologically, but was unable to physically, for medical reasons.

Despite separating, it took us 12 months to let go emotionally.

Of course we all want to be desired.

Kinda stuck between a rock and a hard place(excuse the irony of that term).....I don't want just an overnighter.....I want an intimate/loving partnership where we can each express ourselves openly....but finding that is proving more and more difficult as I get older.

I'm about ready to throw in the towel.

In fact, I already have several times, and regathered towels, on occasion....

Sorry, didn't want to make this all about me.

I'm ready to handover anytime about now.....

Can someone explain to me why sex is the major thing for a guy or woman to be loyal.

I'm very loyal to my friends & family I don't have sex with them but I'm very loyal which they keep harping at me about.

Berry, sounds like a sad heat breaking situation you were in....
but by leaving him I think you done the right thing for you... if anyone's in a relationship and their looking for more (no matter what the more is) such relationship shall never be satisfying.

Ps, if YOU can't find anyone, then there goes hope for the rest of us

heat heart .....

Sorry, seems I've heat on the mind

It would be a perfect world if say your partner came to you and said you just don't do it for me any more physical wise your exceptional in everything else you provide me but I need to move on because I don't have it in me to cheat on you but I need to move on.

Better than cheating on someone just be upfront from the start.

Berry I hadn't read your post till after the fact so please don't take my post as reference to yours it was just how I feel about the topic.

Nothing special about me Itchy.....I'm just like any other on here.

Attention to a little heat and our hearts would be a fine thing....

Merc.....don't be silly....no damage done.....and I get your point made..... other aspects of loyalty are just as important with friends and family.....

Gotta go.

Enjoy your day....

thanks Biff!
You answered the age part of the Try Weakly question.
And Len understood about being self empowered.And whether you would share that intimate information with every partner.From the single person
perspective, not as a husband/wife.

thanks.
I would not discuss my previous marital
sex with anyone.(it is part of my devotion and loyalty.A doctor's opinion is probably the only exception.)

At the end of the day Berry if a man can't make you feel like a woman ...
then out the window with him, what use is he otherwise....

Night now time for my bed

... more important than money, thinking about it when I have it, even more when I don't.