a husband and wife story
A story I have heard in the past, but not to this extreme. The husband is in a band and wishes to go out and practice at a fellow band member's home for their up and coming gig.The wife, is suffering from depression and does not get out of the house much.
The husband informs his wife that he needs to go out and practice at his friend's place for their up and coming gig, the wife tells him he don't have time for it, and do not go.
The husband says, we 'need' to practice and decides to go anyway.
The next night the wife decides to go to the bar alone and get wasted. She pulls up in the driveway in some stranger's truck (a man). She gets out of the truck and then decides to get back in and don't come back for another 2 hours.
The husband is wondering what is going on.
That night, she comes home touting about how good the night was and how wonderful that man in the truck was. They both go to bed. The woman gets up and leaves the room then returns to bed.
The husband turns the light on to notice she is holding a knife and then she threatens to use it on him.
Thankfully, nobody got seriously injured....the woman is in jail...and the divorce papers have been served.
Now....
What makes a woman think that she has so much control over her husband? I have seen and heard countless stories where the woman does not approve of when the husband leaves on his own (usually in instances not related to work), and the wife gets very upset and does some sort of 'pay back,' if you will.
Now....
It is easy to say, she was bad news...she is toxic....she is insecure...she is suffering some sort of mental illness.
But.... I have heard these stories....very similar in nature, so many times....where the husband wishes to do something on his own and the wife reacts in an extreme way.
Is this the nature of many women? some women? all women? hardly any women?
Of course, the story I tell here is from the husband's side. There are always two sides....but, he is not the one sitting in jail right now.
Is it primarily women who behave this way, or have you seen or heard of very few men, some men, or most men acting this way also?
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probably carried one.
Makes you wonder if he thought it was cool to date her.
Why did he marry her I wonder.
Knives seem popular around here for the 100th comment.
How and when did that get started.
on a happy note.
in CS video section,for popcorn night.
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Had to delete my blog about it early.
I've a new job that starts very early.
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If you hear from Robert tonight...
TAKE his advice and mail it to me.
Tell him,I could use a truck more than
a set of knives.
I am hoping Robert watches the video and lets me know if I should watch it.
And only plastic knives.
If my guy said to me
we need to practice,
the first thing I'd be
saying was
We. ....sure do!!
Tell them you'll be
a little late and to
start without you.
I hope that wasn't what
that guy got mixed up on.
Sparton, why such light question for such a serious matter?. I find the question too light in front of the incident.
May I ask what's the reason the wife is in jail?. I find it hard to believe that's because she drew a knife against her husband.
The chances of achieving punishment in that case as far as I'm concerned, goes almost to 0%...
OK, I will give 0.02%
Why in jail, I guess I was not totally complete with the story. She was chasing him down inside and outside the house with the knife. He managed to lock the door and call the police. In the meanwhile, she was stabbing the knife through a door (not sure which one...believe it to be an interior one) and when outside put the knife through a glass door.
I am assuming that there was adequate evidence to collaborate his story and he wanted to press charges. As far as I know, there is court scheduled in the future.
The question, I feel, addresses the potential discovery of the nature of very few women, some women, or most women. The intention was to either hear, or not hear, stories of similar incidences.
From the stories, or lack there of stories, people could then conclude for themselves just how serious this issue is. I feel sometimes the evidence speaks for itself...and I do not have to say anything....because, I don't like telling people how to think.
The bottom line, what has happen in this one story I have shared, is a serious issue...as you mention...and being mindful of this matter cannot hurt somebody. In my opinion
Let's hope we might be able to prevent something from extremely serious from happening.
It might be....(and I am no doctor here)....but, it might be that the wife was on her depression medication and was drinking alcohol. I have heard it is not a good idea to mix the two.
Her husband would of saw the signs before he went to practice with the band she obviously felt abandoned I presume he simply didn't care enough to make her feel wanted by taking her with him and he would of been able to tell if she had mixed her medication with alcohol or she hadn't even taken her medication at all.
Seem's like a very tragic toxic marriage.
You could very well be right on. I have never heard anything about bi-polar, but that could explain a little more.
Thank you.
The joys of retirement, I've just surfaced so must still get my head around this.
The trouble with most relationships is what people say to each other when they are angry, frustrated, annoyed, insecure. If they could learn to shut their mouths then things might simmer down to where they kiss and make up.
The young groupies throwing themselves at band members, that is the problem. But that gives her no right to hang on another man. A three way relationships often end up where one of them gets murdered and lands in jail for a long time or gets the death sentence.
Is there any oob worth dying over? It shouldn't be.
Good blog Johnny.
Seems to me that some people's imaginations are a bit too lively, they imagine all sorts of outcomes from innocent gestures or comments, take them personally & make up in their heads the outcome - be it legal action or personal gratification & revenge.
Depression medication along with alcohol do not make good partners & can have disastrous consequences.
We see this so often in 'real life' as well as online, even in this make believe CS world!
Some women see being left at home by their partner as some kind of rejection when in fact they should see it as a welcome break.
Let's hope it has a good ending!
Here's a quick solution, I think. You see, the lady has a hankering for carving at this time in her life. So, maybe if the guy got her some wood and a nice carving set of knives and saws and whatever the heck else she needs for carving, then maybe she could be more productive and carve out some wooden statues and things. You know, them 3-foot bear statues of wood fetch about 300 dollars, and more so if they're bigger in size. Cool huh?
The outcome of this story would then be, the lady loves wood and the guy likes playing with his instrument.
And both are happy that way.
Have a fun day, and don't think so much or don't be so serious all the time. Relax, have a service station hamburger and a drink, or drinks.
An unencumbered drinking partner,puts Johnny back in the designated driver's
seat again.
A hobby seems to be covered in her area.....going to bars and picking up random guys. I wonder if that could qualify as a hobby? When you bring up a hobby....why? Do you suppose that would be a distraction to her mind running wild?
Remaining quiet while suspicions are in the air.....soon to follow will be kisses and making up. I know this will sound like I have an issue with women....again. But, I have heard that women do not let go or forget about events of the past. So, depending on what these suspicions developed from....or (you mention insecurities)...other negative feeling develop from, is it likely that a woman will not forget? And...on top of it start kissing and making up?
Regarding the groupies, my friend has been in a band for several years and when he met his wife, he was in the band. If groupies were an issue, one would suspect that should have been thought about before she married him.
I just seen a band recently play. The guitarist's girlfriend or wife was right there with him playing. There were some women moving in closer to him, and she just simply stood nearer to him as he played. Apparently she understood the nature of women with band members...in particular her guitar player. (I know...saying that last sentence makes me sound like I have an issue with women).
The mentioning of depression in this blog has served its purpose, in my opinion. Again, I am no doctor...but I am thirsty or hungry for understanding. I am not sure I outright assumed that depression caused the threat on anyone's life. I mentioned it because it was a condition she was suffering from...that was made aware to me. Out of the drive for understanding, I thought it may be worthy of stating here. What I have heard in the past was mixing medication associated with depression is not a good combination with alcohol. Could that be the underlying cause of all of this? I don't and did not know when initially writing this blog. In addition, if I understood your following response, you state that it might be possible that the abnormal events could have stemmed from depression.
Your assessment of her being in a mental hospital instead of a jail does make some logical sense to me. However, I am certain I do not know the whole story here. As I mention, this is only the story from the husband's side. I am sure that the wife has her story...and the authorities who has her behind bars have theirs. Maybe there is something that warrants her being in jail? Who knows, as things unfold further along....like after the court appearance, they may determine that she does indeed need a mental evaluation from a hospital.
Regarding dangerous women, true. Of course there are dangerous men as well. You hit the nail on the head with your closing statement, regarding being careful with who people get involved with and trust. In my opinion, we are living in a different world than 20 years ago. The establishment of trust should carefully be done....given certain types of environments. What I mean by this, somebody who you already know while growing up, or receives many positive reviews from personal friends take less time to establish trust with. However, some complete stranger from a city a person just moved to...or even over the internet...it may take longer time to establish trust.
You mention that this blog is not the nature of women...as I am trying to present. I guess somebody can look at it that way, that I am trying to present this as the nature of women. However, that is not what I am doing here. I am asking if this is the nature of women. I think I ask is it the nature of not many women, most women, or all women? I do know it is the nature of some women....because the event I shared in this blog did in fact happen and was conducted by a woman....therefore, some women have this nature.
I was not thinking about your situation when writing this blog. In fact, your situation never even crossed my mind when writing this.
Thank you.
Regarding your second comment. You might be right, about a misdiagnosis here. Perhaps a somewhat lengthly stay in a mental hospital will help the experts/professionals discover more accurately her mental state and therefore help her with appropriate treatment.
When I first read your comment, I immediately went to my recollection of women I have known for a long time. There is a small handful that have not went off the deep end. But, when I think of the women I do know that have went kinda out of left field, it seems from my recollection that alcohol is a common factor.
As Ash has identified, you might have discovered the underlying issue with this whole incident. A hobby.
You know, I do have another blog idea...that has certainly struck me when I heard them talking about it. It does have to do with men.
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Just wanted to add, you gotta watch out for people who like knives. Sometimes, they may smile and tell you nice things, then when you turn around, they may stab you in the back and say bad things about you.
I remember this one lady telling me what a great date I was. Ahh, but later she told her friends, I was awful and that I didn't even offer her a service station hamburger with nachos and a cherry flavored slurpee.
Hey, I tried.