Why Is 'Not Looking' Considered Hopeless?

Why is it, that when you state you are not looking for someone else in your life, that people (in my case, men) either don't read it, don't think you're serious, or think you've become hopeless?

Does it ever occur to anyone that some of us really LIKE being on our own? That our preference is to continue to live on our own, doing what we like to do, when we like to do it, and don't have to consider anyone else?

I made a joke in my profile about Prince Charming and seeking a frog. But I ensured I put in my profile that I was not looking, that I was here to blog. I wrote how one guy had made assumptions without knowing a darn thing about me.

Then another one emailed me and said it was funny (which it was supposed to be) but it appeared I was hopeless at finding anyone. Huh? I don't want to find anyone! Nothing to do with hopeless, just not friggen interested. When I emailed back to say I wan't hopeless, just not looking, he came back with something else about being hopeless. Whatever. Go away.

What is it? That I simply like to blog and because the other site was unmoderated and had become a drama mess, I was simply looking for somewhere else to blog. I'm not interested in any long distance relationship, or online courting, or anything else. I exchanged emails with one guy, and when he read in a blog that I'd gone to North Bend on my own, he called me stupid. Yeah, that's a real come on. Eff off. If I waited for someone else to go with me to places, I'd never go anywhere.

I'm not some shrinking violet that needs someone of the male persuasion to protect me, and in fact, have found in my life, the times I've been in danger and needed protection are from men, not from animals. So give me nature any day.

No, I don't hate men. In fact, I thoroughly enjoy their different viewpoint and discussions on numerous subjects. I actually love men, I just don't want one in my life. I've lived on my own for almost 30 years, and I would have loved to have been in the traditional role of staying home and keeping the home fires burning while hubby went off to work. It didn't work out that way, and now that I've attained all my assets on my own, am I going to let someone move in with me to take half of them? Not bloody likely. I don't want half of theirs, either.

Sure, there are times having a male around would be great, but very few want what I want. I just want a companion that we could do stuff with on occasion, but any man I've ever met wants to be 'completed'. What's with that? I'm not incomplete, so if someone feels they are, then they need a lot more than I can give.

Hopeless? No, not in the least. Many of my pursuits are solitary, and I not only am comfortable with my own company, I really like it. And that's where people get a false idea that if you're alone, you're lonely. Not in the least. The loneliest I've ever been was when I was married.

At this stage of my life, I know what I do and don't want. I don't want someone else in my life. That's not hopeless. That's happiness!