Did you know Hate is only a direct door to love?

There is no way to love that does not carry a little bit of hateful feeling. We hate the other a little because sometimes he is not there when we need him. Or because he did not appreciate how we wanted some effort we did for him, or for her. We also feel the rumor of hate when they do not understand us enough, or when they are not able to tell us the words we wanted to hear. They are small hatreds that usually do not transcend. They vanish as quickly as they appeared and scarcely leave any trace, only in the most sensitive personalities. We can deal with them and keep the affection intact. However, there are situations in which there is no such happy outcome. Sometimes one of those small episodes of disagreement becomes the seed of a great jungle of hatred. Or are the drop that makes the cup of a poison that was already accumulating. And is that love and hate are not opposite worlds. The opposite of love is not hatred, but indifference. Just as all love carries implicitly some gram of hate, all hate has a component of love in its entrails.
The passage from love to hate usually occurs in two ways. Or a person wakes up, after a prolonged lethargy in which he was enduring what he did not want to endure; or someone gives such a serious offense to another, which transforms the feelings of love into a desire for irrepressible destruction. This situation is more common in people who have low tolerance to frustration, or a high narcicismo.Si no emotional resources exist To maintain emotional balance in the face of an adverse situation, it is likely that others will be blamed for the feeling of frustration that is experienced. We hate the other then, because he leaves our weaknesses, our dependence or our insecurity naked. Narcissistic personalities can not differentiate between an offense and an act of self-affirmation in the other. If the other claims space, recognition or autonomy, they will understand it as an aggression. They suppose that their partner must live according to them and any act of freedom they understand as a personal threat. That's why they can react violently even.
Hate creates very strong bonds with the other. In fact, they can lead to closer ties than those of love. The worst thing is that when a series of affronts takes place, the situation becomes a circle that feeds itself permanently. Neither the one nor the other can make a healthy break. They condition their affective life to the logic of harming and avoiding being harmed. They feel that they can not give up the situation, because that would be giving up.
This dramatic circle is highly harmful. One of those situations in which no matter how much you win, you will always be losing. There is no way to solve it. The only alternative is to get away from that person and give up that hatred, which may well become an unbearable prison from which you will only go out quite battered.