Emotional investment

Gosh how emotional investment be it online or up close and personal is measured in so many ways.
To consider the pain of emotional investment in someone only to have it be dashed and crumbled by our object of affection.
To consider one's emotional investment in another can mean nothing that ultimately leaves us questioning our own personal worth motives and value.
To have our object of affection trample us discard us as waste.
We wonder why we place so much energy and effort in hoping they will change or see our way and noble intentions.
In the end we learn the energy and effort we put into convincing our object of affection leads to self discovery. We end up changing ourselves not the other person we like.
Hence, for an idea that most must consider that a woman hooks up with a man hoping he will change and a man hooks up with a woman hoping she wont.
Overall do consider the emotional investment you may have long distance or up close and ask yourself if it is real and worth the effort. If not, let it go for all that love and energy would be best served to yourself or with someone who will appreciate you. professor
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Definitely not worth the effort for me any more especially when you go out of your comfort zone I'm just speaking for me.

But in saying the above I'm strong in mind body soul I come as I am if that's not good enough that's not my problem.
Yep, God forbid we exert ourselves to move out of our comfort zone.
Imagine the new world wouldn't have been discovered if a few did not step out of their comfort zone.
Considering Australia was a penal colony they let prisoners run the show.
Of which they had little choice. Hence, they played with the cards that were dealt and found their comfort zone and now they have beautiful cities.
They didn't let the prisoner/victim mentality dictate their destiny.
I'm hooked up on toast with butter and orange jam. I cook other dishes, but that's the taste a crave most.
Now, where's that change button.
I invested enough time for me it wasn't worth it to invest anymore...I wasn't looking to change anybody....I was simply looking to love and be loved...that didn't happen...so be it.....and definitely this....


"If not, let it go for all that love and energy would be best served to yourself or with someone who will appreciate you"


cheers
That's exactly how I feel M4 you added to my replybouquet
M4....Mercedes...thumbs up

And so did I !teddybear teddybear
Here's the truth, if you look you will not find. Love will find you are the RIGHT time, in the meantime you may just be getting in your own way. comfort
oops typo

Love will find you at the RIGHT time
I am actually grateful of those who replied because in a way it is revealing and informative of how some of you ladies really think and feel about the boys here and yourselves. The old adage comes to mind Don't walk in behind me I may not lead nor don't walk in front of me I may not follow but just walk beside me and be my friend.
Women today are enlightened and empowered to dance by themselves and found comfort in that.
They don't need a fool to give them self value. Not all the poetry and song in the world a man could write to show their passion and adoration phases them anymore though it seems.
I guess it's going to require much more than a song and dance to break through the walls of complacency to impress you women. frustrated frustrated
Beep. Wrong again. doh
Very true keep
When we stop worrying and hoping for what we need or want it eventually comes to us in its right timing.
What is so wrong to you?
The right one has not yet crossed my path. smitten Although I've had wonderful men in my life, our general outlook was too different to remain together forever. But generally I am the exception to the rule, it would take a special man to want to live with me as I don't believe that marriage is a good institution.
And when it comes in its RIGHT timing.... what do we do with it? We can either accept it, or..... reject it!
Or..... play about with the "object of your affection" with a narcissist behaviour.

And all the poems in the world are certainly not going to make up for it when you find out they were sent to various women, at the same time!!!!!!! roll eyes

In conclusion..... before looking for someone, a certain amount of personal work has to be done and look within ourselves what barriers we have put in order to stop the flow of love, and also..... what excuses we invent why we cannot have it once we´ve found it! professor
Good comment Daniela. thumbs up
Thanks Keepers...this was based on my own personal experience with a certain individual. teddybear
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