This has happen twice now to me.
I want to start by saying that I believe in being an honest person. And, I will continue to be honest even though honesty don't seem to be the best policy sometimes.
I have talked with many women on this site through PM, mostly as just friends. There have been a couple who trying to become more than that, friends, have never reached a level of becoming in a relationship. So, they just remained friends.
I will not name names and will keep everything private in that regard. I do not believe in sharing private information. The information I am going to share here is just a general description of the overall event that had happen to me. It has happen twice, so I think there might be something worthy in sharing this information....either for others to learn from, or perhaps, something for me to learn.
I said it has happen twice. So, it involved me talking with two different women I found attractive at different times. I was not trying to make a relationship connection simultaneously. I don't believe in playing with women like that. But both of these instances happen on here.
I partake in a lot of blog activity and a lot of what I do is just playful banter (I would at least consider it that anyway). These two women I speak of I did meet off of the blogs here and both of them were well aware of my previous blog activity...and with whom. Both of these women, after we have had some continued deep semi-personal to personal dialogue together trying to establish and build a relationship, asked if I had any private conversations with certain other bloggers. Being the honest guy I am, I told the truth...which was yes..and I provided them with the current status of our private conversations and their overall nature....whether if it were something serious going on or just as friends. In both cases, it was just as friends private messaging and messaging that had not happen for at least 6 months.
That was all true and honest information I had provided these two ladies. However, the ladies I had friends only conversations with were also attractive women. Let's face it, both men and women know if somebody is attractive or not...whether it be a man or a woman being appraised for their looks. In both cases when I was honest with these two ladies....they both convicted me of having some sort of love fest...I suppose for a lack of a better way of describing it...with these other women that they inquired about. All of my words of honesty fell on deaf ears with them, and any attempt to further along our attempt at a relationship stopped right there.
My take on this situation....is....thankfully I learned this about them before getting too far involved in their lives.
Am I missing something here?
PS...I do know that some people have been cheated on in their past and they carry that with them into the next potential relationship, so they might be very sensitive when it comes to a potential partner having any sort of contact with an attractive opposite sex individual. I can understand that and sympathize with that. However, honesty is the best policy...in my opinion. Perhaps they need some additional time being single to sort out their insecurities?
Am I missing something here?