Theory: Women should be clear, men should not
Scenario - They are watching TV at his house. Woman rubs her shoulders, mmm, I’m cold. Man nods, yup, it is quite cold, and carries on watching TV. Eventually she gets up in a huff, finds a blanket, then sulks because he doesn’t care about her. He is completely bewildered.Theory - women should be clear. If she wants a blanket, she should say mmm, I’m cold, could you get me a blanket? He will. Men are nice, but not automatically caring.
Scenario - he comes back home after a really bad day and collapses in a chair. Honey, would you get me a coffee? She says (or maybe just thinks) huh, what did your last slave die of? You think your day was so bad? Etc.
Theory - men should not be clear. If he wants cossetting and sympathy, he should say only ‘I’ve had a terrible day’ and then stare into space looking stressed. Her natural nurturing will kick in, she will bring him a coffee, even give him a shoulder rub (or any other little service which might cheer him up) because her protective caring instincts have been aroused. Women are nice, when not belligerent.
Just a theory, and not mine, but I thought it had legs.
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Scenario1
I would not need to say "I'm cold" nor get a blanket because I have a better warmer sitting next to me.
Scenario2
I would serve him coffee even before he asked for it.
I don't know anything about hints. If I am cold I sit on his lap and let him make me warm. Geesus, I don't want to be in a relationship to get a blanket to keep me warm.
I usually put my legs on his lap and say they are hurting. How else does one deal with a man?
If he had a tough day, I get him the foot bath, towel, and his slippers, while I make him a coffee or a tea. The secret is, no one should ask/tell me to do anything. I never do. Not any nurturing instincts or lack of it. I am just stubborn.
I must find a youtube thing I saw, a comedian talking about women liking to put their legs over their man's. He reckons it's the reason men all need walking sticks as they get older, because the blood supply to their feet was stopped so often
afternoon Biff
I can not expect anybody reading my mind...
Now tell me about that operation?
Kidding.
It was more a scenario (not a very good one) to show why men and women are often puzzled by each other's reactions, because we think and react differently. Men know they like clarity on expectations. Women know they don't like being told to do what they would otherwise have done automatically.
I have done the mistake to expect mind reading in the past...
We do communicate in a different way indeed...
I think I've learnt my lesson and to be honest I like to be the one that shows care without questions...or counting who's turn it was...
All good Biff, thanks.
oh, long short story, (fibula broken ).and it was a woman's fault.