Imagination running riot?
I now take paying guests and I've had one here for a couple of weeks now and I might be turning into one of those slightly batty types who think every man who greets them politely is about to attack them, or something. He's charming, attractive, and very attentive. He's always been chatty but when my buddy was here it was impossible to avoid him because we were sitting out most of the time, and we both teased him a bit. Beginning to wish we hadn't.He's really younger - mid 30s. So it's ridiculous to think he is chatting me up and I know that. But every time I go onto the terrace to have a cig he appears 2 seconds later and wants to talk and talk and talk and I eventually have to make an excuse and go back inside because he doesn't stop talking otherwise and it isn't just a guy talking to a wise old owl, it's - well, put it this way, if he was 20 years older, this would be a very different kind of blog. If I mentioned it at all.
I do know lots of men literally can't stop themselves flirting with any female between 10 and 100, it's a reflex and they don't know how to talk to women without flirting. Also some men would quite cheerfully take on a dotty old broad temporarily if there was a profit in it, or he really could quite literally be a bit lonely and would rather practice his English than his Spanish (neither is his home language). He could even think I am as funny and good company as he keeps telling me I am. However, the more he says it, the more I think hmm, really?
The upshot is that I am sitting inside rather than enjoying my own cool terrace in this crashing heat and yes the advice I have been given is set better ground rules with the next long-stay guest, or lock off part of the terrace for myself, and I will, next time. But I have 10 days still to get through and whether I'm an idiot or not, I feel uncomfortable and I don't know what to do about it.
And I shall probably delete this blog, by the way. It embarrasses me.
Comments (95)
Good luck.
In regard to zone area's that should of been done from the start.
It's very understandable as to why you feel uncomfortable..He may have a thing for you enjoy the ride.
No wait! How old is he again?!?
If he was 10 years younger or less, oh I would know it was a straight flirt and enjoy it thoroughly!
Life is for living
I mean if you were staying in a place where the owner had been friendly and she was suddenly locking herself indoors and avoiding you? But no matter how firmly I make the conversation friendly he defaults to flirt, and I know some men have a problem talking normally to women, that doesn't make it any better
Eh hello Biff, but there is no blue here
So me is beginning to think perhaps you are a little batty after all
But just a little though
Traditional to sweet-talk the landlady to get more dumplings in your soup, maybe that is all it is and I'm being thick so he is over-egging to a dangerous degree
Got to go and do thread with care concerning that fella
JJ, I'll break out the whisky now and report back tomorrow
I don't think you should second-guess yourself. Our gut instincts are usually correct - take that to heart and do what feels good for you.
On the bright side you only have ten days can you imagine what it would be like if it were a year's lease? On the bad side you still have ten days.
On the age difference, so what who cares? If it were me and I were to have the need or desires, then I would have a couple of drinks while he chats and see where it goes, after all there is a benefit to having only ten days.
That is probably how others perceived you when you were writing that other book
Molly
Daears
I now have visions of myself leering subconsciously at shoppers in the local supermarket I do tend to avoid the whole world when I am living in my head
Give him indepth details of your amorous encounters (and make them all with younger men around his age )
His reaction should be priceless