what would you rather do?

Sit at home, let loneliness and depression creep in ever so slowly, or get out and be a part of the environment...even if that environment is deemed as not so good?

...like a bar
...like a casino
...like a dance establishment
...like a party


I feel if you don't let those places become you....they can fill in any available gaps one has in their life in the meanwhile.

Of course, given if you are a single person.

Otherwise do what? Go to a movie by yourself? Go to a restaurant by yourself? Go to a cooking class that does not exist in your area by yourself? Go hiking by yourself? Go traveling by yourself?

Don't get me wrong, I do spend time doing things with my family, but sometimes those things don't bring you in the most social situations.

Any ideas?

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I don't sit at home alone,nor am I depressed.I keep myself quite busy talking to people that I enjoy being with whether it be taking day trips or else just enjoying their company.
Good stuff Bear. thumbs up
Did you know that most people don't even know they are depressed?
My goodness Johnny...are there only 2 options...

Sit at home and be lonely or..

Go to those places you suggested ?

What about if I don't feel lonely and I'm happy in my own company?

And if I don't like any of those places? ?

I happen to enjoy taking my dog for a walk..to the beach..in the country side...by myself.

And if I want company...I have friends who also love nature.
I am always out and about, so when I do get to sit down and relax, I do enjoy it.

I don't go to bars or clubs all that often though.
I am usually outdoors. I prefer to do that rather than being in places where something is expected of you or you expect something to happen for you.
Also good stuff Daniela. To answer your question, no....there are not only two options. The more people respond, the more options will appear. grin wave
Molly, I love being on the go to and out and about doing things outdoors. Unfortunately, my job has me tied inside many moments of my life on this computer. But, I am nearing the process of starting my evening here away from the house. thumbs up
(Since the green dot blocks my smile.)

Just got down roaming around town with a smile on my face.
Nothing better than enjoying a perfect blue sky with everyone else!
I was depressed up until I decided to simplify my life by getting rid of toxic people out of my life.
We keep you company many hours of the day and night! hug
You know Cic, that is a great idea. In the past, I was a member of many gyms. Now that I live in the area I do, the gym is about an hour drive (there and back). There are days I would have the extra time for the travel and days I would not. So, I decided to work on putting a gym in my home. The down fall to that, you don't have the opportunity of meeting people. I honestly think a gym is probably the best place I know of when it comes to meeting people. Hmmm....now you got me wondering if my philosophy of saving time and money in the long run is really worth it. confused
Bear....indeed. :)....and good for you. thumbs up
Johnny, many people have desk-based jobs. But you can still get out and about.
I go out in the morning, at lunchtime and again all evening.
If the will is there, the time can be found.
I thought so Molly, but it seems as if colleges are incorporating it as an actual sport.
Not on this side of the pond
I would not mind corn holing with a chick tonight. rolling on the floor laughing
What is corn holing? help
Johnny, basketball with bean bags?
Tiddlywinks would be easier
Johnny, we used to play a game throwing coins at a wall to see who could get it to land closest to the wall. I can't for the life of me remember what we called it though
that was a goodun. We used to call it throw_pennies_at_pikees. Ah memories.
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Nota! laugh
Hi Johnny! wave

A very good blog! thumbs up

I've been thinking about this myself a lot lately. I've always had periods when I was socially active and periods when I would prefer to stay at home, but that was much easier when I was younger. There were always single people who wanted to go out or attend some event or do this or that... I think it's very difficult to meet new people at our age, especially if you move to a new town (as I did, too, several years ago). People at our age are simply too busy to socialize - they have too many duties and responsibilities, especially if they have small children. I don't feel like spending a lot of time with people a lot younger or older than me. I always feel the generation gap...

I don't have an answer to your question - I've been searching for one myself. giggle
sometimes you need a breath of fresh air. i agree with you. just as long as you dont make those places top priority.. or lrt it consume you in a way you spend all available time there.. i have seen men at bars drinking some dont see home for days and end up sleeping in gutters.. now thats a bad way to live .. but a breath of fresh Air now and again is good.. if i am with a man he gotta go have his boys time ..
Boys time help
I do many things with friends but in saying that I love my alone time too and if I was allowed to have more alone time I wouldn't suffer depression at all.

To me it's a balancing act
Good night Johnny!purple heart
Well! Johnny.

I be so busy from going places mostly everyday To watching tv. I watch all kind of things on tv.

I am a tv person!
Anywho! between those two actives, I be so tired that I do not hardly have the strength to come online. And too tired and sleepy to be lonely!

Anyway! I do have a few minutes to stop by online right now.


Hello! Johnny..............hug
I get out but not much, so I’m good and went shopping earlier now I’m home watching Netflix
What about us who hate gyms? confused
"Otherwise do what? Go to a movie by yourself? Go to a restaurant by yourself? Go to a cooking class that does not exist in your area by yourself? Go hiking by yourself? Go traveling by yourself?"




I've done all that by myself, except the cooking class as I don't need one...

Bars are not for me, never had a thing for this places...
Casino...hmmmm...I might be tempted but nothing more than a bit of fun...
Party...no, noises are hurting my ears, I'd prefer a long, meaningless conversation somewhere quieter...
Dancing...ah, dancing, under the Moon light, with someone dear...yes...


I joined a friend for a drive this morning, no specific direction, fields of lavender, followed by fields of sunflowers, fluffy little clouds in the sky...makes you feel alive and kicking...
How much more do you need to feel good?!
A lot more, that's the truth...
"Otherwise do what? Go to a movie by yourself? Go to a restaurant by yourself? Go to a cooking class that does not exist in your area by yourself? Go hiking by yourself? Go traveling by yourself? "

To answer your questions yes! I do a lot of these myself and I enjoy it more because I don't have to wait for friends to be available or end up eating food at a restaurant that is ok just because my friend likes it and we are splitting food coz the portions are big. I don't feel lonely, when I do I go out and attend events in my area. As for the gym yeah its a good idea to meet people, I would consider that for you. Or even having a gym at home you could call friends to work out with you :)

Or, you could join networking events and get to do some interesting things and meet new people in the process?
I think it depends on what we like to do, you cant do anything long without interess!
Molly, I have never heard of that game before. I am guessing there was some sort of point system to keep track of the winner?


Doc.....dunno laugh
I think so too Georgia. I have seen it where people create their social life around sitting behind the bar drinking countless beers. It seems to me, that they can sit there all day drinking, and not even be drunk. hmmm ....that is a lot of alcohol acclimation going on there. I have seen it many times, people who live that lifestyle...in their mid-60's, their liver gives out...and they are no longer around. I almost wonder if they are not actually okay with going that way. I know that is not the life I want to lead of live....but, to each their own I suppose. There has to be things out there more meaningful, exciting, worthwhile, than just drinking one's life away. But....maybe not. dunno
Ash, it sounds like you better get a bullet proof vest around your place and stay away from those six packs. laugh
Merc,

I do agree with balancing....not to much isolation and not too much socialization. I think it boils down to what extent you are an introvert or extrovert. I once heard an introvert needs alone time to recharge their batteries....so to speak.
Pepps, that is great. It sounds like what you are doing you enjoy. I think that really is the bottom line to each and every life.....the "pursuit of happiness."

Maybe you and Robert can write a book called, The Pursuit of Happiness with Wasps and Bees.

You two can provide some selfies together?

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